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To be so bloody happy to have another BOY on the way

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blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:41

Lighthearted thread

But I see so many threads with gender disappointment towards having a boy

My reasons for being over the moon for DS#2 in my tummy....,,

I will remain queen of my house (bar the dogs!)
Boys adore their mummies
Less emotions to manage
Less pink and glitter hopefully 🤣
Brothers
Dirty knees and climbing trees and rough and tumble

I'm just here for it all

What are your reasons if you love being a boy mum like me?

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GneissGuysFinishLast · 26/04/2023 22:35

Questionquestionqu · 26/04/2023 22:32

I have one of each and I love them both the same, as they love me the same. Find this #boymum thing deeply irritating.
I think it's lovely to celebrate boys, too often on here there are negative posts about having sons. But boys are not superior to girls. Children are all individuals with their own wants and needs, skills and abilities. Putting children into neat boxes based on sex is wrong.

Exactly.

I’ve got one of each.

They are completely different from each other.

This is because they are … y’know, like, different people and all that.

Not because one has a penis and one has a vagina.

Nodancingshoes · 26/04/2023 22:36

I do think that, generally speaking, being a mum of just boys is a different experience than being a mum of just girls. I found the early years harder with my boys than my friend with girls did. However now we are in the teenage years, my life is way easier than hers!!! I always wanted girls and I got 2 boys - I couldn't be happier with this now but I'm sure I would have felt the same the other way around! Congrats on your little baby boy 💙

Hawkins003 · 26/04/2023 22:38

Cantthinkofaname2203 · 26/04/2023 19:43

I know you said lighthearted but your post embodies all the reasons people have gender disappointment.

can you articulate why you are happy to be having a boy without resorting to gender stereotypes?

How can society not have the stereotypes, ? Otherwise your bending reality vs magical thinking ? E.g. Reality that most boys prefer x activities and most girls prefer y activities, there maybe some in the middle.

bamboonights · 26/04/2023 22:39

I know you can't really generalise hit being a person who couldn't imagine life with a boy (all girls in our family) I couldn't have had more love and affection than from my son. Absolutely adore him. Daughter was a tomboy so might aswell have had two boys 🤷‍♀️😁

Peppadog · 26/04/2023 22:43

OP I totally get you. As a 'boy mum' (hate that term) who was shown sympathy, SYMPATHY during my last pregnancy with my healthy boy, who has been asked constantly if I'll try for a girl, who's been told they will leave me when they grow up, that I'm 'outnumbered'.
It's all so irritating. I don't think OP is criticising girls, just celebrating boys and who cares if it's a bit cringy, everyone needs to lighten up.

OP I have 3 boys and so far it has been fabulous. Better than I could ever have expected. My eldest is very sensitive and emotional and I encourage that, but he is also quite straightforward and there is zero friendship drama, which is one area that does seem to be quite gendered. Any woman who tells me girls don't have more friendship issues clearly wiped out their memory from school.

I would have loved either sex, I genuinely didnt care, and maybe one day I'll have a fab girl too to join the gang, but nothing wrong with celebrating boys for a change.

PickoftheMix · 26/04/2023 22:43

Coffeeandbourbons · 26/04/2023 22:09

Enjoy your lovely baby boy OP and don’t listen to nasty bat shittery like the post above. This is an awful thread full of awful people.

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No, disagreeing with stereotypical nonsense about boys does not make people "bad shit," it means it's 2023, and this kind of bullshit no longer sits within today's society.

I have one of each, so don't speak from either way re: parent of boy/girls, so no bitterness there.

Forfrigz · 26/04/2023 22:44

Boys are less emotional has me rolling around. Is anger not an emotion 😂 also I work in early years and the majprity of the tantrums/tears are from boys

Neverquitehappy · 26/04/2023 22:44

All I’m reading is ‘boy mums’ saying how different a relationship is with a son than a daughter. Or how boys are more loving/easier because my friends, neighbours, aunties sister had 5 and had a worse time than me.

With respect, how the fuck could you know? 😂 I can assure you if you had/ever have daughters as well as your sons you’d be saying ‘I love them equally, they are equal!’

ireallycantthinkofaname · 26/04/2023 22:47

the whole 'boy mums' thing is vomit-inducing honestly
petition for #mumofahuman to be a thing; boys can like pink, and nail varnish, and unicorns, as much as girls. Girls can like dinosaurs and climbing trees and hot wheels. Hey, who's to say a child can't wear pink nail polish WHILST climbing a tree?! GASP the horror

PickoftheMix · 26/04/2023 22:49

Forfrigz · 26/04/2023 22:44

Boys are less emotional has me rolling around. Is anger not an emotion 😂 also I work in early years and the majprity of the tantrums/tears are from boys

Oh yes, and at parties when they're in primary school, it was usually the boys who screamed/screeched the loudest over the girls 😆

GneissGuysFinishLast · 26/04/2023 22:50

ireallycantthinkofaname · 26/04/2023 22:47

the whole 'boy mums' thing is vomit-inducing honestly
petition for #mumofahuman to be a thing; boys can like pink, and nail varnish, and unicorns, as much as girls. Girls can like dinosaurs and climbing trees and hot wheels. Hey, who's to say a child can't wear pink nail polish WHILST climbing a tree?! GASP the horror

Didn’t you know the penis is used to help them climb trees? Girls can’t climb trees because they lack a penis. The penis wraps round the branches. Can’t do it without the penis.

isitshe · 26/04/2023 22:50

blueberry23 · 26/04/2023 19:52

@Sissynova no you're misunderstanding 🤣 I mean that the mother/son relationship is such a special one and I find my DS and nephews to be so loving and protective towards their mothers. I think it's lovely 😊 of course I'm not saying girls don't love their mums. It's just different. No need to take offence :)

How do you know it's different if you don't have a girl?
If you ever do have a girl in the future I hope you think back to this thread and cringe a little.
Oh, and YABU for using the word 'tummy'.

Cherrysherbet · 26/04/2023 22:50

Congratulations op! I’m happy for you.

You've certainly ruffled a few feathers on here though!

Misspacorabanne · 26/04/2023 22:50

Op is just saying she’s happy to have another boy! People saying don’t stereotype them, they all have their own personalities and shouldn’t be put in neat boxes, they do, but are you really telling me when you found out you were expecting a girl you didn’t at one point think of the things you could do with that girl that a boy may not enjoy as much? Are you telling me you didn’t buy pink clothes or paint the nursery in stereotypical girly colours? Did you think of dolls houses, toy prams and many other things many girls (yes boys too) but many girls enjoy playing with?? Come on, OP can do the same, it doesn’t mean she’s stereotyping, I’m sure like many others, the op will except her son for who he is, and who he will be in the future, his likes dislikes.

SoupDragon · 26/04/2023 22:52

I have 2 sons and a daughter. There's really very little difference between them. To say that boys "love their mummies" differently to girls is nonsense.

the only thing that's probably right from the list in the OP is the emotions and that's only because of PMT!

I mean that the mother/son relationship is such a special one and I find my DS and nephews to be so loving and protective towards their mothers. I think it's lovely 😊 of course I'm not saying girls don't love their mums. It's just different.

as someone with both mother/son and mother/daughter relationships I can tell you this is rubbish 😂

Son's are indeed great but they really aren't any different to daughters.

TheHandmaiden · 26/04/2023 22:53

I approve - you are not unreasonable. Its women like you who keep those regressive feminists on their toes.

Breed more boys.

Yours, the Handmaiden

GneissGuysFinishLast · 26/04/2023 22:54

Misspacorabanne · 26/04/2023 22:50

Op is just saying she’s happy to have another boy! People saying don’t stereotype them, they all have their own personalities and shouldn’t be put in neat boxes, they do, but are you really telling me when you found out you were expecting a girl you didn’t at one point think of the things you could do with that girl that a boy may not enjoy as much? Are you telling me you didn’t buy pink clothes or paint the nursery in stereotypical girly colours? Did you think of dolls houses, toy prams and many other things many girls (yes boys too) but many girls enjoy playing with?? Come on, OP can do the same, it doesn’t mean she’s stereotyping, I’m sure like many others, the op will except her son for who he is, and who he will be in the future, his likes dislikes.

Of course it’s stereotyping. What else is it, other than to assume your child’s interests based on their genitals. It’s literally the definition of stereotyping so don’t come here claiming it’s something else.

And of course everyone does it. It doesn’t mean it’s right though, does it?

Im making a conscious effort to try to raise my two kids similarly. Does my daughter live in a vomit of pink glitter? Yes. Does she love getting muddy and doing science? Also yes.

pillsthrillsandbellyache · 26/04/2023 22:54

Coffeeandbourbons · 26/04/2023 22:09

Enjoy your lovely baby boy OP and don’t listen to nasty bat shittery like the post above. This is an awful thread full of awful people.

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I read this in the voice of Tubbs

MrMucker · 26/04/2023 22:54

OP I'm just concerned you believe the baby is developing in your tummy. ..

Tekkentime · 26/04/2023 22:54

PickoftheMix · 26/04/2023 22:49

Oh yes, and at parties when they're in primary school, it was usually the boys who screamed/screeched the loudest over the girls 😆

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Yes the screeching was always boys for me too! I recently went swimming and the only child who couldn't stop squealing at other kids while playing was a boy.

Oysterbabe · 26/04/2023 22:54

Are you telling me you didn’t buy pink clothes or paint the nursery in stereotypical girly colours? Did you think of dolls houses, toy prams and many other things many girls (yes boys too) but many girls enjoy playing with??

Yes, I can't tell you catagorically that I did not do that.

SoupDragon · 26/04/2023 22:55

Misspacorabanne · 26/04/2023 22:50

Op is just saying she’s happy to have another boy! People saying don’t stereotype them, they all have their own personalities and shouldn’t be put in neat boxes, they do, but are you really telling me when you found out you were expecting a girl you didn’t at one point think of the things you could do with that girl that a boy may not enjoy as much? Are you telling me you didn’t buy pink clothes or paint the nursery in stereotypical girly colours? Did you think of dolls houses, toy prams and many other things many girls (yes boys too) but many girls enjoy playing with?? Come on, OP can do the same, it doesn’t mean she’s stereotyping, I’m sure like many others, the op will except her son for who he is, and who he will be in the future, his likes dislikes.

I didn't do those things. I thought "fuck! I don't know what to do with a girl!" Of course I did know what to do with a girl as it's the same as I did with boys.

Sceptre86 · 26/04/2023 22:55

I'm glad you are having whst you want. Personally I'm lucky enough to have 3dc and I've never had a gender preference. Coming from an asian background there is still more of a bias towards boys and mothers with views like yours perpetuate it. I have 2 girls and a boy. All 3 are joyous for lots of reasons.

isitshe · 26/04/2023 22:56

Misspacorabanne · 26/04/2023 22:50

Op is just saying she’s happy to have another boy! People saying don’t stereotype them, they all have their own personalities and shouldn’t be put in neat boxes, they do, but are you really telling me when you found out you were expecting a girl you didn’t at one point think of the things you could do with that girl that a boy may not enjoy as much? Are you telling me you didn’t buy pink clothes or paint the nursery in stereotypical girly colours? Did you think of dolls houses, toy prams and many other things many girls (yes boys too) but many girls enjoy playing with?? Come on, OP can do the same, it doesn’t mean she’s stereotyping, I’m sure like many others, the op will except her son for who he is, and who he will be in the future, his likes dislikes.

When I found out I was having a girl (I have both) I thought of dolls and toy prams and thought I really fucking hope she won't like all that shite.

Misspacorabanne · 26/04/2023 22:58

@GneissGuysFinishLast i didn’t say it wasn’t stereotyping! I said it was, and the majority of us do it to some degree! So I didn’t come here claiming it’s something else! 😆