About my behaviour in A&E?

[TheObstinateHeadstrongGirl]

So this morning my DD (9) out of nowhere had an anaphylactic shock. I have no idea what from, she has no allergies. But suddenly she was struggling to breathe and came out in hives in about 2 minutes. So I threw her and DS into the car and drove the 2 minutes to the hospital. DH is abroad for work so I am on my own! I parked in a disabled bay because they’re closest to the hospital and this was an emergency.

Went into A&E, there were 2 desks and one of them had a family there - a teenage girl (the patient from what I overheard) and her mum and dad. I went to the other desk and the doctors came out straight away to get DD. I could hear the dad of the other family moaning about the 2 hour waiting time. DD was struggling to breath inbetween cries of pain because of the hives.

Anyway they gave DD medication straight away and she was very quickly stabilised. However they initially wanted to observe her for a few hours - and are now observing her overnight just in case and will be running tests tomorrow to find out what on Earth she’s reacted to as she did/consumed nothing new this morning, or if it’s possibly immune system related. As you can imagine I was absolutely shitting myself whilst also trying to be a calming force for her, and her brother who was upset at his big sister being so unwell.

Anyway once she was stabilised and under observation, they said she needed spare clothes as they’d removed hers in case it was her clothing 🤷‍♀️ I just happened to have some in the car and thought I really needed to go and re park it anyway

anyway this was maybe an hour after turning up and the family I saw on my way in were still waiting. You have to leave A&E via the reception. The teenage girl patient was flicking through her phone and in no obvious distress. The dad looked at me and loudly said “For fucks sake we were before her and she’s leaving before we’re even seen”.

I just saw red and told him to get fucked I thought my daughter was dying before carrying on to the car to shouts of “you can’t speak to me like that”. He was watching me as I moved the car too as the A&E looks out directly into the car park so saw I’d parked in disabled without a blue badge.

Anyway he complained about me and the doctor told me off about using foul language in A&E and parking in disabled bays without a blue badge I said I’m sorry if it’s made their job more difficult but I’m not sorry for what I said. And that the non-disabled spaces are ages away and to me it was an emergency which is why I parked there. But this bloke was kicking off in reception at this point and taking time up so they obviously weren’t thrilled with me.

But IABU to have behaved the way I did?

DD is fine now BTW and happily watching TV in the children’s ward with my mum next to her, I’m in the canteen going silently between abject worry and total mortification!

Now, now, don't be coming on here with your common sense!

She said at the start "Anyway they gave DD medication straight away and she was very quickly stabilised." Quickly is quickly, not an hour after arriving. She could have moved the car then. And she could have moved the car when her mother arrived. But she didn't. She only moved the car when the doctor said the child needed fresh clothes.

It's all there in the op. Some people's reading comprehension needs serious work.
Arguing against something the op herself has said happened is gloriously bizarre 😂

"Anyway once she was stabilised and under observation, they said she needed spare clothes as they’d removed hers in case it was her clothing 🤷‍♀️ I just happened to have some in the car and thought I really needed to go and re park it anyway."

🤦🏻‍♀️

"Some people's reading comprehension needs serious work." - Finally, you've posted something that's actually correct! 😂

"Anyway once she was stabilised and under observation, they said she needed spare clothes as they’d removed hers in case it was her clothing 🤷‍♀️ I just happened to have some in the car and thought I really needed to go and re park it anyway."

Yes? And what? She was under observation the moment she arrived and stable quickly after that. No part of what you're quoting says OP moved her car because her child was now stable and under observation. It actually says right there that she only decided to move it at that point because she had to go out to the car anyway. It's right there. You quoted it.

The child wasn't still unstable with anaphylaxis after an hour. She would have been in ICU if that was the case. She was given drugs right away and that stopped it.

Sometimes BU is NBU.

You are beyond odd @JohnnyYenSetHimselfOnFireAgain , really, really strange.
Op says her dd was quickly stabilised, and the request for clothes came about an hour later.
I love the way you post complete shite followed by grinning emojis, like you've just had the definitive word on the subject, it's quite entertaining

She stated that once DD was stabilised and under observation she needed to move her car anyway. Why is that so difficult for you to understand?

@JohnnyYenSetHimselfOnFireAgain You are starting to come across as a bit odd.

Several people have said that the OP was everything from completely unreasonable to sort of unreasonable to completely justified in parking in a disabled bay.

Several people have said that the OP was everything from completely unreasonable to sort of unreasonable to completely justified in acting like a fishwife regarding 'passive aggressive random man'.

She posted in AIBU, so was obviously expecting to a variety of responses.

I don't see a problem with any of the responses to her actual question, regardless of whether I agree with them (we're all entitled to our own views about both of the issues in her OP), but I do see a big problem with your reactions to other people.

I'm entertaining? Just listen to yourself! The complete and utter shite that you keep posting is way beyond anyone's comprehension.

Pitiful...

That's not what she said at all. She said after the child was stabilised and under observations, THEY (the DR or nurse) said she needed spare clothes.

The OP did not say after the child was stabilised, she decided to move the car.

That was not why she decided to move the car. It was because of the request for clothes that she decided to move the car.

Just answer me this, @ReadersD1gest , @BadNomad . Had you been in the OP's shoes with a severely sick child in the car in desperate need of medical attention, would you have continued to drive around the hospital car park looking for a parking space instead of parking in an available disabled bay?

Oh, stfu

The cheek of her!!! Wanting to stay with her daughter that just almost DIED. BAD MUM!

OP, why do you think parking in an ambulance bay=wrong, but parking in a disabled bay=right? From the perspective of others, you could still be blocking someone else from accessing medical care regardless of the one you park in. So why do you distinguish between them so strongly?

Ultimately if the hospital staff thought the location of their disabled parking was in such a critical spot, whereby other drivers have to choose between life and death by parking further away, they’d change it. But instead, the staff told you not park there again which suggests it isn’t an issue.

I think in your situation with 2 adults on scene, one of you could have parked whist the other went inside the hospital. Regardless of living close to a hospital too, it could be better to get an ambulance as the paramedics could have stabilised your child earlier etc particularly if it was a matter of urgency between life/death

Oh you’re all fucking mental. If your kid couldn’t breathe and you still wouldn’t park in a disabled bay I would seriously question your parenting.

Exactly!

hopefully it made him think - sounds like you had a very stressful time and that was the tipping point. hopefully they were told people get seen in order. Staff probably were thinking what you sad - but have to use polite language.

Lol you don’t have time for anaphylaxis. She could die waiting for the ambulance.

Who made you thread monitor?
Stfu... 🤣🤣🤣. Is this your first day on the Internet, dear?

I know! How very dare she!! 😂😂😂

Can you answer my question? I'll wait.