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To think F off it’s my business if I take my kids to…

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Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 12:40

Walt Disney world florida.

kids will be both under 5, booked our first family to WDW florida and I’m incredibly excited as can’t wait to go and we got a great deal price wise BUT the reaction is not what I’ve been expecting.

in the travel agent on booking, older woman overheard and felt the need to say it’s absolutely silly taking children that young… I was taken aback

then at work chatting about upcoming holidays met with such reactions as ‘fucking idiots’ and selfish and more money than sense . My boss actually had to sort of intervene because the conversation felt quite heated and aggressive… since when did this become a thing? Why are people so against taking young children to Disney?

totally fine if it’s not your scene but it’s mine and kids under 3 are free so you don’t pay, mine have been to euro Disney twice and loved it . I don’t get this attitude

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whitebreadjamsandwich · 23/04/2023 13:16

Disney holidays are wealth flaunts, which is why it upsets some people

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 23/04/2023 13:17

I have never been, nor would we be able to afford it. I have watched a lot of DFB on youtube (I find the narrator soothing) and it seems very complicated and crowded so would not be a holiday for me as an autistic person. BUT if you want to go, just enjoy it and stop expecting others to be impressed...

Onthegrid · 23/04/2023 13:17

YANBU - your holiday, your choice!
DD1 had her first trip at 18 months and we had an absolutely brilliant time.
DD2 was 27 months and loved it.
They along with us have now been many times and to the other Disney parks around the world and we will be back again this summer with my now adult DDs and some of their younger cousins (one is under 5).

Other peoples opinions on all things are strange at the best of times, but holiday envy can bring out the worst in people. I am fully aware that some of my colleagues (who mostly earn less than £30k) are really struggling with the cost of living crisis and that I am VERY fortunate so I try not to discuss holidays at work.

Oochiewalla · 23/04/2023 13:17

We took our son at 18 months. He doesn’t remember but we have beautiful photos and memories. We took him again at 5, he remembers lots of it. We are going again this year, he’s 9 now and we’re taking his 3 year old brother. We have never encountered any negativity, I would assume jealously tbh.

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Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 13:18

ZenNudist · 23/04/2023 13:09

I suppose they are jealous.

Can you afford to go multiple times?

There's a sweet spot for doing disney young and you aren't in it yet. 6 or7 is a good age to do it where you get the benefit of the "young" things (character dining, meeting the characters). Can't see that the rides are worth it at that age and getting in "free" hahaha, good one. The reason it's free is because the adult costs are steep and the kids aren't getting the benefit.

If you enjoy it then crack on but it's a bit punishing as holidays go. We had a fab time with 8 and 11yo and my now 9yo really wants to go back when he can actually go on the good rides at universal.

Dh family are disney mad and want to go back sooner but we want to go to Japan and some European theme parks before we drop another fortune at universal.

We’ll save to make it happen, if you have flexibility with when you go can get a tui deal for 10 days at around 4k, flights accommodation, tickets and bus transfers. The plan is once now and then in 4 years and then in another 4. You get different experiences each time, once as pre school toddlers, once as primary ages kids and then as young teens but i think then we’d do universal too and maybe stay off site

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ReadersD1gest · 23/04/2023 13:18

Stop telling the world and his wife and you won't have to hear their opinions on it 🤷🏻‍♀️
I doubt anyone really cares enough to have "heated" discussions about it with you 😂

maryberryslayers · 23/04/2023 13:19

Have an amazing time! I can't decide whether to do 3&5 or 4&6, mine would love it either way!
I always say the experiences for them when they are little are for them to enjoy and me to remember.

Duckingella · 23/04/2023 13:19

Jealousy

FictionalCharacter · 23/04/2023 13:19

Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 13:10

the fucking idiots was said with a laugh so it was ‘banter’ and I took the selfish thing as going more for us than the children, but it’s for all of us, we’re allowed enjoyment too. We’ll only really do the rides that they like and we’re staying in one of the extra extra child friendly theme hotels. Plus parents are allows enjoyment too

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I would certainly not be OK with a colleague calling me a fucking idiot whether they passed it off as “banter” or not. Though if it’s a genuinely bantery workplace where you call each other fucking idiots and laugh, I’d hit back at their cruises, and say they’re equally fucking idiots for paying a fortune for a cruise on the MV Norovirus or MV Covid with a load of pensioners in ugly cruisewear, going to cabaret shows featuring failed talent show contestants. Etcetera.

PippaF2 · 23/04/2023 13:19

bellswithwhistles · 23/04/2023 13:15

Complete and utter waste of money - but it's your money you're wasting, not mine!

Bizarre comments from your colleagues though. Is there a a backstory ? ( have you been moaning about the cost of living etc - that would be my guess)

Why? Why is it a complete and utter waste of money?

Boysnme · 23/04/2023 13:19

Our kids were 4 & 6 the first time we went. the youngest still remembers it. It I think that’s because we have been back a few times since. We would try and go every second year then covid hit and we’ve not been since. We have done a couple of other holidays with them since but none have been as enjoyable for any of us and we’ve now come to the conclusion that for now disney is what works for us.

Having priced it up for us to go next year though the costs have spiralled hugely so for some it may well be jealousy.

enjoy your holiday and make the most of it.

MargaretThursday · 23/04/2023 13:20

I remember my first holiday. I was 2.5yo and at Great Yarmouth. Tbf i can't remember much, but Mum took us to see Sooty and Sweep at a theatre with sails on the outside like a windmill. I remember sitting in the seats looking down, bits of the show and outside looking up at the sails as we left.
We didn't go again, so I know it's definitely then, and it hasn't been talked about in the family. I mentioned it to dm a couple of years ago and she was astonished I'd remembered it. Apparently I sat absolutely silent throughout.

saffy56 · 23/04/2023 13:20

I personally wouldn't do it. Holidays with young kids are hard at the best of the times but some people are better at coping with tired grumpy kids than me!!! They won't remember it but your money your choice and nobody should speak to you the way they did. Have a fab time and hope for your sake the kids enjoy it too!!

Sleepyteach · 23/04/2023 13:20

we’ve just come back from Florida with DD (4) and we had the most amazing time, for us she was the perfect age. She had the memory of an elephant so no concerns about her not remembering it! 😂 we used genie plus a lot so minimal queuing which gave us more time for playing in the hotel pool and it wasn’t too hot at Easter (Cold for a couple of days!) a few people were a bit weird about what she’d be like on the flight but she’s flown loads and was good as gold all the way through. She keeps saying “when we go back to Disney…” so I’d better start saving!!

JudgeJ · 23/04/2023 13:20

HistoryFanatic · 23/04/2023 13:04

Maybe be careful with what you discuss at work? Some people could be really struggling and you would be rubbing their faces in it.

Not necessarily the case. When I was still teaching we went to the Sates quite a lot, usually some kind of road trip though we did do Disney a couple of times and I used to get nasty comments in the Staffroom from people on similar salaries to me, it was just that we drove older cars, didn't spend a lot eating out and had a fairly small mortgage because we didn't move for status and when we were in the States we stayed in cheap motels when necessary.

Yummymummy2020 · 23/04/2023 13:21

I can never understand why people get so worked up over other peoples holidays! If we were in a better position financially I would happily bring my toddlers! I wouldn’t mind if they didn’t remember because I would and you will always have photos! I hate to say it op but you work with a load of odd balls if they were that bad over YOUR holiday😂😂😂😂 good luck to you if they hear you nipped into marks and Spencer’s for milk instead of aldi on your way home they will be out for blood then😂 I’m sure your manager was surpised at such a negative reaction too. I think it’s lovely you are going and I hope you enjoy it!

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Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 13:21

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 23/04/2023 13:17

I have never been, nor would we be able to afford it. I have watched a lot of DFB on youtube (I find the narrator soothing) and it seems very complicated and crowded so would not be a holiday for me as an autistic person. BUT if you want to go, just enjoy it and stop expecting others to be impressed...

Not fussed if any is impressed, not fussed if it’s not someone’s cup of tea, we’re all different, for instance I loathe camping but some absolutely love it, but I’d never make a nasty comment about something someone is planning to do. It was just a generic work convo about hols we’ve got planned. We’ve got Turkey this summer (met with oh yeah nice, hot in the summer sort of comments) and then Disney next year and then that when the tone changed

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Scousefab · 23/04/2023 13:21

Sounds like a lot of jealousy if you want to go just go. Take lots of pictures. I went aged six and don’t remember much but the photos I have kind of bring it back. I’m taking my daughter to the Paris one soon she’s aged 8 so will fit on more rides. Disney is about the characters and they have rides aimed at younger children. I think it doesn’t matter what age you go something for everyone. We were booked to take her originally aged 5 had to cancel due to covid.

Flossiemoss · 23/04/2023 13:21

Jealousy. You can take your dc where you want and if you love Disney then that’s a lovely holiday for you.

i think it’s so long since we have been in a proper recession (I know that’s not official figures, but that’s how we all feel), that people have forgotten how to behave about money.

essentially op there was a very good reason why it was always considered impolite to discuss money or what you have. So go enjoy and enjoy the holiday but I wouldn’t be talking about it at work. I’d also consider telling work colleagues very little about my life after this. It is none of their business.

EllenLRipley · 23/04/2023 13:23

Some people have a bizarrely aggressive reaction to Disney and some to the US in general. I often hear people saying they "hate" Americans and ask them if they would say that about any other group - Indians? Chinese people? Arabs? No, they wouldn't. And the Disney hatred is bizarre and says a lot more about them than you.

skyeisthelimit · 23/04/2023 13:24

I would think it is jealousy, but they didn't need to express their nasty opinions.

The DC probably won't remember it, but they will enjoy it at the time and so will you. (DD doesn't remember stuff from when she was 4 or 5).

It's your money, your choice.

StressedToTheMaxxx · 23/04/2023 13:25

Who cares what they'll remember, they'll have so much fun in the here and now! I don't pick activities purely based on the memories, I base it on the present.

Have fun!

Freefall212 · 23/04/2023 13:25

I personally don't brag about vacations at work as we work with a team that has a wide range of salaries depending on their roles and I know some struggle financially just to make it rhough the month and to pay for necessities. I did think it rude when one person was talking about their 15K vacation when you know the person beside you is worried about keeping the heat on or feeding their kids. So it could be that. If you were going on about your 10K+ vacation to people who don't have the means and have struggles you can't understand, then I can see some getting testy. It might have just been tone deaf in the context.

Riapia · 23/04/2023 13:26

Doesn’t matter if they remember it or not.
It’ll all be there on SM for them to enjoy when they are older.
All the smiles and laughter without the tantrums and arguments.
Much nicer than the real thing.

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Disneydisneydisneydisney · 23/04/2023 13:26

ReadersD1gest · 23/04/2023 13:18

Stop telling the world and his wife and you won't have to hear their opinions on it 🤷🏻‍♀️
I doubt anyone really cares enough to have "heated" discussions about it with you 😂

So I shouldn’t tell the travel agent we booked with where I want to go?

and when asked do I have holidays booked I should lie and pretend other wise? Bit weird but ok? Just to clarify my going to Turkey is ok but America isn’t? My colleague going to NZ for 2 weeks is ok but America isn’t?

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