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To think the media over exaggerate trans women and refugees?

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SleepDreamThinkHuge · 21/04/2023 09:24

I have noticed in the media when trans women and refugees do crimes it is highlighted to such an extent compared to if say men commit rapes. When it is a trans women raping someone it leads to "women being unsafe" and the funny thing is a lot of people doing this faux outrage and pretending they care about women is from some men. It is strange when you hear things like "as a father or mother I worry for my child's safety they are not safe." Ok so what about when most sexual attacks are committed by cis men? You never heard them protest about that.

It is the same with refugees you only hear the bad stories "oh he is gaining the system" "oh a lot of these refugees are rapists." There is no middle ground in both of these issues. Rape/sexual assault gaining the system is done by a minority of all people (black, Asian, White etc..) But when it is refugees or trans men doing crime it is highlighted to such as extent to which other groups that do the same crime e.g. white Brits is less highlighted and outrage is not as much.

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Helleofabore · 21/04/2023 16:10

BoredOfThisMansWorld · 21/04/2023 15:52

Weird to create a poll where two almost diametrically opposite groups are teamed together.

Refugees are by definition vulnerable due to being forced to leave their homes and seek asylum in a foreign country. This may also intersect with other vulnerabilities such as race, being a child, female, not speaking the language of the new country.

Transwomen are not especially vulnerable. Firstly, as males, as a class they are not as vulnerable to the effect of male violence as women, nor as likely to be raped, nor can they get pregnant from rape. Stats show transwomen are a very safe demographic in the UK. As males they are economically and structurally advantaged.

Second, the term has been broadened to the extent that it no longer refers to dysphoric homosexual males driven to surgery after being subjected to homophobic and sexist upbringings. Historically, most women felt sympathy for these transwomen, even if on reflection they realise they were never asked for consent re space sharing. These transwomen are vulnerable in the same way gay, effeminate or insufficiently macho men are. The term "transwomen" now is just as likely to refer to a straight male who may or may not engage in degrees of stereotyped dressing, hormones or fake tits. These transwomen are not especially vulnerable. Many transition minimally and after fathering kids and reaping the rewards of a male pattern career.

Transwomen as a class keep the physical, economic and structural benefits of being male, with the added benefit of a rights movement that bypassed the grass-roots stage and went straight to the boardrooms, civil service and political parties.

Refugees have.... absolutely none of that. They leave their families behind, risk their lives and use their savings to get here, and end up, if they're lucky, being housed in flats full of mould in crime-ridden concrete jungles. They may have been a professional in their previous life but now might be prevented from working.

Re the media, you may be interested to learn that it was trans lobby groups who insisted that transwomen are referred to as women when reporting about crimes (which they commit at same rate as any other male, quite obviously!) This leads to the clickbait headlines. Nobody has the energy to read about all the violence committed by men, but see "woman exposes herself/ rapes / murders/ kidnaps" and you're so surprised that you have to click.

It is forced teaming. It is about placing trans people in the same level of vulnerability and need as refugees. (of course, there will be a small intersection of some refugees being trans people too).

I believe the OP has attempted to portray concerns that women have as being 'faux outrage'. I think they also forget that there is numerous events and articles relating to male violence still.

I also think that they are dismissing the fact that most women now understand quite well that males with trans identities are still male and that male people do not change their propensity to commit sex crimes if they transition. In fact, they seem to be either unaware or are deliberately dismissive of the actual numbers of these male individuals in UK prisons currently for sex related crime or have histories of sex related crimes.

It is always dismissed as 'a few bad ones.'

No. It is about the fact that we know that there is the same % at least of these males with this risk of sex crime, yet women have been told that they must accept them into single sex spaces.

The end result is that this increases the risk to all female people using those spaces. This is the reality that is being shown with the statistics and the new articles.

This is the reality that this OP wishes to dismiss and distract away from with this thread.

lifeturnsonadime · 21/04/2023 16:15

This is the reality that this OP wishes to dismiss and distract away from with this thread.

I also think that the OP is attempting to scold women for their concerns for women's rights. The false teaming seems deliberate to me, it seems to suggest that people who are concerned for women rights are likely to have racist views about refugees.

We've seen it elsewhere, it's a suggestion that being pro-women's rights to safe spaces is a far right position.

TheHoover · 21/04/2023 16:28

Transwomen as a class keep the physical, economic and structural benefits of being male, with the added benefit of a rights movement that bypassed the grass-roots stage and went straight to the boardrooms, civil service and political parties.

Do you have any evidence for this absurd statement eg statistics on transgender in the workplace, socio-economic analysis etc?

Fieldofgreycorn · 21/04/2023 16:33

A recent Swedish study showed that trans identifying males commit crimes at a higher rate than other males, so it's not "exaggeration", merely a demographic trend that should not be ignored.

No it didn’t. The Swedish study from 2011 found the crime rate was similar between male-to-females and non trans males, not higher. In people who transitioned over 30 years ago before 1989.

It also found female-to-males (trans men) committed crime at a higher rate than women and similar to men.

https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0016885

Long-Term Follow-Up of Transsexual Persons Undergoing Sex Reassignment Surgery: Cohort Study in Sweden

Context The treatment for transsexualism is sex reassignment, including hormonal treatment and surgery aimed at making the person's body as congruent with the opposite sex as possible. There is a dearth of long term, follow-up studies after sex reassig...

https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0016885

HatThatWearsYou · 21/04/2023 16:34

TheHoover · 21/04/2023 16:28

Transwomen as a class keep the physical, economic and structural benefits of being male, with the added benefit of a rights movement that bypassed the grass-roots stage and went straight to the boardrooms, civil service and political parties.

Do you have any evidence for this absurd statement eg statistics on transgender in the workplace, socio-economic analysis etc?

What is absurd about that post? It all seems fairly self evident to me.

TheHoover · 21/04/2023 16:37

What is absurd about that post? It all seems fairly self evident to me.

Well it neatly fits the gc narrative but it’s actually load of guff; non-trans up to 15x more likely to be hired at interview than trans; 35% pay gap etc etc.

Sillybanana · 21/04/2023 16:40

Ewww “cis”. I stopped listening when you used that word.

FourTeaFallOut · 21/04/2023 16:49

Sillybanana · 21/04/2023 16:40

Ewww “cis”. I stopped listening when you used that word.

Quite. Cis : how to tell the world you have handed in your rationality card to get a gold star from an ideology which is inherently misogynistic and homophobic in three letters.

Verv · 21/04/2023 16:51

AdamRyan · 21/04/2023 14:20

See I don't agree. SRS is a brutal and invasive surgery and doesn't always have good outcomes, so i don't think we should be pressuring people with gender dysphoria to have it to "prove" their trans status.

I think we should strengthen sex based exemptions in the EA for things like rape support, DVshelters, prisons, hospitals

And be mindful to keep the social contract where males in other spaces are there by permission and can be challenged. Toilets, changing rooms etc. How the male "identifies" is irrelevant, but i do think most women don't care about respectful genuine trans women using those spaces so let's keep the status quo

Obviously the TRAs are pushing for stronger definitions in which case I would say no males in female spaces, even if their penis has been removed

I think that most women do care, but many are afraid to say it out of fear of backlash, and then theres the vocal "ally" camp who willingly refer to themselves as a subset of their own sex class while seeking approval from the TRA.

The SRS comment was only semi serious. The idea of it would certainly weed out the cosplayers.

HatThatWearsYou · 21/04/2023 16:51

TheHoover · 21/04/2023 16:37

What is absurd about that post? It all seems fairly self evident to me.

Well it neatly fits the gc narrative but it’s actually load of guff; non-trans up to 15x more likely to be hired at interview than trans; 35% pay gap etc etc.

Have you got any sources for that please? - Genuine request.

What about the rest though?
You don't think that transwomen as a class keep
The physical benefits that come with male development?
What about the structural benefits of being male?
What about this bit with the added benefit of a rights movement that bypassed the grass-roots stage and went straight to the boardrooms, civil service and political parties.

Fieldofgreycorn · 21/04/2023 16:58

Recent data from HM prison service and ONS show a higher sexual offending rate in trans identified males compared to the rest of the population, so I can fully understand why there's a spotlight on the situation regarding placing them in the female estate, whether thats hostels refuges or prisons.

No it doesn’t show that. Every reputable analysis says you can’t draw that conclusion from the data. Many of them identify as trans after arrest. Most of them have never been placed in the female estate.

I don’t deny that now ‘trans’ or ‘trans woman’ can pretty much mean anything, it could practically mean ‘any man’. That’s very different to want most of us know as genuine male to female transsexuals. They still exist. There’s no evidence that they pose a significant threat.

There are women, some of whom are lesbians and not trans, in prison for sexually assaulting young girls. You can find lots in the news. But you don’t want to talk about them.

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/female-pe-teacher-admits-sex-6708066

https://www.irishmirror.ie/news/world-news/lesbian-tricked-schoolgirls-having-sex-11994722

https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/8072581/kelli-vassallo-basketball-coach-sex-assault-girl-13/

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10868439/Female-Op-shop-worker-25-jailed-two-years-grooming-teenage-girl-having-sex.html

Female teacher admits sex acts with two girls who were all found in bed together

Sandrine Brown, 31, has pleaded guilty to one count of inciting a child to engage in sexual activity and five counts of sexual activity with a child

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/female-pe-teacher-admits-sex-6708066

Rainbowshit · 21/04/2023 17:18

Fieldofgreycorn · 21/04/2023 16:58

Recent data from HM prison service and ONS show a higher sexual offending rate in trans identified males compared to the rest of the population, so I can fully understand why there's a spotlight on the situation regarding placing them in the female estate, whether thats hostels refuges or prisons.

No it doesn’t show that. Every reputable analysis says you can’t draw that conclusion from the data. Many of them identify as trans after arrest. Most of them have never been placed in the female estate.

I don’t deny that now ‘trans’ or ‘trans woman’ can pretty much mean anything, it could practically mean ‘any man’. That’s very different to want most of us know as genuine male to female transsexuals. They still exist. There’s no evidence that they pose a significant threat.

There are women, some of whom are lesbians and not trans, in prison for sexually assaulting young girls. You can find lots in the news. But you don’t want to talk about them.

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/female-pe-teacher-admits-sex-6708066

https://www.irishmirror.ie/news/world-news/lesbian-tricked-schoolgirls-having-sex-11994722

https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/8072581/kelli-vassallo-basketball-coach-sex-assault-girl-13/

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10868439/Female-Op-shop-worker-25-jailed-two-years-grooming-teenage-girl-having-sex.html

Which reputable analysis says that you can't draw that conclusion?

I agree that some are not genuine, and trans after arrest to take advantage of the loophole that might allow them to be housed in the female estates. This nicely highlights the risks of self ID that feminists were told were not valid concerns, that bad actors would take advantage. We were told no male would ever do that, we were told they were all genuine, acceptance without exception. So which is it? Either way it's clear they shouldn't be in the female estate.

And you've just done what the OP was complaining about. Using cherry picked examples of female sec offenders to tarnish all females.

Except if you look at the actual stats the number of female sex offenders is so minute compared to males.

GailBlancheViola · 21/04/2023 17:49

Of course they should. I believe there should be safe spaces for both women and trans people. Both can have different sex spaces one for solely women and the other for trans people.

Not 'safe' spaces just plain old single sex spaces that are just that single sex and exclude all people of the opposite sex irrespective.

The figures regarding the breakdown of prisons population by sex crimes do not bear out your claim that the threat of TW committing sex crimes is over exaggerated. The number of TW in prison is small, however, the number of them incarcerated for sex crimes is high.

FOJN · 21/04/2023 17:51

I don’t deny that now ‘trans’ or ‘trans woman’ can pretty much mean anything, it could practically mean ‘any man’. That’s very different to want most of us know as genuine male to female transsexuals. They still exist. There’s no evidence that they pose a significant threat.

The problem is proving which transwomen pose a threat. Nicola Sturgeon was undone by a man in a pair of pink leggings after she had tried to force through a legislative change which would have had him legally recognised as a woman. Supporters of the bill were then unable or refused to name the gender identity of the man in question and so he became "a rapist" or "the individual".

There is no way of proving who is genuine and who is not so you cannot say that there is no evidence that transexuals do not pose a threat because they've been lumped together with the chancers in the name of inclusivity, I'm sure they are delighted, and it's why some of us now think that there should be no males in women's spaces however they identify.

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 21/04/2023 17:51

Verv · 21/04/2023 14:05

If we're of a mind for compromising (which I am not) I would add SRS to the list of requirements.

Something like 98-99% of trans identified males choose to retain their penis, so I think gender reassignment surgery would serve to sort some of the bad faith men from those with "genuine" gender dysphoria. It would also eliminate the (quite literal) tool that enables the rape of women whose spaces are occupied.

The issue with that though is what about trans women who can't have the surgery for health reasons? I knew a trans woman, who as far as I'm aware given the level of their health problems and disabilities, would never have been able to have the surgery.

It's like the argument I've seen some make - oh it's ok if they pass. Lots of trans women will never pass. Physically not possible for some.

Some things can be split by gender, in some situations. More need to stay based on sex - and I'd be all for a third space.

Fieldofgreycorn · 21/04/2023 18:50

Which reputable analysis says that you can't draw that conclusion?

eg https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-42221629

I agree that some are not genuine, and trans after arrest to take advantage of the loophole that might allow them to be housed in the female estates. This nicely highlights the risks of self ID that feminists were told were not valid concerns, that bad actors would take advantage. We were told no male would ever do that, we were told they were all genuine, acceptance without exception. So which is it?

No we were told some would do exactly that as long ago as 2015 (I think) by James Barrett from the gender identity service Charing Cross in a submission to the women and equal committee.

And you've just done what the OP was complaining about. Using cherry picked examples of female sec offenders to tarnish all females.

Of course. To prove that’s how easy it is to do. That’s the point.

Except if you look at the actual stats the number of female sex offenders is so minute compared to males.

Yes. But what about looking at the rate of sex offending amongst lesbians against female children compared to heterosexual women? You can use statistics to prove all sorts of things.

An anonymous female prison officer locks a door at Wormwood Scrubs

How many transgender inmates are there?

Reality Check looks at claims around transgender prisoners and their convictions.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-42221629

SashaPearce · 21/04/2023 19:06

Verv · 21/04/2023 10:25

I would suggest that the reason there has been an increase in reporting on crime committed by trans identified males, is that they're now being accurately reported rather than "Woman arrested for..."
Recent data from HM prison service and ONS show a higher sexual offending rate in trans identified males compared to the rest of the population, so I can fully understand why there's a spotlight on the situation regarding placing them in the female estate, whether thats hostels refuges or prisons.

I don't think refugees are remotely comparable tbh.

Recent data from HM prison service and ONS show a higher sexual offending rate in trans identified males compared to the rest of the population

Please can you link to the data? Your statement here is ambiguous so I’d like to make sure I’m understanding correctly. Does the data show a higher rate of offending in comparison to the rate of the entire non-trans population (which includes women, so in that case it’s not surprising that the rate would be lower), or in comparison to the offending rate of non-trans-identified males?

JuvenileEmu · 21/04/2023 19:34

HatThatWearsYou · 21/04/2023 15:00

I think it's particularly telling that the OP didn't add the very real stirring of hatred towards women recently.

Just some pro-TRA rhetoric and force teaming trans with refugees.

Yes, the conflation of media treatment of refugees with that of transwomen is the kind of thing TRAs do like to do. It's dishonest and in bad faith, but those are the only arguments they have.

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Helleofabore · 21/04/2023 23:07

SashaPearce · 21/04/2023 19:06

Recent data from HM prison service and ONS show a higher sexual offending rate in trans identified males compared to the rest of the population

Please can you link to the data? Your statement here is ambiguous so I’d like to make sure I’m understanding correctly. Does the data show a higher rate of offending in comparison to the rate of the entire non-trans population (which includes women, so in that case it’s not surprising that the rate would be lower), or in comparison to the offending rate of non-trans-identified males?

The data is compiled from the census data and the MOJ statistics on trans identified prisoners who are of the male sex.

However, even before the census came out there was hand sorted data from women’s groups manually mining the data and sorting the male with trans identities out using court records and media reports etc. So the numbers for crimes committed by these males are accurate. And even when using the estimated population segment from stonewall in the past the rate was at least equal to all males.

It has never been anywhere close to female rates of committing sex offenses via estimates and now using the census data or from even the scant studies available. Ever.

DojaPhat · 21/04/2023 23:08

You're right.

SashaPearce · 21/04/2023 23:28

Helleofabore · 21/04/2023 23:07

The data is compiled from the census data and the MOJ statistics on trans identified prisoners who are of the male sex.

However, even before the census came out there was hand sorted data from women’s groups manually mining the data and sorting the male with trans identities out using court records and media reports etc. So the numbers for crimes committed by these males are accurate. And even when using the estimated population segment from stonewall in the past the rate was at least equal to all males.

It has never been anywhere close to female rates of committing sex offenses via estimates and now using the census data or from even the scant studies available. Ever.

Right, so you’re saying that the rate is around the same as other males, not that it’s notably and consistently higher

Noicant · 21/04/2023 23:57

I think the point about transwomen committing crimes against women is that women are incessantly told that transwomen are just a vulnerable harmless minority so just let them into your bathrooms/prisons/ shelters etc. Whereas they seem to retain male pattern offending so it’s important to understand that they are basically the same as other men in terms of risk to women and children. Not necessarily better or worse just the same.

Noicant · 21/04/2023 23:59

Also refugee men is a different issue, I suspect you added that in to affect the top line vote on AIBU.

AlisonDonut · 22/04/2023 00:08

SashaPearce · 21/04/2023 23:28

Right, so you’re saying that the rate is around the same as other males, not that it’s notably and consistently higher

No it is around 60% compared to 20% for men who do not say they are women.

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