To think other children's snacks are irresponsible?

[cowgirljoey]

The official policy at DS's school (Year 2) is for them to bring a fruit or veg snack from home for break time. This seemed to be what happened when DS was in reception and Year 1, but over time DS tells me that his friends are regularly bringing crisps, chocolate bars and sweets in for their snack(s) and that he is one of the only ones who has fruit/veg each time.

Totally get that this needs fact-checking (I have a few reasons to think is is accurate), but if it is AIBU to think this is something I should contact school about? I don't think it's fair on the kids to be having junk food as a snack, and I've observed myself that lots of them eat barely any of their school lunch, suggesting that they aren't v. hungry at this point (understandable if they've had choc/crisps an hour beforehand). I think that parent are being irresponsible to be giving chocolate as a daily morning snack, but as I have no control over this, AIBU to think that school should be enforcing the fruit/veg policy?

There has been huge change to attitudes towards smoking now that the health implications are well known. This is, in part, due to the introduction of policies making it harder for people to smoke including making it illegal to smoke in a car with children. I guess that means you could report them to the police in certain circumstances.

What flavour?

YABU to contact the school over it.

They should be promoting healthy eating but I’m sure they’re doing the best that they can.

Allow your son to have a treat at home so he’s not missing out but carry on sending him with healthy snacks.

Snickers, please...

Finishing off the malteaster bunnies here

Yes please. I’ve sadly finished all the irresponsible snacks in my house.

Hmm not sure.

Definitely not lemon though, because lemons can clean kitchens and stuff, so that sounds like a pretty responsible flavour to me.

If anyone's going to the shop could I please have two packets of pork scratchings. With extra lard if you can please. Ta.

Yes, but lots of people are smokers, lots of parents are smokers, people smoke in their homes with their children present, its not advisable but people do it

So who is OP reporting those people to?

Its as nonsensical as reporting the irresponsible snacks

No. We have a duty to keep our beaks out and let other people feed their children as they see fit. Some children will eat fruit and vegetables, some won't.

Nothing wrong with the odd KitKat or penguin biscuit as a snack. Nor a packet of crisps.

I'm no fan of the food police, or the school lunchbox police either.

With the exception of enforcing a nut free policy due to allergies, everyone (including schools and other parents) should very much mind their own business.

Do pigs have much responsibility?

I'll do a bit of research on the way, but can't promise anything until I've spoken to a pig farmer.

Oh so based on the policy you'll then start giving your child crisps and chocolate? Just do what you think is right for your own child policy or not!

So your child is the only one having a healthy snack? Really?

Do we not have a responsibility as members of the same community to promote healthy eating habits?

No. People are in charge of their own eating habits. It is absolutely in no way your responsibility to promote healthy eating habits to other adults or their children.

Not the approach I was thinking of. I would ask for clarity on the policy, as I want to check if my DS comments are accurate, and if they are, whether we need to follow the policy or not.

Well exactly. This isn't about your concern for other people's diet, it's about you being annoyed that your ds is following the rules and other people aren't. If you asked the school for clarity on the policy and they said 'Well we encourage it, but we can't actually enforce it', would you then change your own policy and let your ds have chocolate and crisps? Based on your comments so far, I doubt it! So what would your asking for clarification actually achieve?

In that case I'd stop following it. Problem solved.

Welcome to school life - kids and parents break the rules all the time

MYOB

This post is peak MN

Just keep your beak out of other people's business, OP. You'll be happier.

Some rules can be broken, others can't. Isn't that a useful life lesson? Prioritisation, judgement, knowing what's important?

I quite agree but you put it much better than I could have.

I think your son is being a fly wee monkey and is trying to persuade you to give him chocolate or crisps in his snack box. It’s just a different version of teenagers saying but everyone else’s mum lets them. Stick to your guns if it’s that important to you and leave the teachers to check the snack boxes. If they are anything like my grandchildrens teachers they’ll be on the ball with it all.

It is your business if there is a school rule! If it isn’t and there is a free for all then you can’t worry about what anyone else is doing. But if there is a rule then the class teacher should keep to it. It’s really annoying for the other teachers when one class goes rogue.

@NeatCompactSleeper

Pigs are notoriously irresponsible. You try to guide them in the right direction but they just won't be told.

There's no way a little chocolate bar or packet of crisps would stop them eating their lunch. Your child is year 2, he is old enough to understand that different families have different rules. Mind your own business.

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