To think other children's snacks are irresponsible?

[cowgirljoey]

The official policy at DS's school (Year 2) is for them to bring a fruit or veg snack from home for break time. This seemed to be what happened when DS was in reception and Year 1, but over time DS tells me that his friends are regularly bringing crisps, chocolate bars and sweets in for their snack(s) and that he is one of the only ones who has fruit/veg each time.

Totally get that this needs fact-checking (I have a few reasons to think is is accurate), but if it is AIBU to think this is something I should contact school about? I don't think it's fair on the kids to be having junk food as a snack, and I've observed myself that lots of them eat barely any of their school lunch, suggesting that they aren't v. hungry at this point (understandable if they've had choc/crisps an hour beforehand). I think that parent are being irresponsible to be giving chocolate as a daily morning snack, but as I have no control over this, AIBU to think that school should be enforcing the fruit/veg policy?

You parent your child, I will parent mine. ( I don’t send the snacks you mentioned) but always people will do things you don’t agree with and it’s your role to guide your children.

My word. 350 messages on this.

Simple question. "Should you snitch on a primary school kid for eating crisps or chocolate?"

There's no compelling reason for doing something so morally reprehensible as grassing on a child for something so trivial.

It’s none of your business what other children’s parents give them! It’s that simple.

In non-school life, your DS will come across thousands of people who eat junk food. He will need to learn his own habits for what to eat and when. Take it as an opportunity to teach him how to make healthy choices. If that's fruit all week but crisps or a protein bar on a Tuesday because it's a big PE session first thing, then that's surely fine.

You would be acting crazy to act like the food police.

You tell your son what I tell mine when she complains about what I let her wear in her hair...

"it's not my business what other people do. I know the school rules and I am responsible for making sure you follow them. What other people do isn't our concern, we are only responsible for ourselves."

Do you not understand how maybe it's not particularly fair for your child to eat health snacks, as per the rules, and a number of others to have wotsits and KitKat's? Cries of, why can't I have that Mummy, it's not fair! ... Teaches resilience I guess!

Our school purportedly have a “healthy snacks” policy. My DS is incredibly skinny, and fussy to the extent of restricted eating. He simply doesn’t eat fruit if I send him in with it for breaktime. I normally aim for something like malt loaf or flapjack for much needed calories.

I wouldn’t be thrilled if other parents started complaining our snacks aren’t fruit and veg.

(And I still get complaints that “X gets crisps” - I just tell him tough luck, I’m meaner than X’s parents!)

I like this response from @CheersForThatEh "it's not my business what other people do. I know the school rules and I am responsible for making sure you follow them. What other people do isn't our concern, we are only responsible for ourselves."

Life's not fair, there will always be people who will have things which they'd like to have or break the rules. Take solace in the fact that in the end they'll probably be grateful for your efforts to get them to eat healthily rather than shovelling in the crisps and chocolate.

It amuses me to no end when a poster comes on expecting everyone to pat them on the back for something they believe then when people don't agree they disappear. LOL