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littleloopylou · 2023-04-16T20:40:33+00:00

Just found out that the Easter bunny didn't come to my ex's. My child was taken to an Easter event where the bunny had hidden some eggs for many children to find. Ex also mysteriously discovered some eggs in his car that were left by the Easter bunny, a few days after Easter. My child thinks that the Easter bunny forgot them. AIBU to think that ex totally dropped the ball on this?

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 11:42

annonymousmouseinyourhouse · 17/04/2023 11:06

I think the kids waking to a chocolate egg on Easter is standard.

I think the bar is pretty low for that not to have happened. Easter eggs were £1.25 in Tesco. He could have done that if he'd wanted to.

Chocolate egg is standard, the timing, location and delivery varies. He exceeded the bar by taking the child on an outing to hunt for eggs.

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 11:44

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 11:38

How is it 'half arsed' and 'couldn't be bothered to make it fun' to take the child to an organised hunt instead of putting an egg on the end of their bed (or wherever it would be put in a house)?

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It’s rubbish to give your child old sweets/food that’s been in your car for god knows how long because you couldn’t be bothered to buy just one egg. It’s also rubbish to obliterate and not even make any effort to carry on family traditions that the child clearly enjoyed and is upset about not being a part of anymore. I think that’s incredibly half arsed and lazy.

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 11:45

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 11:40

And there’s plenty of people who are saying it is an English tradition/culture. A pretty even split in fact, are those people all wrong too? Perhaps it’s regional, who’s knows but it’s 100% part of English culture and has been around for years and years.

Either way my above comment stands, the EB isn’t relevant really. The lacklustre zero effort parenting from dad is the real issue.

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Did you miss that the child was taken to an Easter event to actually hunt for eggs? Just buying an egg is more lack lustre in my opinion.

MMM2022 · 17/04/2023 11:48

myveryownelectrickitten · 17/04/2023 11:37

Seriously, this thread is eye-popping. Easter bunny is definitely an English tradition. As I said, it was a thing when I was a kid - we made baskets in primary school for the bunny to put eggs in and would be asked at church what the Easter bunny had brought! It was a thing when my parents were kids in the fifties! It goes back centuries in fact! It might originally be German, but then so are Christmas trees and you don’t find people saying they aren’t an English tradition.

Why do all of you think that the shops sell chocolate bunnies and bunny ears and have rabbit pictures up at Easter? Just because you don’t do it doesn’t mean it’s not an English tradition! I’m really all agog at this.

Oh I remember making Easter bonnets in school for a competition. I worked so hard on mine. Clearly the other kids had help lol
Also I know people say oh Santa Claus and Easter bunny are so commercialised etc
but I went to a Christian school and we did Santa/ bunny related things there too…

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 11:48

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 11:45

Did you miss that the child was taken to an Easter event to actually hunt for eggs? Just buying an egg is more lack lustre in my opinion.

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That’s yours, thankfully mine’s different. Carrying on with the whole EB egg hunt thing in the home isn’t lacklustre, child clearly likes this tradition and is upset it’s not continued. No harm in putting them first but maybe my view on parenting is very different to others on this thread.

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 11:51

How is taking a child to an organised Easter egg hunt "lacklustre zero effort"? God knows what you'd make of us as parents, we got an Easter egg out of the cupboard and gave it to DD 🤣

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 11:52

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 11:51

How is taking a child to an organised Easter egg hunt "lacklustre zero effort"? God knows what you'd make of us as parents, we got an Easter egg out of the cupboard and gave it to DD 🤣

I’ve explained above, if you scroll you’ll find it no problem 😉

ZeroPlastic · 17/04/2023 11:53

Why do all of you think that the shops sell chocolate bunnies and bunny ears and have rabbit pictures up at Easter? Just because you don’t do it doesn’t mean it’s not an English tradition! I’m really all agog at this.

I don't think people are saying they have never heard of the Easter Bunny. They're saying that it's not a tradition for the bunny to deliver a big egg to children's homes. If anything, it's more common that the Easter Bunny hides the eggs that you find on a hunt (which is what OP's ex took DC to).

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 11:57

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 11:52

I’ve explained above, if you scroll you’ll find it no problem 😉

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Already read it thanks and you didn't explain, you said your opinion is different. Can you explain what is lacklustre zero effort parenting about researching events that are being held, getting your child ready to go out and transporting them to said event?

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 12:00

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 11:57

Already read it thanks and you didn't explain, you said your opinion is different. Can you explain what is lacklustre zero effort parenting about researching events that are being held, getting your child ready to go out and transporting them to said event?

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You’re welcome, I’ve re-read it and actually I think it does explain my thought process quite clearly. Evidently you don’t agree hence the weird attempts to get me to ‘explain myself’ repeatedly. Thankfully I don’t need your agreement nor particularly care about it 😂

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 12:01

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 11:48

That’s yours, thankfully mine’s different. Carrying on with the whole EB egg hunt thing in the home isn’t lacklustre, child clearly likes this tradition and is upset it’s not continued. No harm in putting them first but maybe my view on parenting is very different to others on this thread.

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The OP only mentioned the EB bringing an egg overnight, no mention of a hunt.

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 12:06

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 12:01

The OP only mentioned the EB bringing an egg overnight, no mention of a hunt.

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She mention an egg is on the way for child to ‘find’ at her house. Presumed that meant child would then go looking for it, like a hunt. Certainly sounds like one.

Tootsweets84 · 17/04/2023 12:08

If you want to do it properly then the 'Easter bunny' (AKA Lepur) lays chicken eggs as she used to be a chicken and she only presents them to those who worship the goddess Ostara. Otherwise, stop making it all into such a huge thing and your child won't be so disappointed when it doesn't all go exactly how she expects. An egg is an egg

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 12:11

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 12:06

She mention an egg is on the way for child to ‘find’ at her house. Presumed that meant child would then go looking for it, like a hunt. Certainly sounds like one.

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It sounded more like find on the kitchen table or in their bedroom to me, a hunt would have small eggs too. Regardless, the father has taken the child to an organised hunt instead, which would take more effort than buying and even hiding one egg. He is allowed to start his own tradition at his house.

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 12:12

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 12:00

You’re welcome, I’ve re-read it and actually I think it does explain my thought process quite clearly. Evidently you don’t agree hence the weird attempts to get me to ‘explain myself’ repeatedly. Thankfully I don’t need your agreement nor particularly care about it 😂

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Just saying you have a different opinion doesn't really reveal much but whatever 😂
And I asked you directly once, which I really don't think constitutes "repeatedly" 😂
I'm going to assume you can't really articulate how taking a child to an Easter egg hunt is lacklustre zero effort parenting. That's ok, I don't think anybody could articulate it tbh.

44PumpLane · 17/04/2023 12:14

OP I have 6.5 yo twins and they staunchly believe in the Easter Bunny....I didn't instill this in them but why would I not want to go along with it?

Kids get to be little for such a short period these days, I am happy for them to believe in magic and legend for as long as they can!

Your ex is a dick.....I think it's fine for your child to call him a liar when he is lying.

Embrace the magic.....it's so lovely while it lasts!

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 12:14

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 12:11

It sounded more like find on the kitchen table or in their bedroom to me, a hunt would have small eggs too. Regardless, the father has taken the child to an organised hunt instead, which would take more effort than buying and even hiding one egg. He is allowed to start his own tradition at his house.

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Sounds like a hunt to me, of course he’s allowed to start his own traditions. Absolutely no one said he isn’t, some effort could be made to keep these in line with what the child likes. Which based on what OP said he hasn’t, which I think is such a shame really.

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 12:15

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 12:12

Just saying you have a different opinion doesn't really reveal much but whatever 😂
And I asked you directly once, which I really don't think constitutes "repeatedly" 😂
I'm going to assume you can't really articulate how taking a child to an Easter egg hunt is lacklustre zero effort parenting. That's ok, I don't think anybody could articulate it tbh.

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Oh friend your lack of basic comprehension skills are not my problem. 😂

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 12:24

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 12:14

Sounds like a hunt to me, of course he’s allowed to start his own traditions. Absolutely no one said he isn’t, some effort could be made to keep these in line with what the child likes. Which based on what OP said he hasn’t, which I think is such a shame really.

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Well a child might also 'find' a stocking on the end of their bed or presents under a tree, so it doesn't imply a hunt to me, not without hunting eggs.

I wonder if the OP made the effort to sound interested in and ask questions about the event that the child was taken to, or if the focus was only on what didn't happened (the one boxed egg appearing at home).

aSofaNearYou · 17/04/2023 12:27

Oh FFS. The child was taken to a nice event, this is more of a treat than many will get on Easter, they are not hard done by.

If you are separated it's best to not make a huge deal about multiple traditions being the "done thing", it will bite you in the arse. Father Christmas is quite enough.

LuckySantangelo35 · 17/04/2023 12:29

WonderingWanda · 16/04/2023 22:39

By the way op, lots of people on this thread are declaring that the Easter Bunny is not a thing and it's all got out of hand in the last few years. I'm in my mid 40's and the Easter Bunny visited my house growing up as he does for my children now.

@WonderingWanda

you do know that the Easter bunny isn’t real don’t you?

jannier · 17/04/2023 12:32

ZeroPlastic · 17/04/2023 09:39

Whereas I've never met a child who believes in it. I wonder whether it's a regional thing.

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Neither have I from age two upwards and I work with them. It's a game we play along with egg and spoon races.

LuckySantangelo35 · 17/04/2023 12:34

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 11:44

It’s rubbish to give your child old sweets/food that’s been in your car for god knows how long because you couldn’t be bothered to buy just one egg. It’s also rubbish to obliterate and not even make any effort to carry on family traditions that the child clearly enjoyed and is upset about not being a part of anymore. I think that’s incredibly half arsed and lazy.

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@Lachimolala

oh give over !

the child got eggs and got to go on a hunt

loads more than plenty of other kids

they are not deprived

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 12:34

aSofaNearYou · 17/04/2023 12:27

Oh FFS. The child was taken to a nice event, this is more of a treat than many will get on Easter, they are not hard done by.

If you are separated it's best to not make a huge deal about multiple traditions being the "done thing", it will bite you in the arse. Father Christmas is quite enough.

I agree. You have to learn to go with the flow and show interest in events and traditions at the other parent's house, not encourage the child think that the other parent is doing it 'wrong' just because it is different from your house. I had/have an abusive ex, thankfully absent now so I know it's difficult. You have to focus on the child though.

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 12:38

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 12:24

Well a child might also 'find' a stocking on the end of their bed or presents under a tree, so it doesn't imply a hunt to me, not without hunting eggs.

I wonder if the OP made the effort to sound interested in and ask questions about the event that the child was taken to, or if the focus was only on what didn't happened (the one boxed egg appearing at home).

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Precisely. You'd think a 7yo taken to an Easter event (presumably for the first time given the context) would enjoy it, not get upset about what didn't happen instead and call their dad a liar.

Either the OP has built the Easter Bunny up so much in their life that it goes beyond even the idea of Father Christmas, or they're bad mouthing the dad in front of them and encouraging the upset.