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littleloopylou · 2023-04-16T20:40:33+00:00

Just found out that the Easter bunny didn't come to my ex's. My child was taken to an Easter event where the bunny had hidden some eggs for many children to find. Ex also mysteriously discovered some eggs in his car that were left by the Easter bunny, a few days after Easter. My child thinks that the Easter bunny forgot them. AIBU to think that ex totally dropped the ball on this?

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 09:24

MeinKraft · 17/04/2023 09:11

It's throwing a few eggs round a garden and lying that a bunny left them there, it's a very very low effort & cost way to create a bit of magic for children. I'm surprised more people don't do it.

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What if you don't have a garden? Can you do it in the house? Presumably it's in the garden as bunnies don't have a method of getting into the house? Serious question as I literally have no idea how it works

Bogofftosomewherehot · 17/04/2023 09:25

Shall we rename this one....

A - "some English people told my DD (aged 2) the EB comes overnight, I've been obliged to do this for another 5 years as I cannot think for myself"

or

B - "my ex is a dick for parenting his way on his time - how dare he!"

or

C - I'm asking if AIBU but don't want to listen to answers that don't agree with me"

or

D - "hey English people - I know you better than you know yourselves"

Which do you think is most appropriate? Answers on a postcard please.
I'm going with A but have to confess that D is the one that pissed me off the most.

BTW, OP, now is the time to stop lying to your DD.

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 09:26

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 09:24

What if you don't have a garden? Can you do it in the house? Presumably it's in the garden as bunnies don't have a method of getting into the house? Serious question as I literally have no idea how it works

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Go to an organised hunt instead? More fun as there are other families there and usually nice surroundings.

ilovesooty · 17/04/2023 09:27

SunnySaturdayMorning · 17/04/2023 08:26

I’ve never heard of this 😂 He’s not a clone of Father Christmas!

I expect you'll be told you're a liar now.

BendingSpoons · 17/04/2023 09:27

We do Father Christmas and the Tooth Fairy. We buy our children Easter Eggs and hunt them in the garden. The Easter Bunny has never been a feature until DD asked me a few days after Easter if the bunny could visit us. From this thread it is clearly a parenting fail.

TheRealShatParp · 17/04/2023 09:29

Bogofftosomewherehot · 17/04/2023 09:25

Shall we rename this one....

A - "some English people told my DD (aged 2) the EB comes overnight, I've been obliged to do this for another 5 years as I cannot think for myself"

or

B - "my ex is a dick for parenting his way on his time - how dare he!"

or

C - I'm asking if AIBU but don't want to listen to answers that don't agree with me"

or

D - "hey English people - I know you better than you know yourselves"

Which do you think is most appropriate? Answers on a postcard please.
I'm going with A but have to confess that D is the one that pissed me off the most.

BTW, OP, now is the time to stop lying to your DD.

🤣🤣🤣

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 09:31

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 09:26

Go to an organised hunt instead? More fun as there are other families there and usually nice surroundings.

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Would that not confuse children who think the Easter bunny is supposed to come to their house though?

Toottooot · 17/04/2023 09:32

You cannot compare the Easter bunny to Suntee Klaas - you just canna.

Blinkingheckythump · 17/04/2023 09:32

I have no idea why so many people are stating that the EB is not a thing in the UK and kids of 7 don't believe in it! Literally every kid I know of that age believe in it

Coolhwip · 17/04/2023 09:35

littleloopylou · 17/04/2023 08:59

😅😅😅

This thread is mad. People are actually arguing that a magical man who gets flown around by reindeer and delivers gifts to c. 1 billion children is more realistic than a chocolate -delivering rabbit!

And yeah, the fact that my kid came home from English nursery believing in said magical rabbit does tell me that the people saying it's not in any way an English tradition are just deluded or wrong.

I'm not taking these replies seriously anymore. A lot of you obviously just want to be mean. Den of vipers indeed.

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This is actually a really valid post.

Atheists lying to their children about Father Christmas is quite ironically amusing.

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 09:37

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 09:31

Would that not confuse children who think the Easter bunny is supposed to come to their house though?

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Well if it's supposed to come to your garden and you don't have one then it would make sense. How would a rabbit get into the house? If you don't have a garden then you wouldn't have a chimney.

ZeroPlastic · 17/04/2023 09:39

Blinkingheckythump · 17/04/2023 09:32

I have no idea why so many people are stating that the EB is not a thing in the UK and kids of 7 don't believe in it! Literally every kid I know of that age believe in it

Whereas I've never met a child who believes in it. I wonder whether it's a regional thing.

MMM2022 · 17/04/2023 09:40

Blinkingheckythump · 17/04/2023 09:32

I have no idea why so many people are stating that the EB is not a thing in the UK and kids of 7 don't believe in it! Literally every kid I know of that age believe in it

This is confusing me too lol.
I don’t want my kid to be the one who breaks it to others. my cousin told me about Santa and that was annoying. but I got over it quickly.

I don’t recall the moment I knew that the Easter bunny wasn’t real but I don’t remember my mother being too good at finding eggs that we couldn’t and somehow she knew if we hadn’t found everything lol.

I found out about the tooth fairy because I awoke in the middle of the night with my mothers hand under my pillow. She told me she was fluffing my pillows 😂 It honestly didn’t click until the following day. I was just so thrilled I’d worked it out for myself lol

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 09:40

It would make much more sense for a rabbit to hide eggs in the grounds of a National Trust property or in a park than to break into a flat.

MeinKraft · 17/04/2023 10:20

jannier · 17/04/2023 09:18

The Easter bunny is a new American thing it never existed 40 years ago lots of families don't have it

Wrong. The tradition originated in Germany and is at least 500 years old. Try again at Halloween (when you will also be wrong.)

'The bunny, originally called "Oschter Haws," or Easter Hare, who lays a nest of colorful eggs for well-behaved children, hails from Germany. The earliest known mention, according to A Dictionary of English Folklorere_,^ is a German text from 1572, which translated reads:
“Do not worry if the Easter Bunny escapes you; should we miss his eggs, we will cook the nest.”'

www.countryliving.com/life/a41715/easter-bunny-origins/

Clementineorsatsuma · 17/04/2023 10:41

littleloopylou · 16/04/2023 21:58

My child has always known the Easter bunny to bring an egg overnight. Ex knows this. Ex would not let me have Easter. I did not fight this, but I also assumed that ex would fulfill our basic family expectations of Easter.

Your basic expectations.
Not his.
You should back up his choices in this.
"No, small child, the Easter Bunny has a list and dies things differently at different house. So at Mummy's they leave an Egg, and at Daddy's they put Eggs at a Hunt for you to find! Isn't it fun?!"

I was in this position, and it worked for my kids. Pick your battles wisely.

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 10:57

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 08:28

It really isn't.

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It definitely is for many people, I’m in my 30’s and as English as they come. My parents always did the Easter bunny thing. I don’t know anyone that doesn’t do it to be honest, my ex who was from abroad hadn’t ever heard of it though . .

I think you’re getting a bizarrely rough time here @littleloopylou with everyone fixating on the Easter bunny when really it’s a red herring. The real issue is your ex half arsed Easter and clearly couldn’t be bothered to make it fun for your child. That’s a shame but now you know and can manage expectations in your own home. Just make sure for future events you do your own Easter and your own Christmas etc and keep up those traditions that your child has had for 7 years (and clearly enjoys!) in your own home.

annonymousmouseinyourhouse · 17/04/2023 11:06

I think the kids waking to a chocolate egg on Easter is standard.

I think the bar is pretty low for that not to have happened. Easter eggs were £1.25 in Tesco. He could have done that if he'd wanted to.

Hugasauras · 17/04/2023 11:13

We've never done the waking up to an egg thing. We do an egg hunt round the house/garden at some point during the day, at the end of which is a big egg - that's the culmination of the hunt, not just a big egg sitting on the table when they come downstairs. Just how we always did it as kids too. So I don't think it is standard. Chocolate eggs at Easter is standard, but method of delivery is very family dependent I think!

DD1 is 4 and sort of believes in the Easter Bunny, but in a very loose way so we can just make our own rules about what happens. She believes that the Easter bunny came and hid eggs in the house and garden because we told her that's what had happened. No idea what nursery's explanation was or what they told children as they did some Easter stuff, but we explained how it worked at our house and that was that.

SunnySaturdayMorning · 17/04/2023 11:26

And yeah, the fact that my kid came home from English nursery believing in said magical rabbit does tell me that the people saying it's not in any way an English tradition are just deluded or wrong.

All that tells you is that it’s a thing your nursery does, but you don’t seem to be able to understand that

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 11:29

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 10:57

It definitely is for many people, I’m in my 30’s and as English as they come. My parents always did the Easter bunny thing. I don’t know anyone that doesn’t do it to be honest, my ex who was from abroad hadn’t ever heard of it though . .

I think you’re getting a bizarrely rough time here @littleloopylou with everyone fixating on the Easter bunny when really it’s a red herring. The real issue is your ex half arsed Easter and clearly couldn’t be bothered to make it fun for your child. That’s a shame but now you know and can manage expectations in your own home. Just make sure for future events you do your own Easter and your own Christmas etc and keep up those traditions that your child has had for 7 years (and clearly enjoys!) in your own home.

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It might be a thing that some people do but it definitely can't be considered an English tradition. If it were, there wouldn't be so many people on this thread alone saying they'd not even heard of it until recently. Neither me nor DH had it growing up, both English, both sets of parents English, 7 out of our 8 grandparents English. What would be the chances of that if it were an actual tradition? It would have been passed down some route or another.

myveryownelectrickitten · 17/04/2023 11:37

Seriously, this thread is eye-popping. Easter bunny is definitely an English tradition. As I said, it was a thing when I was a kid - we made baskets in primary school for the bunny to put eggs in and would be asked at church what the Easter bunny had brought! It was a thing when my parents were kids in the fifties! It goes back centuries in fact! It might originally be German, but then so are Christmas trees and you don’t find people saying they aren’t an English tradition.

Why do all of you think that the shops sell chocolate bunnies and bunny ears and have rabbit pictures up at Easter? Just because you don’t do it doesn’t mean it’s not an English tradition! I’m really all agog at this.

Okunevo · 17/04/2023 11:38

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 10:57

It definitely is for many people, I’m in my 30’s and as English as they come. My parents always did the Easter bunny thing. I don’t know anyone that doesn’t do it to be honest, my ex who was from abroad hadn’t ever heard of it though . .

I think you’re getting a bizarrely rough time here @littleloopylou with everyone fixating on the Easter bunny when really it’s a red herring. The real issue is your ex half arsed Easter and clearly couldn’t be bothered to make it fun for your child. That’s a shame but now you know and can manage expectations in your own home. Just make sure for future events you do your own Easter and your own Christmas etc and keep up those traditions that your child has had for 7 years (and clearly enjoys!) in your own home.

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How is it 'half arsed' and 'couldn't be bothered to make it fun' to take the child to an organised hunt instead of putting an egg on the end of their bed (or wherever it would be put in a house)?

SunnySaturdayMorning · 17/04/2023 11:40

myveryownelectrickitten · 17/04/2023 11:37

Seriously, this thread is eye-popping. Easter bunny is definitely an English tradition. As I said, it was a thing when I was a kid - we made baskets in primary school for the bunny to put eggs in and would be asked at church what the Easter bunny had brought! It was a thing when my parents were kids in the fifties! It goes back centuries in fact! It might originally be German, but then so are Christmas trees and you don’t find people saying they aren’t an English tradition.

Why do all of you think that the shops sell chocolate bunnies and bunny ears and have rabbit pictures up at Easter? Just because you don’t do it doesn’t mean it’s not an English tradition! I’m really all agog at this.

The Easter Bunny as a concept is a thing, certainly, but it’s not a nationwide English tradition that the Easter Bunny leaves you an egg overnight like Father Christmas does toys.

That’s the difference.

Lachimolala · 17/04/2023 11:40

Sourfairy · 17/04/2023 11:29

It might be a thing that some people do but it definitely can't be considered an English tradition. If it were, there wouldn't be so many people on this thread alone saying they'd not even heard of it until recently. Neither me nor DH had it growing up, both English, both sets of parents English, 7 out of our 8 grandparents English. What would be the chances of that if it were an actual tradition? It would have been passed down some route or another.

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And there’s plenty of people who are saying it is an English tradition/culture. A pretty even split in fact, are those people all wrong too? Perhaps it’s regional, who’s knows but it’s 100% part of English culture and has been around for years and years.

Either way my above comment stands, the EB isn’t relevant really. The lacklustre zero effort parenting from dad is the real issue.