To feel guilty about missing DH's cousin's wedding

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It's a child-free wedding. My parents will be on holiday, and DH's parents will be attending the wedding.

We won't therefore have appropriate childcare.

DH's cousin is disappointed and sad we can't attend.

I feel guilty despite it being completely out of my control!

AIBU.

I agree @moonspiral. It was just a thought.

Fair enough.

I guess if he won't go without you without good reason say Anxiety, won't know anyone, worried he'll be hit on, you provide personal care etc then he's being a bit unreasonable really, his family will want him there if he possibly can.

Otherwise it's just one of those things.

Like a pp, most people I know in RL would go without their partner, especially if siblings/close cousins/their parents are going. It hasn't been asked how his parents are getting home etc. There's been occasions when we've hired a mini bus to all go home. Or if only five, then shared a taxi. If going the other way, then sleep at a family members. I don't see how taking the kids would actually make it easier, especially when one is under 2.

Is fear of being hit on really a good reason?? Perhaps if he is a recovering sex addict

I'd feel guilty if I were your husband because he can go but isn't because he doesn't fancy it

Maybe he just doesn’t like weddings and doesn’t particularly care for them even if a cousin.

Maybe he normally attends out of family
duty because his wife makes him go/wants to go so he just dutifully tags along.

Can’t say I have any cousins who id bother even trying to find childcare for their weddings. Let alone go alone to listen to stories of past by the aunties and uncles. My dh would be there to save me from boredom.

Yeah he can't ve arsed

Yeah maybe he doesn't want to be harassed so safety in numbers

I'd tell your dh to go to the day and then get a baby sitter in an evening and join him later

That would mean taking two cars. Not very practical.

TBH, I have a deeply unsociable DH who would get out of going to a wedding if he could.

I'd only bother with that sort of journey and logistics if it was something I really wanted to go to. Not everyone likes weddings.

I can not drink on any day. But a dry wedding? No fucking thank you. Hard pass.

That's how DH would feel as well @piratypotato

I wouldn’t go to a wedding on my own unless I knew I had good friends there, sitting with strangers in a noisy room is a nightmare.
However his parents are going! Can’t he just go with them. Seems a strange one to turn down.

I'd feel guilty if I were your husband because he can go but isn't because he doesn't fancy it

The bride and groom don’t fancy having children at their wedding. Their choice; fair enough. The OP’s DH does t fancy going to said wedding on his own. His choice; fair enough. (Same with weddings in the Caribbean, on a work day - whatever.)