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Another angel killed

174 replies

Thomasina79 · 14/04/2023 14:58

RIP little Finley.

why, why are such babies returned to monsters like the two who murdered baby Finley. Only 10 months old.

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bellac11 · 14/04/2023 20:15

Ponoka7 · 14/04/2023 18:34

I think posters should realise that the transition conditions of Findlay returning home was never stuck to by SS. He was supposed to have home visits. They allowed the father to cancel them all. When the SW did see Findlay, she ignored bruising and didn't try to lift him. Had she have done so, he would have been in extreme pain. They wouldn't have been passing home inspections on the two occasions that the SW did get in. There's most definitely been failures. It is worth noting that if the neighbours, once again as in all these cases, had have phoned the police because of what they heard, he would still be alive. We stil get threads on here were people are told to myob.

SWs have no power to enter a house if denied entry. Ideally children will be picked up and held when babies but again, if the parent doesnt allow this you cant go picking up the child.

When you say ignored the bruising, was this not mentioned on case notes or to the SWs managers?

Katiecoffee · 14/04/2023 20:16

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Itsokay2020 · 14/04/2023 20:19

Too many do nothing, too many turn a blind eye, too many refuse to listen, too many know about children like Finley but don’t do enough to help save their life. There will always be humans that shouldn’t have children, it’s so important that we stop facilitating them and stop trying to teach them to become better parents - they are evil to the core and they will never change.

I hope they have the most awful time in prison, I hope they suffer pain every waking minute in the years to come. I hope Finley didn’t die in vain; I hope his story empowers someone to seek help for another child in need

Museya15 · 14/04/2023 20:22

The devil's disciples walk amongst us.

girlfriend44 · 14/04/2023 20:23

How many more of these people are out there?

Every week we are hearing something. Why have a baby if your going to do that.

Now the taxpayers got to keep them in prison.

They should put all these vile people on a plane and drop them off in the Atlantic Ocean.
Nobody would miss them.

Why are we hearing so much about scum who want to murder their children/stepchildren?

momonpurpose · 14/04/2023 20:25

For the life of me I cannot imagine a 10 month old having enough body to have 130 injuries. He'll is not good enough for those involved.

slamfightbrightlight · 14/04/2023 20:29

Some courts in some regions are very keen on placing children back at home with their parents. There’s a definite geographical divide on it that warrants some scrutiny.

Takoneko · 14/04/2023 20:29

@Katiecoffee Do you think it’s wise for you to have posted that here? I don’t disagree with your message but there’s only so many people party to what happens in those meetings. I think sharing stuff about such a high profile case could come back to bite you. I think you might want to ask HQ to withdraw the post.

FinnysTail · 14/04/2023 20:35

Brieandme · 14/04/2023 15:25

In this case SS applied for removal at birth and didn't support the child going home. The courts overruled. I'd be interested to see if the review is published and what evidence the court based that decision on.

Who advocated for Finley to be placed with the scum he was removed from in the first place? The Judge couldn’t overrule unless someone provided evidence that the scum were able to parent successfully

girlfriend44 · 14/04/2023 20:40

PussBilledDuckyPlait · 14/04/2023 18:06

Why did the couple want their baby back? He was obviously just an inconvenience in their life of drugs and squalor, they cannot have cared about him in the slightest, so why not leave him in the care of social services?

Benefits?
Where were all the other relatives/grandparents?

TheUsualChaos · 14/04/2023 20:41

The system is just utterly broken and overwhelmed.

Plus far too much bias towards keeping children within biological family in this country. Child protection should always overrule family. Yes, foster homes, children's homes etc are not an ideal scenario but at least those children very rarely end up dead.

Hamandpeas · 14/04/2023 20:43

Name change for this.

I have the misfortune of knowing one of the parents. They were at school with my child and spent many a night here over a one year period (a number of years ago fortunately). I was shocked that they could do this - there were no signs of anything as a teenager. They were actually quite pleasant.

It makes me feel physically sick knowing that this person has spent time in my house with my family.

Messyhair321 · 14/04/2023 20:45

Over & over again it's said 'we will learn ' yet they never do. It's fluke that more children aren't killed, really it is. Incredibly sad.

Ex social worker here, left because the system doesn't work for families or children. Court system, police, schools, social services. All miss, delay, acting, poor management, burnt out staff, a very small percentage of children are ever even under the radar of social workers, a large percentage are entirely missed, the ones that are don't always receive just action in time, or professionals are manipulated by parents.

It's incredibly rare for a court to go against what a social worker report says I imagine that other 'evidence' was at play. Family court is also a complete mess though.

Sorry for the negativity but it's a depressing area & I get frustrated by comments suggesting that the system works, when it really doesn't.

Mybumlooksbig · 14/04/2023 20:45

Another victim of lockdown, I just knew this would happen. My heart aches so badly.. I haven't read the whole case I can't bare to but saw the photos of the total squalor and chaoshe lived in. How could anyone have sent him back to live there? That poor poor little boy. Sleep tight angel xx

TheWeeDonkeyFella · 14/04/2023 20:45

user567543 · 14/04/2023 15:41

Can only hope they don’t get out of jail until they’re past the age to have more children. Very sad.

Can only hope they don't get out of jail with their own bodies intact.

dottypotter · 14/04/2023 20:48

It's too easy these days to have and keep a child.

Everyone should be forced to undergo parenting classes and that's just one thought.

Other things you could introduce to help keep children safer.

Messyhair321 · 14/04/2023 20:48

Hamandpeas · 14/04/2023 20:43

Name change for this.

I have the misfortune of knowing one of the parents. They were at school with my child and spent many a night here over a one year period (a number of years ago fortunately). I was shocked that they could do this - there were no signs of anything as a teenager. They were actually quite pleasant.

It makes me feel physically sick knowing that this person has spent time in my house with my family.

I'm sorry you had this experience. It's interesting & often shocking how much people change isn't it?
If it makes you feel any better my dad went to school with Myra Hindley. She was ok as a child too, apparently. You just never know people really I don't think

Brieandme · 14/04/2023 20:50

@FinnysTail presumably no one will know that until the review is published. But in general terms, in family court there will be the parents + their counsel representing each of them, the children's guardian + their counsel, social services and theirs. You would assume that parents would have made a case to have him returned. We don't know the guardians view. It isn't just about how good each person's case is either, a judge has to make the decision with the caveat that if children can be with parents that they should, including in the parenting is to a low standard, including if parents are likely to need ongoing support. A judge can't make a decision based on a child being presumed to have a 'better' life elsewhere - they're not there to socially engineer. I appreciate it might seem 'obvious' here that the parents shouldn't have been caring for the child, however there are lots of families where things might look comparable - where parents smoke weed, have cluttered messy houses and who don't seem to like their children that much - who muddle through and don't inflict serious injuries or kill their children.

Also while I wish it wasn't the case, I second the PP who referred to the lack of suitable homes to move children to. I've worked with teens in the care system and its heartbreaking when you see children in situations and realise that they've come to more harm in the system than they did with parents. Repeated rejections, repeated moves to new carers, moved across the country, separated from brothers and sisters, and that's before looking at those who have been intentionally abused (eg bullying, grooming etc)

Messyhair321 · 14/04/2023 20:50

ConkerBonkers · 14/04/2023 15:34

@givemushypeasachance so your stance is poor social workers? To be fair here, I don't think you can argue that any of the authorities have done a fantastic job. The social care system has too many holes. Too many injustices to count.

Exactly this.

toddlermum27 · 14/04/2023 20:52

@Messyhair321 incredibly rare for court to go against LA AND Guardian, if the two disagreed though I would say fairly common for court to go against LA...

girlfriend44 · 14/04/2023 20:53

Lottapianos · 14/04/2023 19:28

'For the life of me I don’t understand why the parents took the baby home? Why have the baby at all'

I know, for people with normal empathy and emotional responses, it makes no sense at all. I'm guessing they did want him, but they wanted him on their terms.

Just wanted a shag no doubt.

TheUsualChaos · 14/04/2023 20:53

It's a sad thought isn't it that all these monstrous killers were once just children themselves. Sad in the sense that their lives go so catastrophically wrong somewhere and future children pay the price.

dottypotter · 14/04/2023 20:55

It's a choice to take drugs. I don't feel sorry for them at all.

FinnysTail · 14/04/2023 20:55

TheWeeDonkeyFella · 14/04/2023 20:45

Can only hope they don't get out of jail with their own bodies intact.

Can only hope their heads are parted from their bodies very soon.

10 months old. For 10 months that baby only knew pain and suffering. Jesus Christ! There are no words. Poor baby 😭

Whoever thought it was a good idea for an innocent, vulnerable baby to live with and be at the mercy, of pure evil, deserves to be strung up!

How do these tragedies keep happening?

Another case review will take place where the same old ”lessons will ge learned” trope will be trotted out. We all know lessons won’t be learned and the same suffering to vulnerable babies will keep happening. Bring back the rope! Only then will evil scum think twice about their actions 🤬

mackthepony · 14/04/2023 20:56

System will never be fixed because it's kids on the poorer end of the socio economic spectrum that end up like this. Or, are more likely to.

Political issue, once again