Not to tell my family that I am terminally ill?

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Just that, really. Not a big deal for me, but I am a childless widow, so the only other people are my siblings. There is more than enough cash in the bak to pay for a funeral with some left over. I would ensure that family jerellerey and other things have, are sorted out in a will.

Sorry to hear this OP. Sending you lots of love and strength. You do whatever feels right and don’t worry about anyone else.

Why wouldn’t you tell them?

You may well need support at some point plus when you are approaching the end of life they will realise surely unless you plan to not see them.

Will you tell friends at all?

Im so sorry OP it must be very hard. Do you have a macmillan nurse or Disease specific CNS you can talk all this through with.

I haven’t voted because there’s no scenario here where you are unreasonable 💐 I’m so sorry.
are you close with your siblings? Will they be a good support to you emotionally? Do you have friends? Is your illness if the nature where you may need practical support as it progresses? These would be things I would consider.
Please don’t go through this alone if you don’t have to x

What are your reasons for not telling them?

I'm sorry to hear your news. Do you think your siblings would rather find out once you've gone or would they prefer to support you and say their goodbyes?

I think that's your information and it's for you to plan your own route and what works for you. So from me - YANBU.

How do you get on with your siblings? Do you see them much? Do you have friends who you are more involved with?
Best to do what feels right for you, what are your reasons for not wanting to tell them?

How well do you get on with your siblings?

Op do you have someone who knows your end of life planned wishes and what you want to happen after death?
Funeral wishes etc.

I'm so sorry

Are you able to outline why you don't want them to know?

What can you still do to enjoy life, OP, and are you doing it?

Does anyone know? You will need support and they might feel hurt. It must be very hard for you, do what works best for you. X

I wish you all the best, whatever you decide 💐

You need to do whatever feels right for you, just ensure that anything you really care about can be located in a timely manner when necessary. 💐

I think you will have to tell someone at some point sadly.

Apart from this before it gets that far, make plans and leave clear instructions.

So sorry you have had this news and feel you don't have people you want to share this with.

Sorry, are you completely oblivious to what an insensitive thing this is to say? Wow.

Wishing you all the best as well. There isn't a right or wrong answer, you have got to do what is right for you in this moment! You can and may change your mind 2mrw or whenever xx

So sorry OP xx

I think you owe it to yourself, and to them, to tell them. As you get more and more ill your behavior will change and you will need understanding, and they will need to know why you are being the way you are.

What will make it easier for you? I know damn well that when my time comes I'll likely end up making it easier for everyone else. I'd consider not telling if I could get away with it.

do what’s best for you 💐

Also I would recommend finding and joining a support group for your particular condition... there are many good groups on Facebook. They can be an invaluable source of knowledge and my group has becoe like a second family.
All the best to you, OP.

You do what feels right. I’d tell those I felt closest to. In my case, that would not be every sibling (I’m not especially close to one of my sisters) but it would be my close friends.

Just because you’re related, doesn’t mean you’re obliged to tell them.

Will they not realise you are unwell when you start to deteriorate?