Family event on child’s birthday

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If your in-laws arranged an event where the date is optional (wedding/funeral/another child’s baptism) on your child’s birthday would you be at least a bit miffed?

I would be.

(yes I am thinking of the coronation and Archie’s birthday.)

No, we celebrate our children's birthdays on the nearest convenient day. If they have school and we have work on their birthday then we wait until the Saturday or celebrate the Saturday before. Surely, this is what everybody does. Almost all children must be used to this. Not many people are going to cancel school and work and get their children's friends to bunk off to party.

I would say the date probably wasn't that optional. The bank holiday would mean it needed to not be too close to Whitsun but also not on the mayday bank holiday. And the sooner his bum is on that throne then the better from their pov.

no. its just a bloody day. I know many people that dont tell their kids which day their birthday is and celebrate on the most convenient day

Hi Megan 🙋‍♀️

This isn’t just a normal father in law though is it, this is the king. Also he doesn’t get the final say when the coronation takes place there is a lot more to it and a lot more people involved in this then just him.

No I really don't see the issue

There aren't a lot of dates left by the time you make special arrangements for each and every birthday in a very large family.

The lad will be FOUR. He could be convinced almost the whole coronation was in honour of himself. Probably would explode the poor lad's head, tbf.

Seeing as she isn't bringing the invisible children anyway, I don't see the issue..?

No because I’m not a twat and I teach my kids not to be twats too.

In normal circumstances - YANBU

If your FiL is the King and the family event is his coronation - YABU

Op you are being ridiculous.

It might seem a family event really it's a work event. Needs to happen on a Saturday, between better weather starting and before peak tourist season.

The kids 4, can't read a calendar move his birthday a day or 2 and he'll never know.

We would go to the family event and celebrate our child’s birthday too, (on another day). We have been to a wedding and a Christmas party on our childrens birthdays.

Charles didn't decide the date, just fyi.

I do agree with Meghan prioritising her son's birthday though. And I'm no fan of hers.

To answer your question, it largely depends on how old/ how aware my child would be of it being on their actual birthday. My DD is 4 and has only ever had the party on the actual day, once.

My exh organised his df's funeral for my dc's 13th birthday.. Twat summed him up.

You think the whole coronation date was planned to spite Meghan? I'm usually Team Meghan, although I'm not very interested in any of this saga, but I'm very much a republican and not a fan of the royals at all, so usually find myself rooting for her. But this is a bit far fetched.

It's not in laws organising a family event though. So much would have gone into choosing the date, and anyway a 4 year old isn't going to care, in fact he would probably have had a great time watching from the windows at Buckingham palace and running around with all the other young family members if they had taken him along.

Is that you, Meghan Markle? Lol. All jokes aside, if the date was in stone and they all knew then ynbu

Lol sorry I wrote that before reading about the coronation! Haha.

Ds had his 4th birthday on his great granddads funeral, his 6th st his uncles wedding and his 7th at his uncles post pandemic wedding party, his 8th at his cousins Christening. It didn’t occur to either of us to be bothered, in fact it was great to spend his birthday with family and obviously he had cake and presents there.

Depends on how much flexibility the event had, coronations have lots of participants and a venue that may have existing bookings

Mhegan is such a bitch, having her baby on a day that would one day be her father in law's coronation day. She can't help making it all about her.

The king won't have chosen the date. There will be a whole mass of factors involved in when it could be held.

It's quite bizarre to think that it was done on purpose.

Omg I legit thought you might be my relative til I got to the end. We've had an invite come though for a wedding and it's the same date as their child's birthday and they've had a right humpf!

I think Meghan is probably above all that tbh and knew sorta what she was marrying into to some extent.

I have a feeling it may have been strategically arranged on that day so Harry can attend while Meaghan has an excuse not to and nobody loses face publically.