Family event on child’s birthday

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If your in-laws arranged an event where the date is optional (wedding/funeral/another child’s baptism) on your child’s birthday would you be at least a bit miffed?

I would be.

(yes I am thinking of the coronation and Archie’s birthday.)

I’m sure if they all got on great it wouldn’t be an issue and they’d all be at the coronation and Archie would get his birthday celebration on another day. I read that Archie and Lilibet aren’t actually invited at all? No idea how true that is.

But instead there’s a tonne of animosity, both within the family it seems and also from the British press. If I was Meghan I know what I’d rather be doing on 6th May. And it isn’t hanging out with people who don’t seem to like me, watched by the press who are openly hostile, on top of missing my children, especially when one of them has a birthday that day. Fuck that.

i dont get why people think a kids birthday should trump everything else yes its important but not to the detriment of everything else - i had exams on my birthday, not something i could opt out of.
i once worked with a 21year old graduate who was appalled at the thought he had to work his birthday, due to it being in think it was july/august so was always off for it due to school and uni holidays and his parents made such a big deal of the birthday, so when he had to work he pretty much threw a tantrum which got him no where - he joined the company to late for him to get the holidays off and since it was never mentioned at interview he wanted it off.

“family event”?

I think you’re misunderstanding the whole notion of “coronation “.

That is a genius idea!!!

People are saying they wouldn't care because they don't like Harry and Megan. I don't either but yes I probably would be annoyed.
I'd also have enough sense to realise that it wasn't Charles who chose the date of the Coronation. Besides H&M have made it perfectly clear the Royal Family are never going to see their children again so why would he care if it's on their birthday?

I don't like any of the RF, that's why I don't care.

Where is the outrage that Harry played Polo last year on Archie’s birthday?

If his own parents find it appropriate to book an entirely avoidable event on their own child’s birthday, I’m struggling to see an issue with the country having the coronation for the king on the said same date a year later.

The coronation needed to be coordinated and booked during a small time frame and this was the only date, which corresponded.

The coronation isn't a "family event ". It means little to me but it is a moment in the nation's history. There'll be a lot of moving parts to make it work. I've nothing against Meghan and no idea how she really feels. Sometimes important stuff happens on days you'd prefer it didn't.

Personally I think people who organise coronations are really lazy with choosing dates without caring a fig for what it clashes with. I mean, this has happened three times now in the last century!!

I think the King's coronation trumps Archie's birthday - even if they weren't practically estranged & have been dicks in the press about the entire family.

I spent my 15th birthday at my cousin's first birthday. (his birthday is 8 days later) Did something the following week.

If my in-laws planned to get married on my child's birthday?? Of course I wouldn't be pissed off. Celebrate the birthday the next day for god's sake 🙄

It's a state event not a family get together. Not everything is about Megan 🙄

I think H&M are probably very pleased that this event falls on Archie's birthday - gives M a legitimate 'out'.
KC played a blinder in inviting them - if they go, they can feel the weight of family/public disapproval while also looking like hypocrites. If they don't go, they look petty since KC has done the right thing in not excluding them. They also can't capitalise on not being invited.

In general terms it's always someone's birthday and you can't plan a huge event that requires attendance by lots of people, around one person's date preferences.

Is that you, Omid?

Oh gawd, not this old claptrap again. It’s not an “in-law’s family event” it’s a national state occasion crowning a sovereign. I’m no monarchist, but it’s not something that Charles or ANY of the other hundreds of planners would have giving any thought to if it falls on the birthday of a 4 year old child. It’s a state occasion. Would you have cared of it had happened to be on William’s birthday, or Camilla’s, or one of the babies that Fergie’s daughters have? Stop looking for issues.

Surely it’s the perfect date though? It gives Meghan a reasonably valid excuse not come (and Harry not to stay too long). She don’t want to be here, nobody wants her to come. This way everyone can sort of ‘save face’ as to the reason why.

I don't know about nobody wanting her here. I've seen comments online where people are outraged she's not coming, ironically from people who are usually also outraged when she is here.

I don't blame her for not coming. I've seen comments calling her a spiteful bitch for "not letting" Harry bring the kids with him, speculation that he's coming alone because they've split up, comments that this was always her plan (not sure what "this" refers to though), that she should attend because she's still a member of the family whether she likes it or not, that the public has a right to see them both.

She's damned if she does and damned if she doesn't.

I read that Archie and Lilibet aren’t actually invited at all? They are 4 and 1 so considered too young for a church service lasting an hour. Louis was 4 at the Jubilee and didn't attend Queen Elizabeth's funeral because of his age. Princess Anne was 2 for her mother's coronation and didn't attend either. She was brought out for the balcony wave.

True. But I meant the children aren’t invited so would possibly be completely apart from both parents for the entire day or longer depending on whether they came with them to London or stayed in California, there’s a lot of hostility and I know where I’d rather be: with my children than participating in that shit show with that shower of dickheads*

*not a royalist, can you tell?

No

@Eggseggseverywhere my own father's funeral was arranged for my birthday. Not great!

A child's birthday is really not that important. In fact, they are often at school on the specific date and any party is held a few day's later.
People's lives are complicated and they can't be expected to arrange their events around kids' birthdays.
And, of course, the date of the Coronation will have been set by the Government.

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No. Big events supersede a birthday. Parties can be held on any other day