Family event on child’s birthday

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If your in-laws arranged an event where the date is optional (wedding/funeral/another child’s baptism) on your child’s birthday would you be at least a bit miffed?

I would be.

(yes I am thinking of the coronation and Archie’s birthday.)

Nah they wouldn't bother doing that they've made clear they don't care about Meghan unfortunately

No wouldn’t bother me

It's his 4th birthday ffs. Would any sane person really reschedule a life event because it clashed with a 4 year olds birthday 🙄

It would have been absolutely ridiculous for KC to rule that date out because its the birthday of a child who resides on the other side of the world & barely knows him.

Besides his 3rd birthday was held in such high esteem his devoted father went & played polo

Not in the slightest

Nah I don't think they'll have given her that much thought. Despite what they think its not all about the Sussexes.

There'll be way more things to be factored into a suitable date other than a child's birthday

I won't expect family members to avoid a child's birthday for something like a christening let alone a coronation

No I wouldn't be bothered. The king wouldn't have chosen the date to spite them, it would have been chosen for many reasons. The Coronation is a bigger event than a 4 years olds birthday party, with many more people involved as well.

An event on your birthday makes it more exciting though - or is that just me? Either way you can't be serious that yge date of an event of significance to a country has to dictated to by a 4 yo birthday.

Typical family here... I'm granny.. so 2 of us, 3 adult children with spouses, 4 grandchildren. That's 12 birthdays in a year. We are not making arrangements for gatherings or events around anyone's birthday. There's way too much importance around birthdays anyway.

My cousin got married on DS' 4th birthday, it was bloody brilliant, had a party for him the weekend beforehand then she gave him a badge to wear to the reception and he loved it. Was great to see family we wouldn't normally all get in a room, of course to celebrate their wedding primarily but was nice too. As with most things it depends what you make of it and how you choose to view it. Life doesn't revolve around small children's birthdays.

Yeah, like that should be carefully planned around a kid's knees up 😂

I'm sure once all the official stuff is done they'll be a private family party they could easily have pulled out a birthday cake. Gramps isn't the only person with a special day today...Not the same but seen it done at a wedding for a child guest.

Or wait a day and hold his birthday on the Sunday afternoon when the Coronation is all over.

Well, I’m quite miffed that, with a birthday in mid June, if it falls on a Saturday they have the cheek to have the trooping the colour 😂

If it was my father in law’s CORONATION I think I’d give FIL a pass 🙄

FFS it’s not a gathering at the local pub. The entire UK is involved in this - schools, businesses, etc - regardless of how you feel about the royal family. I don’t believe any of the organisation centered around the 3/4 birthday of a grandchild. It’s not a snub to a toddler- it’s a major event and I find it beyond bizarre that some are making this out to be about a child who just so happens to have an English father, who just so happens to be son of the king. When the kid finally makes his first appearance, he’ll effectively be an American with a Cali twang.

I don’t follow the Meghan/Harry crap but seriously? Would Anne and the others make this about their children? She’s not going for XYZ reasons and let’s leave it at that.

No I wouldn't be miffed. We've just had a family funeral on DDs birthday. It couldn't be helped. We just celebrated birthday on a different day.

Pretty sure Archie is too far down the pecking order to have a whole massive event shifted because its his birthday. I doubt Grandad Charles and Granny Camilla and Uncle Willy would be invited to his party anyway 😉😉

If Meghan came over for the coronation she'd be trolled to fuck and back again, if she doesn't come over she'll be trolled to fuck and back again. No matter which she chooses, people will chat shite about it so she may as well please herself and do what she wants which, in this case, appears to be staying at home. I would want to sit in a room playing nice with my toxic in-laws either.

*wouldn't want to

It depends. If Charles offered to buy Archie this cake, then Meghan is BU (they could have made it a joint coronation/birthday party):

I can imagine the competitive conversation now. Archie: “Guess what, Grandad, I’m four now!”. Charles: “I don’t mean to flex, but I’m the King of England”.

No? I wouldn't care and neither would DC

It wouldn't bother me. Child would still have presents/cake in the morning plus I am sure would get lots of attention during the day when seeing family members/friends etc.

Even setting aside how ridiculous you are being about the Coronation, YABU about ordinary people in ordinary families.

When it has happened to us, we have bigged up to the child how lucky they are to have an extra celebrations / party / even on their birthday, and of course they are still having their own, separate celebration on the nearest convenient date, as they always would have anyway.
As has already been said, not many people necessarily have their celebration on the actual day - you sort out a day that is convenient / people can get together.

Anne's first wedding was on Charles' birthday and I doubt he threw his teddy out of the pram!

No. The coronation isn't just a family event anyway, it's a state occasion. And Meghan and the kids are irrelevant - and so should Harry be - because they are no longer working royals and because of Harry's book.

No you do the birthday treat on a different day whether that is a get together with family and friends at home or a party at a venue or day out etc.

My Dad was buried on my sister's birthday. My Mum felt awful about it but it was at Xmas time and if he was not buried before 24th the whole funeral would have been hanging over the whole family all over Xmas until 29th of December. The funeral director offered my Mum the 23rd of December or 29th. She had already had to wait for an autopsy and we all just wanted it done asap.