Family event on child’s birthday

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If your in-laws arranged an event where the date is optional (wedding/funeral/another child’s baptism) on your child’s birthday would you be at least a bit miffed?

I would be.

(yes I am thinking of the coronation and Archie’s birthday.)

No, it wouldn’t bother me. He’s four he’s not going to have any real understanding of days and dates.

Given all the uncertainty over the will they/won’t they attend, I can completely understand why they’ve just cracked on. It’s not the sort of event you can organise in a couple of weeks after all. I doubt she was ever planning on attending, so no reason to plan around a toddlers birthday who was never going to be involved.

Hahaha no.
When I planned my wedding I took no birthdays in to account! It was hard enough to find a Saturday on which all 7 of the VIPs could make it! There were only two Saturdays in the whole year! I shudder to think what it's like factoring in everything for a coronation.

No, it’s all part of normal life. Kids birthdays as in parties are rarely on the day anyway

I’d choose to celebrate my child birthday over another event. Anyone that wanted me to attend an event would know that so would take it into account.

You do realize that, approximately five days out of seven, a child's birthday falls on what would be a workday for most adults anyway (and once they reach school age, a school day for the child and their friends)?

What do you expect, that Archie's family should adopt a long-term policy of staying off work and staying off school on this date each year in order that everyone should pay homage to the Holy Birthday?

It's normal that birthday parties are held on a weekend day close to the actual birthday, not necessarily the birthday itself.

There are few days a year when the coronation can be held. It can't be in winter, it can't be a rainy time of year, it can't be in July because of teens' exams, it can't be in August because people go on holiday. You are limited to late spring/early autumn, and there are only so many weekend dates available.

The people arranging this will have been thinking about stuff like how to minimize inconvenience for all the staff and security people and their families, not a tot's birthday.

In my family I'd be a bit miffed if a wedding or christening was planned on my kids birthdays but I'd get over it. A funeral, no because you have so little say over dates.

Now in the royal family and a huge once in our lifetime state occasion like a coronation then of course not.
In a normal family I'd say it's more akin to comparing it to something like a graduation ceremony clashing with a birthday as it's not really in your control.

Give your overly entitled head a wobble love.

Politicians will have picked the Coronation date.

If I was Meghan then I'd be relieved that I had a good excuse not to attend.

No, I wouldn’t care at all, and neither would my children.

Teens exams in July? Actually lots of teachers and parents I know are pissed off at losing a days teaching/learning for this so close to exams, which actually start a couple of weeks after the coronation in May and finish in June. It’s not a great date in terms of gcse and a level, not sure about others.

Haha. As if old sausage fingers got his diary out and said 'right Camilla, I want to have my coronation on Archie's birthday, mwah ha ha haaaaa. Who do I need to book this in with?'

I don’t think she needs anymore of an excuse than they were offensive about her child and all the other shit.

I share a birthday with the royal prince and can't lie I am delighted it's on coronation weekend as get the extra bank holiday!!

I’d be a bit miffed. It’s rare when a birthday falls on a weekend so planning an event that day seems inconsiderate, coronation not withstanding.

I totally admit I have huge childhood baggage over birthdays being ignored. My parents missed mine more often than not to go on an annual holiday without the kids.

I wouldn't particulary care, but this particular occasion isn't a family event is it, it's a state occasion. It's more like a big work event than a family party. There have been many occasions when DH or I have had to be away with work on our own or our children's birthdays or our wedding anniversary. It's no big deal, we just celebrate on a different day.

Ah come on now!

YABU

No, big events have to be scheduled in at the time that’s most convenient for the most people.

Weddings, funerals, rare get togethers and ‘special’ birthdays all trump a normal kids birthday that can be celebrated the day before or after.

Never mind trying to also best accommodate politicians, world leaders, most other royal families in the world, police and security leave, hospitals and emergency services, transport etc etc

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. Birthdays happen every year…..

One of the weirdest things I’ve read on here is the poster who takes a week of annual leave every year for each child’s birthday…. So clearly some people do place more importance on birthdays than I do!

The Coronation isn’t a family event, it’s a State event. Plenty of regular people have work on their grandkids birthdays, you just have to get on with it.

I thought Harry back tracked on all that, and they never actually confirmed who or what had allegedly said anything?

Its all bonkers and can't believe there's still people advocating the Sussex's are still the focal point of arranging things around so they can be 'got at'..
It's been looking like H&M are happy and settled doing their thing in USA, the Royals over in UK are doing their thing, why the need for micro examination of everything?!

Who cares about any of it, let the family fight it out (probably publicly) themselves.

They could do another round of its a Royal Knockout? 😆 @nomoredriving

Charles didn’t decide the date. It was chosen for all sorts of reasons - timing of the bank holiday, security planning and availability of police, avoiding clashes with other big public events such as cup finals etc. A birthday is neither here nor there.

I wouldn't be remotely miffed in a normal situation, let alone something as big as this where they probably couldn't have just picked any date they wanted. There would presumably have been a lot of things to consider like policing, diaries of VIPs (for example, off the top of my head, the PM will be there so it couldn't clash with something like a G7 summit he also needs to be at),

Also, I imagine they'd have known full well it would have looked to some like they were being spiteful, and they would have avoided that if they could.

I don't think Meghan is wrong not to come (for several reasons), but equally if she did come, I'm sure Archie would cope. My DD is turning 4 a few weeks after Archie. DH and I are off to a wedding, and we'll do her birthday the next day.