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Dalai llama ask a child to suck his tongue

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Mooshamoo · 10/04/2023 12:49

Has anyone seen the new video of the Dalai Llama asking a child to suck his tongue. Yes. It sounds bizarre. But it is in the news right now. The video is out there. And the dalai llama is apologising on social media now

Im devastated! I went to see the Dalai Llama in India. He gave a speech on accepting and loving everyone, and that it didn't matter what religion we are. I always told people that it was one of the highlights of my life.

I went through life thinking he was a good person, that he was one of the good ones. To see this today, makes me think oh no is he yet another abuser.

Some people have remarked about this video that sticking your tongue out at someone is a greeting in Tibet.

However - the Dalai Llama kisses the child on the lips in the video, and asks the child to suck his tongue. It does not look right at all.

He has apologised on twitter now.

What do you all think?

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Testina · 10/04/2023 15:09

KnitGoodWomanKnit · 10/04/2023 14:55

Funny you how some people are wearing masks but he kisses a little boy on the lips. I'd be doing some tests if I were the parents.

That’s what you take from this? That he might have given the boy Covid?

Sudeko · 10/04/2023 15:11

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TokyoStories · 10/04/2023 15:13

The boy is the same culture as the holy DL and was clearly uncomfortable. The whole exchange was forceful and none of the sidekick monks sitting around them intervened to help the boy, nor did anyone in the audience. Poor poor boy.

In my extended family it was normal and expected to kiss relatives on the lips. Even still I absolutely hated it. I remember squirming every time I had to say goodbye to my nanna who had dementia, her lips coming towards me for a slobbery kiss. Leaving aside the tongue part for a moment, is kissing children on the lips considered abusive now? Genuine question Confused

readbooksdrinktea · 10/04/2023 15:13

RideACockHorseToSunburyCross · 10/04/2023 13:18

Fucking sick of this shit. Every time a man abuses a kid or batters his wife or cheats on her or any other shit thing there's a little chorus of women saying "oh no, maybe he's got a brain tumour/is depressed/didn't mean it/was just joking/needs a doctor/is having a midlife crisis

No, he's just an abusive prick. Stop defending them.

This! It's fucking tiresome. He's disgusting.

Thatladdo · 10/04/2023 15:13

He regrets getting caught.

The world IS a dark place, Religion and authority is more often than not used as a cover.

Boussa · 10/04/2023 15:13

@EsmeSusanOgg "judicious editing"..give me a break, why do you feel compelled to virtue signal open mindedness re the sexual assault of a child?

Sudeko · 10/04/2023 15:14

TokyoStories · 10/04/2023 15:13

The boy is the same culture as the holy DL and was clearly uncomfortable. The whole exchange was forceful and none of the sidekick monks sitting around them intervened to help the boy, nor did anyone in the audience. Poor poor boy.

In my extended family it was normal and expected to kiss relatives on the lips. Even still I absolutely hated it. I remember squirming every time I had to say goodbye to my nanna who had dementia, her lips coming towards me for a slobbery kiss. Leaving aside the tongue part for a moment, is kissing children on the lips considered abusive now? Genuine question Confused

Why should the tongue part be left out of consideration? Are you a Buddhist in denial as well?

neilyoungismyhero · 10/04/2023 15:15

You can see that the child is reluctant to participate but does in the end. Not nice viewing.

Boussa · 10/04/2023 15:16

Shame on the people giving this vile behaviour the benefit of the doubt.

readbooksdrinktea · 10/04/2023 15:17

So many apologists on here. Shocking.

Whoopsmahoot · 10/04/2023 15:17

watched the 2 min video. Creepy as hell. The boy went for a hug with the best of intentions but was clearly uncomfortable how it went. Yuk. Sickening.

Higgeldypiggeldy35 · 10/04/2023 15:17

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IsThePopeCatholic · 10/04/2023 15:17

SpidersAreShitheads · 10/04/2023 14:51

I think it feels really shocking to us as there’s so much which isn’t a cultural norm here.

Kissing on the lips is normal in some cultures, including kissing children. Sticking out your tongue is also a cultural norm in countries like Tibet.

I think it’s a really ill-judged, silly joke that seems much worse to us because of cultural differences.

The Dalai Lana was up on a platform and well aware he’s being filmed. If he’s a sexual predator he’s done a fucking fantastic job of keeping any hint of it hidden for 87 years - but now suddenly he can’t contain an urge to ask a child to suck his tongue?! It doesn’t make sense.

The child is reluctant - his mum asked the Dalai Lama if the child could go on stage to greet him. I think it’s like when you were told to kiss an aged relative you didn’t really know as a child.

To be clear, I’m not some kind of paedo apologist. But you can tell from the reaction in the room that it’s just a joke. The Dalai Lama isn’t about to start abusing children on camera (unless the dementia theory is correct but I don’t believe so). He’s always been known for having a somewhat outrageous sense of humour for a spiritual leader and I think this was just a spectacularly bad example of it.

He’s not immune to a healthy dose of misogyny though - some of his previous comments have been disappointing.

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I agree. It’s horrible, ill-judged, and stupid, but I would not call it sexual abuse because of the context. I think it also shows the DL lives in a bubble.

AllIsBest · 10/04/2023 15:18

@AxolotlOnions misguided?

Please answer me this question:

Is there a victim of abuse here or is there not?

FuchsAndMöhr · 10/04/2023 15:18

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RealMcKoy · 10/04/2023 15:18

I am so glad that I am too cynical to idolize somebody I don't know and whose everyday habits I don't witness..... no matter how good their music, films, books, oratory skills, politics or style is.

I imagine that being seen as some type of saviour whose word is seen as damn near God's own cannot be good for humility. It's why parsons , pastors and other "conduits of God" are always getting caught up in fuckry or are susceptible to trend following for likes more than innate belief.

It's why since the closing of youth clubs in Inner London and never seeing one that looked like it spent the money that it was granted properly, whilst the "leader' always drove a good car...I side eye all self styled, never voted for "community leaders", too, much less a Dalai Lama or Swami who attracts so many Hollywood types.

TokyoStories · 10/04/2023 15:19

Sudeko · 10/04/2023 15:14

Why should the tongue part be left out of consideration? Are you a Buddhist in denial as well?

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Er, no, it was a general and genuine question off the back of some posters talking about kissing on the lips.

AllIsBest · 10/04/2023 15:20

AllIsBest · 10/04/2023 15:18

@AxolotlOnions misguided?

Please answer me this question:

Is there a victim of abuse here or is there not?

Let me clarify my questions @AxolotlOnions , the boy, was he coerced to take part in the DL's kissy kissy act or did he have the power, agency and opportunity to say no thanks and step away?

Sudeko · 10/04/2023 15:20

TokyoStories · 10/04/2023 15:19

Er, no, it was a general and genuine question off the back of some posters talking about kissing on the lips.

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Do your family members kiss children whom they have never met before on the mouth without their parents' permission?

Florenz · 10/04/2023 15:20

Is the Dalai Lama the Dalai Lama until death or can he step down, like the Pope?

TomHanksIsFuckingAmazing · 10/04/2023 15:20

What the fuck have I just seen?!

thatcrookedsmile · 10/04/2023 15:20

Thesharkradar · 10/04/2023 13:08

Maybe he has some cognitive issues or brain tumour?

That's quite funny, I've met so many men with cognitive issues and brain tumours

W0tnow · 10/04/2023 15:21

TokyoStories · 10/04/2023 15:13

The boy is the same culture as the holy DL and was clearly uncomfortable. The whole exchange was forceful and none of the sidekick monks sitting around them intervened to help the boy, nor did anyone in the audience. Poor poor boy.

In my extended family it was normal and expected to kiss relatives on the lips. Even still I absolutely hated it. I remember squirming every time I had to say goodbye to my nanna who had dementia, her lips coming towards me for a slobbery kiss. Leaving aside the tongue part for a moment, is kissing children on the lips considered abusive now? Genuine question Confused

I know it’s considered ok to kiss on the lips by some people. Whatever culture. But I guarantee, no kid ever liked it. Especially from a stranger. ‘Royalty’ or not.

Sudeko · 10/04/2023 15:22

Well, you know there is one bunch of scientists pedaling a theory that pedos do what they do due to some kind of brain malfunction so it is not really their fault. The apologies speculating about dementia sound a bit like that.

Boussa · 10/04/2023 15:22

Really disturbed by those wanting to normalise and intellectualise child abuse.