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To think parents shouldnt send their children valentines cards/gifts...

129 replies

Dabbles · 14/02/2008 15:39

Urgh...

Just dont get it.

OP posts:
Justtwosecondspoppet · 14/02/2008 17:08

I get one from my parents, it's just nice to know you mean something to someone, it's not in a gross incestuous way. I don't have a dp though, would prob be different if I did.

NotDoingTheHousework · 14/02/2008 17:10

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Minum · 14/02/2008 17:37

My parents made me a card when I was a young teenager with pictures of all the players in my favourite football team, I loved it. And DS2 has made me a beautiful card at school. But its the card from DH that has really made me happy. And NDH, I'm really you've still got your dad to do something as lovely as that

Oblomov · 14/02/2008 17:37

I too love Blu's ds. That is so sweet.

wildwoman · 14/02/2008 17:41

DP gave us all a rose this morning (me and 2dds) It was sweet. You need to get out more if it bothers you enough to start a thread about it.

SpiritualKnot · 14/02/2008 17:49

I've only had one genuine card in all my life...I got it in school and it was written really badly and had 50p attached to it...it was wonderful!

I always send my 2 kids cards, written in a child's handwriting. Always got them from my parents. It's nice to ba able to say at school that you got a card!

SK

hertsnessex · 14/02/2008 17:57

we dont do anything, and certainly wouldnt send the boys cards, but may feel diffeently in a few yrs. it is our wedding anniversary tomorrow though, so might buy dh a card for that!!!

smeeinit · 14/02/2008 18:01

panda, im a suffolk girl and we had jack valentine who would knock on the door leaving us gifts!
it was great and i done it for my boys,even though everybody in hampshire thought i was mad!!

Rhubarb · 14/02/2008 18:03

People do this? They send gifts to their children?

Are they completely insane?

wildwoman · 14/02/2008 18:08

It is a simple "I love you" gesture, not insane in the slightest.

Rhubarb · 14/02/2008 18:10

It's for lovers!

You can say I love you anyday of the week, and on their birthdays, Christmas etc. Valentine's day is for lovers, which bit of that do you not get?

Or are you just brainwashed by commercialism now trying to get parents to treat their children on yet another day by buying their brand of toys, chocolates, cards etc.

"To my daughter on Valentine's Day" - I don't think so!

2bulletsformyvalentine · 14/02/2008 18:12

sucked in.
buy yet another card/present...crazy
for me valentines is for lovers not parents to give to their kids,
(i repeat for me)

2bulletsformyvalentine · 14/02/2008 18:13

Rhubarb put it very well

wildwoman · 14/02/2008 18:14

We don't buy presents for each other or go out to dinner at over inflated priced resturants so I don't think that we are being "sucked in" by commercialism. I just don't see why it bothers other people if we do this.

wildwoman · 14/02/2008 18:15

It was one sodding rose!

SpiritualKnot · 14/02/2008 18:17

OK OK I admit I spent 59p each on cards for the kids...wow I've been sucked in by all that commercialism! I'll have to remortgage the house now.

SK

wildwoman · 14/02/2008 18:18

sucker

Rhubarb · 14/02/2008 18:21

But why? Why buy cards for your kids? Why?

Do you pretend to be their girl/boyfriend? I just don't see how this is seen as normal.

Freaky weirdos!

nooka · 14/02/2008 18:25

I think it's a bit weird too. I might send ds/dd anonymous cards when they are teenagers if I am worried they won't get any and feel sad. Valentines is for teenagers/young lovers only IMO, and not a very nice occassion anyway. But maybe I just say that because I've only ever got about three cards! However the way that other families express their love is nothing to do with me (and I am sure sweet and lovely to them, which is what matters after all).

wildwoman · 14/02/2008 18:26

psml dp is sweet not wierd, I would have loved to be a daddy's girl

Unfitmother · 14/02/2008 18:26

Because they like it??
Where's the problem?
It wouldn't have entered my head but dd asked for one last year.

wildwoman · 14/02/2008 18:27

exactly nooka I wasn't aware our little tradition affected others so much

branflake81 · 14/02/2008 18:27

So are you also against kids giving cards to other kids? When I was at primary school I used to give a card every year to my (boy) friend (son of a family friend who I used to play with), it was just a bit of fun.

JeremyVile · 14/02/2008 18:27

My mum used to send us valentines cards.
I wont be doing it for ds as I dont do valentines day at all.

But is it wierd that I find those who find it wierd, a bit, you know, wierd?

SpiritualKnot · 14/02/2008 18:30

I used to like getting one as a kid coz you could answer truthfully at school to those who asked if you'd got a card "yes".

If they looked sad and said they hadn't got one then you'd say "it was from my parents though". If they looked smug and said "so did I" then you'd keep quiet!

All cards are unsigned ofcourse with disguised writing..they could be from anyone really. I always thought they were supposed to be from an anonymous admirer.

SK