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Original poster

To think parents shouldnt send their children valentines cards/gifts...

129 replies

Dabbles · 14/02/2008 15:39

Urgh...

Just dont get it.

OP posts:
RubberDuck · 14/02/2008 16:03

Panda, are you from Norfolk?

RubberDuck · 14/02/2008 16:04

(erm friends day is in Finland, I mucked up the copy/paste)

PandaG · 14/02/2008 16:04

yes, I am originally RubberDuck

DANCESwithaMuffinTop · 14/02/2008 16:05

Yeah and why should Christmas be just for Christians? It's so unfair

RubberDuck · 14/02/2008 16:05

Oooo.... so Wikipedia is right! (Wiki for the win...)

RubberDuck · 14/02/2008 16:05

DANCES: it isn't, pagans had it first

Blu · 14/02/2008 16:10

DS, 6, is the only person remotely excited by valentine's day in our house. Has insisted on cakes, I gather he has exorted DP to source some 'valentine doughnuts' which will appear as a 'surprise' tonight, made a card for the child he says he will marry, rootled in the drawer and retrieved all the old plastic heart shaped cocktail stirrers and stuck them in our morning coffee cups...DP gave him a small packet of choc hearts and he carried on as if he was about to swoon with joy.
He is either ruled by marketing initiatives, or gay.

bundle · 14/02/2008 16:11

that's so lovely blu, the spirit of valentine's, completely uncorrupted

DANCESwithaMuffinTop · 14/02/2008 16:11

Don't even start me on that one...Christmas which even Christians agree didn't happen in the traditional way we tell it, meetings at constantinople to decide whether each part of the holy trinity carries the same weighting as another...whole religious thing is bonkers. Proper bonkers.

wannaBe · 14/02/2008 16:12

I started a thread about this earlier.

I think it's wrong because valentines is supposed to be a day of romance, for adults. We can tell our children we love them any day of the week/year, in fact we can tell our lover the same and imo the whole valentines things is just a money-making exercise.

But even if people take the day seriously, I don't think it's something young children should be a part of.

Original poster
Dabbles · 14/02/2008 16:12

awww blu! thats sweet....

But did u send him a card??

OP posts:
DANCESwithaMuffinTop · 14/02/2008 16:14

What Wannabe said (I said it earlier but she just swooshed in and said it better)

RubberDuck · 14/02/2008 16:15

Aww Blu, that's lovely I hope he doesn't get cynical as he gets older.

DANCES: I agree 100%

wannaBe: what are you afraid of?! Honestly, just because I get my child a small present or make a card doesn't mean I'm a paedophile you know

Relax. You don't like it, don't do it.

And pick the anti-valentine card of choice

BeMyV · 14/02/2008 16:24

Name changed to avoid embarrassment....sorry.
I always buy my 3 favourites (dp, ds, dd) a card and we always have a special breakfast.
Now the embarrassing bit - ds (13, physically disabled) sent an anonymous Valentine to a classmate for the 1st time this year. I was so worried that he would be sad not to get one back - I sneaked into school and hid one in his bag during morning break! I know, I know. But the thought of his little, teenager face...

minouminou · 14/02/2008 16:25

I shall be mortally offended if, when I pick DS up from nursery later, he's not made me a valentine's day splodge.
so there!

Sunshinemummy · 14/02/2008 16:27

My DP's mum used to do it...when he was in his 20s! I found it so weird. Then when she asked him to buy her a ring I had to put my foot down. Just found it too too strange.

wannaBe · 14/02/2008 16:28

ey wait a minute! I never accused anyone of being a paedophile and that comment is out of order.

RubberDuck · 14/02/2008 16:30

Okay, sorry - but just getting bit fed up of the "it's just for lovers, you must be weird and skanky for celebrating it with your kids" implications.

RubyRioja · 14/02/2008 16:35

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ArchiesMama · 14/02/2008 16:40

i got a card from my 4 month ds (bought by my mum!)

and we sent a card to his little 3 month old friend up the road!

bluefox · 14/02/2008 16:42

Oh no - just read on another thread that Clinton Cards ARE selling cards "To my Daddy on Valentines Day" etc. Excuse me while I go and puke!

Sunshinemummy · 14/02/2008 16:43

Did get a nursery made card from DS though and was v. pleased about it - hypocrite moi?

minouminou · 14/02/2008 16:47

awwww.....ruby....that's so sweet.
everyone knows it's not the same kinda love, but it's love nonetheless, FGS.

Oblomov · 14/02/2008 16:47

Ds's nursery made one for mummy and daddy. I really liked it. Now this thread is making me question that. That can't be right, surely ?

BexieID · 14/02/2008 17:07

I won't bother. My parents didn't either. One of the mums at toddlers said her mum got her DS a card. Just way to commercialised, lol. I don't do Easter cards either.

Tom is 22 months though, so I may change my mind!