to wear my asexual ring

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asexuals often wear a black ring on the middle finger of the right hand edited by MNHQ

I think it would be very useful if this was widely recognised and understood,

Then asexuals could go to pubs, clubs, social events and no one would be hitting on them, friendships started at work or hobbies would not be prone to misunderstandings, and accusations of leading people on, and social arrangements could be made without the confusion about whether it is meant to be a date of not.

asexuals would also recognise each other

I think it is similar to earing a wedding ring to say you are in a relationship, wearing an asexual ring to signal that you are not available for a sexual relationship, even though you may be known to be single

I am expecting a load of hostility and aggression on here, because there always is, whenever asexuality is mentioned, but that wont bother me at all, because some people will read this, and learn to recognise the asexual ring, and that is all I want.

Whose being rude and nasty ,?most people are just pointing out the generally nobody cares wether somebody is asexual.or whatever .

I've never heard of it and I doubt many people would notice to be honest
If someone comes on to you just say your not interested what's the big deal?

Couldn't you wear a distinctive hat 🤣?

Wear what you please. I don't like the idea of a nightclub traffic light system though where those with black rings are magically protected from lecherous twats but everyone else is deemed to be up for it.

I have definitely read this thread word for word before.

I wear a wedding ring and I still get sexually harassed.

I haven't seen anyone be rude and condescending. Who cares what other people so or don't get up to. (As long as it's not harming anyone else).

I doubt the majority of people would know what it meant though, so unlikely to be much of a deterrent.

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Also there are different categories of asexual, they all have different coloured rings and flags
https://depts.washington.edu/qcenter/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/Asexuality-101-1.pdf

No one will notice or care.

I like @TeaForMeandThee 's idea of a fetching hat 🎩

And don't sob and shake every time the phone rings. A rare specimen.

I think more men wear them than women, actually, although both do

The real issue here yet again is men not taking no for an answer regardless of what any woman west or doesn’t want.

Wants not west !

Married people often wear a ring, and that shows they are in a committed relationship already, and not available for a relationship, so they dont have to keep referring to being married, in order to make sure that noone is seeing them as a potential partner, or invitations out are not being seen as "dates" by the other person or being questioned about have they met anyone..

Bollocks, they wear it but they does not prevent people from straying or trying it on. I wear mine because I like it.

Look you should do what makes you happy, but trying to equalise your life choices to that of marriage is not wise, lots will slam down the comparison. A lot of people perceive asexuality as an extension of ASD. I don’t know your experience so can not comment but that’s the general vibe I get, and the other one is that no one ever mentions asexuality in a conversation, like ever, so you are unlikely to have to prove your choice and validity of what it is you are needing to assert.

I have a rather beautiful wedding ring and it has made no difference whatsoever on men hitting on me when out, they still did.

although of course, it is entirely individual choice

It’s got nothing to do with someone not feeling sexual attraction. People are pointing out that the OP is in the same situation as married people, people not currently looking for sex or a relationship, lesbians saying no to approaches from men, gay men saying no to women, people saying no to sexual approaches from friends etc. All situations where you just use your words.

Wear whatever you like OP, I imagine it's more likely other ace people will notice this than anyone else.

What doesn't sit well with me about your language is that it sort of implies that everyone that is NOT asexual or married, wants to be viewed as "available" to be aggressively hit on. That's not the case at all, that behaviour is common, awful and just as unwelcome to unmarried people as it would be for you. Giving people (usually men) who act that way the green light to do that as long as it's not directed towards someone with a good enough excuse (married or asexual) isn't the way to go.

You forgot 'upside down pineapple shirt'

I will never understand what it is about not feeling sexual attraction that must make other people be so rude and condescending.

I don't get this. Do these posters have no idea what AIBU stands for? It's a little weird thinking disagreement is rude on any discussion forum but it's downright batshit on this one.

Maybe there needs to be a badge people can wear if they are up for an unwanted advance or harassment?

Clearly a lot of thought has gone into that but tbh it’s like reading an in-depth analysis of a star sign. I’m sure it’s very interesting and enlightening to those who want to define themselves by intangible properties but generally the rest of the world just doesn’t care.

Telling me you’re asexual, grey romantic or whatever gives me as much information as telling me you’re a scorpio with Taurus rising and I’ll utilise it as much.

I don't get it. Just say no thanks. You don't have to say you are asexual, married, a lesbian or just been fired/friend had accident so not in the mood. Just those two little words. Covers all sorts of situations really.

asexuals often wear a black ring on the middle finger of the right hand
A black ring? If this takes off there’s going to be a lot of Goths wondering why they’re not getting any.