Would you date a man who cross dressed?

[Supernova23]

Compatible in most ways but they admitted from the beginning they cross dressed. Would you?

Nope, would be a huge turn off

as others have said, a man who dresses the way he wants to is great - but a man putting on “woman costume” is not my bag. Definitely not someone I could be sexually attracted to.

No, but not because I’m judgemental of those that do, but that it’s not my thing.

Christ Nooo

I wouldn't personally but like PP I think I'm quite vanilla. Really not interested in people who have kinks. Crossdressing, furries, bdsm whatever floats your boat it doesn't float mine so I'd say we were fundamentally incompatible.

Just pictured my 59-year-old, paunchy, hairy husband in cross-dressed mode and nearly brought my breakfast back up.

I don't care how intolerant or "ist" it makes me, it's a blue, yellow, red and green "NO".

Very kinky 😂

OP - no i wouldn't, it would turn me off. Women wear traditional mens clothing for comfort/cheaper. Men wear traditional womens clothing for sexual or shock purposes.

A bit of eyeliner or nail polish is fine but lipstick or eye eyeshadow is yuck, especially when you realise what the historical purpose of lipstick is.

The point is not would we date a man - its how you feel about it. I disagree with others about saying what else is to come...he has been honest with you and he is looking for someone to likes him as his true self. If this is an issue for you the fairest thing for him is to let him go to find someone who either likes this or is happy that he is happy and is not phased by it. 'compatible enough' is 'not compatible'.

I think there's a world of difference between 'dressing for comfort and convenience' and 'cross dressing'. So if you're a really petite bloke, and you find the jeans in M&S petites a better fit, you do you. If you decide that M&S lacy knickers are arousing, then I'm not interested.

It's a kink and unlikely to be the only one.

An easy no.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
I note OP has done a bunk though!

Ugh. No.

I see the MRAs have come on to vote on this subject.

Light the touch paper and run awaaaaaaaay 😂

Interesting thread though.

Perhaps he didn't get the answers he hoped for

I wouldn't have a clue which way to vote as OP didn't express their own opinion.

Folks voting must be guessing at it

Not a chance. I’m not interested in kinks and fetishes and my experience of men who engage in them is it makes for a boring sex life of which you aren’t really considered as being part of. If you are in a sexual relationship with a man who can only get his rocks off if he’s dressed is red lace panties or a giant furry dog costume or you are wearing a maids outfit or comedy stilettos or are holding a whip then you could be anyone at all. The props become the thing. The relationship is meaningless. I’m too fucking old to be wasting my time on shit sex.

Men who decide that women’s clothes are no not just reserved for wanking/sex but will be worn full time are still men wallowing in a kink/fetish.

Men who chose to wear clothes traditionally for women or purchased from a woman’s department for other reasons don’t fall into this. They might be doing it because it matches their personal sense of style, for physical comfort, or because it gets them fawning attention. They might be tediously, desperately “non conforming”. They may have a killer sense of style. They may want a nice flatly cooling garment to keep the sun off them on a hot day. What they aren’t doing is furiously wanking at the thought of how damn kinky they are - that’s a huge difference imo.

would you expect men to consider you a potential partner and date you - of course.

Of course not. Where on earth do you get this from?

If they're not attracted to that aesthetic, why do you think we'd expect them to date someone with it? Even if that woman is their usual type, they don't have to consider and date her if she isn't spinning their wheels for whatever reason. All we'd request is that he not be a dick about it.

Where have you got this from? That women expect any heterosexual man to be interested in any heterosexual woman?

God no.

Paraphilias cluster, so if he has this kink then it's very likely he has others.

I wouldn't date a man who likes wearing nappies or putting a dog tail up his butt either.

Actually dressing like a woman? Absolutely not. I would worry it was part of a deeper fetish I have no desire to explore.
Gender non-conforming? Comfortable in their masculinity but doesn't always conform to stereotypically male dress? Absolutely.

no

No chance in hell

No.

No problem at all with it in a friend, but I personally would find it a turn off for a relationship. I'd also have in mind the wry joke from the TQ+ community about 'whats the difference between a cross dresser and a TW? About two years'. This tends to escalate and it often isn't someone emotionally in a good place to be able to have a healthy relationship.

I think there’s a big difference between cross-dressing and gender non-conforming that’s getting confused here. The latter is fine by me, cross-dressing implies something different that has its grounding in sexuality.

As others have said a bit eye liner and a skirt would be okay (old Eddie Izzard) but fishnets, knee high boots and a wig (current Eddie Izzard) no thanks.