Would you date a man who cross dressed?

[Supernova23]

Compatible in most ways but they admitted from the beginning they cross dressed. Would you?

Jeans and hoodies are unisex garments, they aren’t a parody of men.

Absolutely not ... but I am past the stage when I would want to date anyone ...man, woman or spurs fan.

I loathe the 'look at meeeee' aspect of it, I work with the general public in retail and a few 'cross dressers' come into my shop, you can tell that they almost want to shock us by choosing the most ridiculous outfits ... apart from a polite 'good morning' I just ignore them.

Not a flat yes or no from me. I like gender fluidity/androgyny - honestly if he looked good in women's stuff I would find it quite a turn on, but if he just looked like a bloke in a dress less so. But that might only be an issue if he wanted to wear that during sexual activities with me. If he just enjoyed dressing up for the fun of it I might not mind even if he didn't look great in it.

That’s not in the same league , @Helenloveslee4eva .

A man cross dressing is performing his kink in public. There’s a sexual element. Like pretty much every other respondent, I want no part in that.

A woman in traditionally male clothes tends to do so for comfort or practicality, and maybe sometimes to shock a little (i’m
think of Cindy Crawford shaving kd lang on the cover of GQ). It’s not a kink.

Pretty much every serial killer of Women has been a cross dresser so the answer is No, it was No 20 years ago and seeing all the freaks on twitter etc. has solidified my position. No to any other fetish too , however ‘harmless’ it seems.
Anyone who thinks that transvestism is ok should look at a few ‘Transwidow’ experiences.
The Men are all selfish beyond belief and it always ramps up when children are born etc.
Run for the hills is my only advice.

Don’t you already know the feelings towards cross dress on MN? Why are you asking here?

No idea which way the voting is supposed to work but it's a definite 'hell no' from me. Hard to think of anything more of a turn off

As most other people have said:

• wearing what they want - yes, he sounds open minded and confident
• dressing 'as a woman' - no, sounds like he would have sexist assumptions of what men and women 'should' be like.

The fact that he's making a big deal of it rather than just getting on with it suggests the second.

Also, I had no idea what autogynephilia was before this thread. Googled it and..... Really odd.

No unless they were enormously wealthy. Like Bezos wealthy. Then I might think about it.

In real life, no. Life's too short and I'm afraid that I would constantly worry that this was the first step in a journey that ended up with a different sexuality or a different gender. I know that's not the case for everyone but the fact it can happen would play on my mind constantly.

No

And I don't have to justify who I find attractive.

Men who wear make up - fine

Men who dress up as their pornified image of a hooker - nope.

@Ragwort in my teens (about a hundred years ago) i used to work in a shoe shop and every month or so a guy would come in and sit and watch my feet (high heels) with a scary intensity and when served would ask for any ladies shoes with heels in a size 8 or up (this was pre-internet so no choice to buy online).

He'd buy what he was offered. I simultaniously felt weirdly sorry for him and found him creepy as hell. Nothing's changed really. I feel the same about cross dressers now.

No

@Helenloveslee4eva 'gender flipping' this wouldn't work because men do not behave the same way as women when it comes to sex and violence.

For example, some cross dressing men have put on women's underwear in the M&S changing rooms to masturbate - we know this because some of them have shown off about it on social media.

When women wear stereotypically male clothing they are not doing it for masturbatory purposes.

The term cross-dressing implies a sexual element. I'm all for people resisting out-dated stereotypes but any kinks that involve non-consenting people being involved are a bad thing, and it's important that we don't inadvertently help to facilitate them.

I don't want to be part of the thrill some bloke gets from wanking next to me in a changing room.

For me it’s a sign of possible unresolved mother issues and I honestly couldn’t be doing with waxing through that minefield. I have enough of my own mental health issues without knowingly taking on someone else’s.

Absolutely not

They can but we are also at liberty to find it a turn off.

I dated one once, and he told me about his propensity on the 3rd date. I tried to get past it, but couldn't. Especially after visiting his place and seeing his clothes and accessories. He had more clothes than I did.

No, a touch of Me Me Drama. Uninteresting.

If by cross-dressing you mean dressing up for kinks as a caricature of what men think a woman is, then no. It's important for kinks to be compatible. Skirts and heels just don't do anything for me.

I don't even cross-dress as a woman, and I am one.

No! Each to their own but I would not want that in a partner.

No. That’s where it all starts I reckon.

I am not going to enable men in any of their bullshit.

Do you mean dressing as a caricature of a woman OP?
Then NO the man is a misogynist .
Don't have sex with men like that!!
Leave him be on his own.
Much better for everyone.

Absolutely not. It would give me the major ick.