Would you date a man who cross dressed?

[Supernova23]

Compatible in most ways but they admitted from the beginning they cross dressed. Would you?

Most women cross dress for comfort and practicality.

A lot of men cross dress because it's a fetish.

No

It wouldn’t bother me, I care more about other qualities than what clothes someone wears

No, because this would be a red flag for me.

Lol, Hell to the NO.

Years ago - before the current toxic culture wars - I dated a man who cross-dressed and I was surprised at how much I disliked it because I am unashamedly "woke" and always thought that I wouldn't mind.

I turned up at a house party and he opened the door in a dress - no warning or anything so I was taken aback because we had been dating for a while and I had no idea that he had this proclivity. My confusion was visible and he didn't like it. He'd wanted me to be totally accepting from the off, but - unlike your man - he hadn't warned me in advance so I was in shock.

In my case I'm afraid it was nothing more than a superficial matter of style, fashion and aesthetics. He was quite butch (think Alex Reid) and he just looked weird in a dress, even worse than Harry Styles (who to my mind doesn't suit dresses either). I think I would have been up for it otherwise. My head went into full swing cognitive dissonance switching between the gently masculine man I was falling in love with and the butch-girly man standing in front of me.

Jeez, perhaps I'm not as "Woke" as I thought. And no I would not date a cross-dresser these days.

I snogged a guy dressed as a Bond girl at a Uni party, it was fancy dress (well, his costume was - the party itself was meant to be black tie but he’d misunderstood!). I’d have no problem with a man wearing feminine clothing as a fashion choice (Harry Styles doesn’t do it for me, but not because of his clothes).

”Cross-dressing” however is, for me, different to those things and is done for a sexual thrill. A man with a fetish like that would not be attractive to me.

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Let’s just gender flip this.
you are a woman who never wears dresses , like shirts and brogues, short hair . But you are a woman who identifies themselves as woman and entirely heterosexual. would you expect men to consider you a potential partner and date you - of course.

That feels very different doesn’t it ? Cultural norms and all that ,but women battled stereotypes until really recently to be accepted dressing like that.

as regards the OP I dunno. Probably not , but if my son wanted to wear a dress as a kid I’d shrug and say fill your boots boy in a dress.

very odd when you consider the different aspects of this. Confused feelings 😂😂

No.

Not sure Scottish man wearing a traditional national costume is in the same ball park! Much like many Muslim men wear long items that may resemble a dress, it’s traditional garb, not any way shape or form a type of cross dressing!

No

Surely if your thing is to have sex with men who dress as women, then you’d actively go looking for that type of man?

Fuck No.

As others have said, wearing eyeshadow, nail varnish and high heels is fine and lovely.
Thinking you’re a women because you’ve put on some lingerie- No, No and No again.

I married a Spurs fan 😳

Woul depend on the context. If it was in a Harry Styles type way, it wouldn't bother me, any other way no.

No

No. DH has worn items from the women's department because of the comfort and style. He would never describe himself as a cross dresser.

In my experience cross dressers do it for sexual gratification. It's always the tackiest and most uncomfortable items they choose to wear. Seeing a man in some cheap, red, polyester knickers with everything hanging out the side would repulse me.

No, but men dressing as women gives me the ick - even if it was for fancy dress or something.

Each to their own, but it's not something I find attractive

On the Harry styles point, there's a difference between being a performer who's a bit avant garde and your ordinary bloke who wears women's clothes to appease a sexual fetish. Also loads of cross dressers seem to dress like Lesley Joseph in Birds of a Feather - fishnets, stilettos, leather miniskirts and the like. Harry is stylish. It helps.

No. All power to people to be themselves but I don't have to find it sexually attractive.

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No. To me, its a kink, and there are many kinks I wouldn't find attractive.

Nope.

Of the two men I've know to cross dress both have been abusive. Obviously this is anecdotal but i do wonder if there is a link between fetishizing women and their clothing and DV.