Would you date a man who cross dressed?

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Compatible in most ways but they admitted from the beginning they cross dressed. Would you?

Really not getting the confusion between gender non-conforming men (Harry Styles) and cross dressing which is a paraphilia.

First is fine - I love stylish individuals. Absolutely a no on the second.

No. Fine if occasional Cosplay although now I'm in my 50s I'd be wary of men who enjoy dressing as female characters for Cosplay too. I don't find men in women's underwear or clothes sexy and Izard etc have shown cross dressing can be the start of more trans umbrella stuff once you start identifying as trans.

Spurs fans 😂

Cross dressing - not a deal breaker.
Claiming to be a biological woman - absolutely not.

However - you can choose not to date someone for any reason you like.

A woman who never wears dresses , likes shirts and brogues, short hair , entirely heterosexual. I would never expect men to consider me a potential partner and date me. Some of them will, some of them won't, they are entitled to their own tastes. I dress to express myself, and of course I want to be with someone who is attracted to me for who I am. If the way I dress puts some men off, that is to the good.

No

According to @BadgerFacedCoo I have a fetish🙄I had better tell DH But I consider him to have a Festish (He supports Arsenal!)
It takes allsorts
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Happily married for 45 years but I would find a cross dresser a complete turn off.

I am lolling at the "spurs fans". As an aussie whose oldest son used to adore Gareth Bale am I missing something? :)

Men who dress a bit flamboyantly on occasions, with a bit of makeup? Sure, why not. Especially if it's a bit of punky eyeliner. I knocked around the burlesque/alternative arts scene for a bit and we all dressed like that. Bloody fantastic.

"Proper" cross-dressing, as in trying to look like a woman? Hard no. Ick.

Christ no. Not in a million years.
I am very wary of any man who has such a reductive insulting view of women that he gets off on the self-debasement of what he thinks is dressing himself 'as a woman' -massive red flags.

This is a man who not only has fixed views of what men and women should be like, but he actually sexually fetishises that power imbalance against women. As a woman myself, who like all the other women I know has been harmed by sexism that no man will ever face… I find men doing all that is offensive.

What was that apt MN phrase? ‘Running yourself a lovely warm bath in someone else’s oppression and then having a wank in it.’

No, because personally I wouldn’t find that attractive. That doesn’t make me transphobic.

And, to add, what does “dressing like a woman” look like?

Is it a top and biker jeans from Mint Velvet, with a pair of Vejas, and a slither of Dior glow on the lips and nails? This is what I see a lot of women wearing.

or…

Is it like the man I saw in a department store the other day wearing; 4” heeled thigh high boots, a skin tight dress that barely covered the arse, a platinum blond wig, fake red nails and loads of badly applied eye makeup and smudged red lips.

I don’t know why men think we dress like this? Oh, actually I do. It’s because their sick brains tell them that’s what a woman looks like.

No. You're allowed to find some things sexually attractive and others not. As a heterosexual woman, I like men to look like men. My body, my choice. Same as I probably wouldn't date a transman. It's just my sexuality.

I say all of that as someone who loves style, costume and gender non conforming style on anyone male or female. ‘Cross dressing’ is a creepy paraphilia though that I want nothing to do with.

Absolutely not.
Give them an inch, they take a mile. He'll be wanting to meet you in the Ladies, next.
No.

No. But I don’t find that attractive personally, it’s a bit of a turn off really. If it was something I could find attractive, or at least didn’t find ‘unattractive’, then I wouldn’t have an issue with it. Depends on your personal preference.

Not a chance.

But for a laugh I'd have a candlit supper in private with him in his gear, me wearing a strap on and speedos.

Give them an inch, they take a mile.

^ absolutely this.

Nope. Call me a bigot all you like, but a bloke in tights and knickers just doesn't do it for me.

No. I was married to a man who cross-dressed and I thought it was just a harmless quirk. How wrong I was. The effect it had on me and our children was awful. My advice? Stay well clear of a relationship - be friends if you like, but don’t get emotionally involved, for your own sake.

No, not for me thanks.

I accidentally found out my partner was a secret cross dresser, it was the final nail in the coffin. He was using my clothes. There were other problems in the relationship and several of them related to the fetish, its not just about the clothes.

No I wouldn't I done it before several times and it just gets complicated. Especially as once you have accepted it they then want to take it further. That's fine if your fine with it but it just causes hassel and upset and personally for me I don't need that in my life. Check out where they are with it and how they want it to progress then decide.

People's personal relationship boundaries are there to set as they wish: politics has no place in it.

Otherwise it's rather like those dire people trying to tell lesbians that they're 'sexual racists' and should 'overcome their learned genital preferences' and stop 'selfishly prioritising their own orgasms' and 'learn to cope' with sex with biological male people who identify as lesbian. (All direct quotes sadly.)

Which implies that the lesbian in question has no business looking for a happy reciprocal relationship based on mutual attraction, or a right to find sex equally fulfilling and enjoyable, but has a social duty to provide with her body to male people with no business getting stroppy about it. No woman should ever be settling for that, I'd encourage reading the pinned post at the top of the relationships board.

Agree with DowningStreetparty that men can dress flamboyantly and wear make up without it being "cross dressing". New age romantic/ glam rock men in the 70s and 80s dressed up and wore make up but they never said they were dressing "as women" and looking like a woman was never the aim. I do think you have to be a young man to carry off that look though and on men in their 50s and 60s it just looks daft and as though they are trying to cross dress.