Garden Party

[Peckhaminn]

I'm looking at having a garden party for my birthday mid summer with all of our close friends (perhaps 30 people) and we live in a close knit new build estate where everyone's on top of each other. We are semi detached. We will have music and will inform both neighbours behind us and next to us. We have told guests that the party will start at 2:30 and finish at 11 as our neighbours have young children. Is this reasonable?

I'd check none of your near neighbours are at work on Sunday mornings. Not everyone works mon-fri 9-5, and there's nothing shitter than a 4am start when your neighbours have been playing music until 11pm.

Yes would only do it on a Saturday!
Maybe 3-9 would be better suited? Just trying to consider everyone. Some of our friends can get quite rowdy once they've had a drink so best to keep it finishing earlier. Oh what I'd do to have a detached house!!!
Honestly your friends just need to be courteous to other people and not drink so much that they're likely to be rowdy enough to disrupt the neighbours.

You don't need to finish a social gathering at 9pm. Your friends just need to not be in the garden with music on and being rowdy at 11pm.

This is why people have said it can be a case of reasonable and unreasonable to have a party outside with music because so much of it depends on the people there.

One of my neighbours regularly has family and friends round for socials in the summer. We can sometimes hear their music in the afternoon to early evening, but honestly it doesn't bother me.

A whole afternoon and evening of 30 people who get rowdy after a drink would do my head in.

Totally unreasonable.

We had this on the weekend. Music so loud from 1pm. We didn't even live next door but across the street. My child was complaining that it was too loud. People want to enjoy their weekend. You have babies that need to nap in the day. Kids go sleep at 7.

Book a cheap venue and take it there.

If you have a detached house that wasn't so close to neighbours, ok. But even they would be annoyed.

The party near us got shut down after a few hours, neighbours won't tolerate it. Why should they?

Miserable lot. So people have to be silent now so babies can nap in the day. How ridiculous.

How did a party get shut down in the day btw? It’s not against the law to have a party with noise and I don’t think noise regulations kick in until 11pm so you wouldn’t be able to complain to anybody?

As a one-off with warning I think that sounds perfectly OK. Provided it is not going to be some hugely rowdy, out of control drunken affair.

I remember years ago my sister had a party in the garden for her 40th. It was on a Saturday night. The close by neighbours were invited but someone in the next street complained to the police at about 9pm!!!

The police turned up, took one look and realised it was a well behaved, under control adult party and were not that interested. Sister offered them a sausage roll and gave assurances that the party would have moved indoors long before midnight. All was fine.

No you don't have to be silent.

But the party we heard for hours in the day had non stop loud bass, DJ, crowd screaming. Why should we put up with that?

Whole world has to revolve around someone else's kids don't you know. Bit its okay if their kid makes rons of noise outside so people cant enjoy their gardens cos u know thats just kids playing so thats okay and in summer that every bloody evening but you know God forbid we teach children not to scream and screech when playing.

Those will be the kids that grow up and think playing music on the bus and train on loudspeaker is okay

39 people already make quite a bit of noise - can you not play the music inside?

Bloody hell don’t cut it at ten, 11 is totally fine, you’re allowed an occasional party. Have fun op. x

So how are people getting home if everyone is drinking? It's about half an hour of noise, saying goodbyes, getting in taxis etc. Finishing at 10, so quiet at 11 would be better.

It's fine.
You are warning them so if any one is running a marathon the following day they can make preparations.
It's not every week.

We have neighbours who have an all day/night garden party once a year (it's always sunny, dunno how they do that). And they add in a brass band (he played in 1).

More irritating is the other neighbours with their impromptu pissed up hot tub (fucking loud pumps) frolics that go on and on..

In the day? Sounds like a great party. There are no noise limits on party noise in the day. How did it get shut down? It really wouldn’t bother me. You could always go out for a few hours if it’s really bothering you.

It's a long party - we would usually have an afternoon gathering or an evening one, but we don't have neighbours nearby to worry about.
If it's not overly loud and not a frequent event I wouldn't worry about it, but maybe turn the music down after 9 and not shout. And let the neighbours know.

Shut down? During the day? YABU

Depends on your neighbours. One side I would just invite and not worry about them. On the other side one of them has autism so I would have to ask how it would impact him first

Nothing* wrong with this at all, crack on. The world doesn’t stop because people near by may or may not have young kids. And it’s a nice touch to invite the immediate neighbours.

*Assuming it’s pretty rare

• Might be an idea to at least turn the music down outside after a certain point

Absolutely fine.

A one off in the summer ending at 11 ! I can not believe the misery on here.

Have a lovely lovely time.

Honestly it's your home, you're informing people, it's not drum n 'bass. Go for it.

I do think you should invite your close neighbours. I know. I know. But they probably won't come anyway.

Yes you would be unreasonable to play loud music in your garden for 10 hours.

10 or even 9 would be more considerate and you should give them warning in advance. Our neighbours once of twice a year have garden parties which go on till around that time. Noone sleeps through it, and my kids get up at 5 so that's great. I don't and wouldn't say anything as they are relatively rare, but it's a huge pain in the backside when it's happening. I have to admit I am not particularly careful about my kids making noise in the garden the next morning though ;)

I have to admit I am not particularly careful about my kids making noise in the garden the next morning though ;)

And I'm sure the neighbours accept it. All give and take.

Well, exactly. Which is why I am not worried about what they think. Given they've kept us all up.

We wouldn't invite any of our neighbours, as majority are much older than us with children and I'm more than certain they wouldn't want to come anyway.

I think you'd be surprised 😆

Wait. They kept you up until 9 or 10 so kids go out early in a morning as revenge or something?
I am probably misreading!

no, gone 11. Sometimes later. On one occassion we had very loud singing that woke up the entire house at 3.
I don't do it for revenge no, but I am also not going to go out of my way to keep my overtired kids inside and quiet for hours just so they can sleep off their hangovers. Consideration and effort goes both ways.

If it's a Saturday, you tell them, and you turn the music down a bit from 9 then it's fine (depending a bit on the type of music). It's fair enough to have an occasional party.