Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To report this woman on Fb Marketplace. And what will happen to them?

109 replies

LenJoseph · 02/04/2023 13:59

So this morning someone messaged me to ask about some used kids toys I'm selling on Markerplace. Then told me they didn't drive. I quickly checked their profile and apparently it's a woman in her 50-60s. As her address is on my way to town this afternoon, I told her I could do free delivery for her but I'd need part or full prepayment via PayPal or bank transfer to cover my petrol cost just in case, the rest can be paid in cash when I bring the items over. She then asked about another item I'm listing, I told her it was available too and I could bring them all to her, juat that I'd need a prepayment of any amount she liked, perhaps £5. And she replied me with "Don't bloody bother", which left me in deep shock. All the while it was an amicable conversation with me replying her quickly and politely, asking all the question she had. And yes I even offered free delivery cause I guessed she was a grandma buying toys for visiting grandkids or smth like that. I don't know why all of a sudden she became so rude. It's not I don't want to trust people but I'm on Marketplace long enough to know there can be all sorts of trolls and timewasters there, so I think what I asked for is acceptable and not something that can make people turn so angry and rude.

Much as I want to sympathise this woman and who knows, she can have some sort of mental health issue but her last message did "bloody bother" me and I reported the conversation and leave the chat.

Now what do you think? And do have an idea what will happen if someone gets reported like that? I did choose the reason as "verbal harrassment" cause I think that's the closest option given by Facebook/Messenger. TIA.

OP posts:
BettyOBarley · 02/04/2023 14:02

I think you're over reacting tbh. Just block her and forget about it.

NotYourHolidayDick · 02/04/2023 14:03

Eh? This has bothered you enough to start a thread 🤣
You're overreacting like a boss. Nothing will happen.

PatsyJStone · 02/04/2023 14:06

Unlikely anything will happen, I'd just put it behind you. She was a bit rude and I don't think you were wrong to ask for a deposit.

titchy · 02/04/2023 14:06

Facebook will send the police round to arrest her.

Or, not. Hmm

Dontbelieveaword · 02/04/2023 14:08

Seriously, you reported this woman saying she verbally abused you? And now you're assuming she had MH issues. Ffs, you were driving by where she lives anyway so why ask for £5 petrol money but keep saying you were doing a 'free' delivery. You could have just drove there, and if she didn't have the cash to pay for the purchases, you've lost 5 minutes of your time. But instead now you've lost the whole sale. In what way could she have scammed you if you were delivering and getting paid in cash? What was she going to do? Mug you for the toys and slam door in your face...at her own address, on her own doorstep?

MichelleScarn · 02/04/2023 14:11

Bloody hell! I was waiting for you to post you'd gone round, found squalor, drugs and an injured child!!
That phrase wouldn't even register with the majority of the world!

EmilyGilmoresSass · 02/04/2023 14:12

I think you're a bit of a cf to be honest. You can't sit and whinge on like you went out of your way through the goodness of your heart as she might have been a grandma. You were going that way whether you went to drop stuff to her or not and clearly didn't want to pay for petrol for your own trip! And if indeed she did have mh issues as you suggest, in what way do you think you've helped by reporting her to marketplace? That woman may rely on buying things preloved due to financial reasons or anything and you try to get her blocked for saying three words? Christ on a bike.

1smallhamsterfoot · 02/04/2023 14:12

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

AutumnCrow · 02/04/2023 14:13

I feel like I've missed something regarding the petrol money / free delivery part of the tale.

GrasstrackGirl · 02/04/2023 14:13

Get a bloody life.

Tellmethespoiler · 02/04/2023 14:13

She was incredibly rude and offensive. You’re well off out of it. Facebook probably won’t do anything, though.

RiktheButler · 02/04/2023 14:14

If you think her message was worth reporting, I implore you to steer clear of the ski trip thread!

MrNook · 02/04/2023 14:15

Tbh if I was messaging about something on marketplace and they kept telling me they wanted money upfront I'd think it was dodgy.

Yes she was rude but you are overreacting, just close the chat and move on

steff13 · 02/04/2023 14:16

This is a non-event, and they won't do anything.

lemmein · 02/04/2023 14:16

I sell on Etsy/eBay - 'don't bloody bother' is mild compared to some of the messages I receive 🤣

The thing is with selling online, one side has to trust the other with very little to go on. I can understand you asking for petrol money because FB MP is full of time-wasting idiots, but it's also full of scam sellers so she probably felt reluctant to send a stranger cash who might not turn up. On other selling sites the cash is processed by the platform so the buyer has some comeback if things go wrong but that's not how FB works - she prob just couldn't be bothered with the hassle.

Xarrie · 02/04/2023 14:18

Nothing will happen, which is the correct course of action.

Are you new to Facebook?

Growlybear83 · 02/04/2023 14:18

If you're in deep shock by what this woman said, I hate to think how you would cope with something that really IS shocking!

Anothergeneralisation · 02/04/2023 14:19

It bloody annoys me that, every time a poster comes across someone rude, they always make the suggestion of MH problems.

Some people are just twats.
Many people with MH problems aren’t rude.
HTH.

Sugarplumfairy65 · 02/04/2023 14:19

Batshit! You were passing, offered free delivery but asked for money upfront for delivery? She probably thinks you're a scammer.

Original poster
LenJoseph · 02/04/2023 14:19

It's a deposit for the items, not delivery fee. It's £15 in total, I asked her to send me £5 deposit and the rest can be paid in cash. So if she actually buys them it's £15 with no delivery cost.

But that £5 will be to cover my petrol cost if let's say I bring it there and she says she doesn't like it and won't take it. Who knows.

OP posts:
Namechange1345677 · 02/04/2023 14:20

Haha...she prob thought you were scaming her!

Markasread · 02/04/2023 14:20

Why did you need to ask for petrol money repeatedly when you were going that way anyway? That makes no sense at all. She probably concluded you were a scammer. I don't understand the just in case part either. If she hadn't wanted the items it wouldn't have been a wasted journey because it was on your way.

I can't believe you reported her for saying that.

AutumnCrow · 02/04/2023 14:21

LenJoseph · 02/04/2023 14:19

It's a deposit for the items, not delivery fee. It's £15 in total, I asked her to send me £5 deposit and the rest can be paid in cash. So if she actually buys them it's £15 with no delivery cost.

But that £5 will be to cover my petrol cost if let's say I bring it there and she says she doesn't like it and won't take it. Who knows.

But that sounds like a non-refundable deposit.

Whinge · 02/04/2023 14:22

I don't think her response was rude, she was probably worried you were trying to scam her. If she sends you a deposit and then you don't turn up, there's no way for her to get her money back. If you want to sell the items and were going past her house why not just offer to drop them off?

HappyValet · 02/04/2023 14:22

There's absolutely no chance I'd send someone £5 in advance in that scenario. None.

I wouldn't say 'don't bloody bother' but I'd probably say 'its ok I'll just leave it thanks' but I'd be thinking something rather more rude.

YABVVVVU