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To report this woman on Fb Marketplace. And what will happen to them?

109 replies

LenJoseph · 02/04/2023 13:59

So this morning someone messaged me to ask about some used kids toys I'm selling on Markerplace. Then told me they didn't drive. I quickly checked their profile and apparently it's a woman in her 50-60s. As her address is on my way to town this afternoon, I told her I could do free delivery for her but I'd need part or full prepayment via PayPal or bank transfer to cover my petrol cost just in case, the rest can be paid in cash when I bring the items over. She then asked about another item I'm listing, I told her it was available too and I could bring them all to her, juat that I'd need a prepayment of any amount she liked, perhaps £5. And she replied me with "Don't bloody bother", which left me in deep shock. All the while it was an amicable conversation with me replying her quickly and politely, asking all the question she had. And yes I even offered free delivery cause I guessed she was a grandma buying toys for visiting grandkids or smth like that. I don't know why all of a sudden she became so rude. It's not I don't want to trust people but I'm on Marketplace long enough to know there can be all sorts of trolls and timewasters there, so I think what I asked for is acceptable and not something that can make people turn so angry and rude.

Much as I want to sympathise this woman and who knows, she can have some sort of mental health issue but her last message did "bloody bother" me and I reported the conversation and leave the chat.

Now what do you think? And do have an idea what will happen if someone gets reported like that? I did choose the reason as "verbal harrassment" cause I think that's the closest option given by Facebook/Messenger. TIA.

OP posts:
Redglitter · 02/04/2023 15:12

Your version of events makes you sound dodgy. If someone asked me for a deposit for an item I'd back out of the transaction & assume it was a scam

But really 'don't bloody bother' left you in deep shock 🙄 Seems a bit of an odd response to something so minor

Perhaps FB marketplace isn't for you

Crunchymum · 02/04/2023 15:16

I thought you were going to say she called you a fucking cunt or something.

[Being called that is why I would never use FB MP again but even then I didn't report it!]

IoooAINToooSAYINGoooSHEoooA · 02/04/2023 15:16

You've reported her for verbal harassment for saying don't bloody bother?

What would you have done if she would have said don't fucking bother? Called the police?

Tellmethespoiler · 02/04/2023 15:16

BMW6 · 02/04/2023 15:00

If someone saying "Don't bloody bother" leaves you in "deep shock" you need some kind of therapy!

🙄

No. It’s not normal to swear at people. Stop normalising unpleasant and rude behaviour.

PippaF2 · 02/04/2023 15:16

It's likely the woman just misunderstood what the £5 was for. She probably thought it was petrol money, or she thought you were trying to con her and ask for money because you equally could have pocketed that cash and just not shown up. If I was liaising with someone on marketplace and they said to me - oh I drive past that way on my way to work, I can bring them to you but I'd like £5 deposit - I would have run a mile too.

I think it was OTT to report her. She was rude, because she could have said - I'm not comfortable with that, but she was giving you her address, you had the goods, if she was a no show, didn't answer her door - you wouldn't have been out of pocket. The risk was hers and hers only to take with paypalling you a fiver.

Do you see what I mean?

She shouldn't have been rude but she didn't say anything worthy of a reportable offence.

AJ2009 · 02/04/2023 15:33

Turn the scenario around... would you send £5 to a stranger banking on them delivering for free?

How the hell does she know you are genuine?

I would have said don't bother either.

Reporting this woman for 'verbal harassment' then making a thread about it makes you out to be over the top .

Get on with your day

girlfriend44 · 02/04/2023 15:37

Move on fgs, what do expect Facebook to do.

Not all people are nice or react the way you wanted them too.

maddening · 02/04/2023 15:48

I have delivered many items locally and never asked for prepayment, I would not proceed in her position either.

GooseberryCinnamonYogurt · 02/04/2023 15:56

BettyOBarley · 02/04/2023 14:02

I think you're over reacting tbh. Just block her and forget about it.

This

But I ask why charge for petrol when you were going that way?

ReluctantFishLady · 02/04/2023 15:57

Only an idiot would agree to send someone money in the hope that you would turn up with the items. Even if she didn't like the items when she was them you wanted to keep her money? Maybe your intentions were genuine but there is little to distinguish you from someone pulling a fast one in this scenario. The woman probably thought you were a scammer, hence her rudeness.

CurlewKate · 02/04/2023 15:59

Block and forget. And think about why you thought her age was relevant.

Travelfan2021 · 02/04/2023 16:02

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Shoelacesundone · 02/04/2023 16:05

It's not verbal harassment so you're lying if you report it as such. You getting banned is the most likely outcome...they can see your exchange remember.

MissMaple82 · 02/04/2023 16:09

You were unreasonable asking for a deposit. I'm not surprised she got pissed off. Either collection only or free delivery, but don't piss around expecting a deposit, it ain't gonna happen !!!

MissMaple82 · 02/04/2023 16:11

For the record, bloody isn't a swear word !

Sorryyoufeelthatway · 02/04/2023 16:14

Bloody hell! Maybe give up and donate to a charity shop.

Tellmethespoiler · 02/04/2023 16:17

Shoelacesundone · 02/04/2023 16:05

It's not verbal harassment so you're lying if you report it as such. You getting banned is the most likely outcome...they can see your exchange remember.

Of course it’s verbal harassment! The woman swore at her -that’s verbal harassment.

Tellmethespoiler · 02/04/2023 16:17

MissMaple82 · 02/04/2023 16:11

For the record, bloody isn't a swear word !

Of course it is…

EmilyGilmoresSass · 02/04/2023 16:24

LenJoseph · 02/04/2023 14:19

It's a deposit for the items, not delivery fee. It's £15 in total, I asked her to send me £5 deposit and the rest can be paid in cash. So if she actually buys them it's £15 with no delivery cost.

But that £5 will be to cover my petrol cost if let's say I bring it there and she says she doesn't like it and won't take it. Who knows.

But again... since you seem to be deliberately avoiding answering... why did you want to charge her £5 deposit (allegedly not delivery fee)? Even if you had gone to her and she chose not to buy, you were going that way so how do you actually make out that she would owe you petrol costs? You're taking the absolute piss and what she said would have been a lot nicer than the response you'd have gotten from me! You've a nerve!

Whattt44 · 02/04/2023 16:27

The way you've gone about this is exactly what scammers do .

BlackBarbies · 02/04/2023 16:29

Pls get several grips

PlantagenetEmbassy · 02/04/2023 16:30

Given you've been exposed to several phrases and reactions far worse than "don't bloody bother" on this thread and you're not left deeply shaken by the replies on here I'd like an explanation OP.

clpsmum · 02/04/2023 16:31

I don't really understand why it couldn't be cash on delivery???

Scarlettpixie · 02/04/2023 16:33

You are the one who sounds like a scammer. She pays the deposit and you don’t show up? I wouldn’t pay a deposit in those circumstances.

CrotchetyCrocheting · 02/04/2023 16:34

The strangest people in the world populate Facebook marketplace. I wouldn't have bothered reporting it tbh. It's just all part of it's charm.

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