To report this woman on Fb Marketplace. And what will happen to them?

[LenJoseph]

So this morning someone messaged me to ask about some used kids toys I'm selling on Markerplace. Then told me they didn't drive. I quickly checked their profile and apparently it's a woman in her 50-60s. As her address is on my way to town this afternoon, I told her I could do free delivery for her but I'd need part or full prepayment via PayPal or bank transfer to cover my petrol cost just in case, the rest can be paid in cash when I bring the items over. She then asked about another item I'm listing, I told her it was available too and I could bring them all to her, juat that I'd need a prepayment of any amount she liked, perhaps £5. And she replied me with "Don't bloody bother", which left me in deep shock. All the while it was an amicable conversation with me replying her quickly and politely, asking all the question she had. And yes I even offered free delivery cause I guessed she was a grandma buying toys for visiting grandkids or smth like that. I don't know why all of a sudden she became so rude. It's not I don't want to trust people but I'm on Marketplace long enough to know there can be all sorts of trolls and timewasters there, so I think what I asked for is acceptable and not something that can make people turn so angry and rude.

Much as I want to sympathise this woman and who knows, she can have some sort of mental health issue but her last message did "bloody bother" me and I reported the conversation and leave the chat.

Now what do you think? And do have an idea what will happen if someone gets reported like that? I did choose the reason as "verbal harrassment" cause I think that's the closest option given by Facebook/Messenger. TIA.

Oh, and you can change your advertisement to say 'pick up only' to save you having to be subjected to anymore deep shock next time you ask someone for a deposit

So you weren't worried of MH issues until she said 'don't bloody bother' and from that you assume she has MH issues.. what?! That's ridiculous. It was obvious your deposit was for petrol money for the 'free delivery' and/or because you didnt trust her to be in/pay you. She wasn't born yesterday. She knows your charging her petrol money/dont trust her to pay you therefore she has thought, don't bloody bother. So you report her for verbal harassment for catching on lol 😆

To be honest, I'd just block and not give her a second thought.

You are the one who sounds like a scammer. She pays the deposit and you don’t show up? I wouldn’t pay a deposit in those circumstances
Exactly!!!

How did she know you wasnt going to scam her and keep the money she sent over without delivering the toys?

You could be as much of a scammer as you think she is.

And why did you need to cover your petrol many when you say in your first post, you were driving that way anyway?

I assume she thought you were some form of scammer trying to get her to transfer cash and you’d then not turn up. she was a bit rude but I find your reaction quite unusual. If you find “don’t bloody bother “shocking you must lead a very sheltered life.

Ooh , I’m now going to find the ski trip thread to see what’s going on there 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

Yeah, I agree with @Emma2023 - anyone let us have the ski trip thread?

People are rude sometimes. This person was rude to you, but you don’t report them for harassment. Just tell them not to be rude and move on.

Asking for a deposit is reasonable, there are a lot of people on Facebook expecting things for free and delivered onto their laps for nothing. Covering the cost of petrol if you’re on your way into town anyway might have been a little tight.

I wouldn’t have prepaid any money to you either! You sound like the scammer! How did she know you’d actually turn up and that you were who you said you were!

FB won’t do anything about the reporting.

Maybe she was trying to scam you by having you take the time to drive over and then offer you less than the asking price on the assumption that you'd accept less money to avoid the hassle of readvertising? Personally I think it's odd that she wanted to buy something but said she can't drive to collect. You're not flippin John Lewis!

I don't know why you're getting such a hard time on here Op. Makes you wonder why people bother posting. Of course the woman was rude! I see what you mean about the deposit/down-payment, sounds sensible to me.

My money is on you being the OP

^ This

I put something high value on fb once for free, someone contacted me pleading to have it but no car. Could I deliver. As a kindness I did, only they didn’t answer the door.

I didn’t want to leave it as it was a communal kind of area. I messaged and rang- nothing.

Drove home.

They messaged me asking to go back another day! I declined. They said they’ll come and get it. I stayed in. They didn’t. Contacted me again to rearrange and I said no.

It wasn’t close to home either.

Cheeky fuckery.

No way would I transfer money to a stranger when there’s no guarantee fee they would deliver the goods.

"Deep shock" 😂😂😂

Nothing wrong with asking for a deposit, she'd said she didn't drive so clearly she needed them delivered. Why should you take the chance of bothering and find she's not in, or changed her mind? So that's your (reasonable) call, and declining it was hers. The "Don't bloody bother" was totally rude but I'd have just told her to do one, and leave it there. FB defo won't do anything, you get rude people all over marketplace unfortunately.

Jeez Louise.

You'd have loved the drama I once had on eBay.... The crazy old witch DEMANDED THAT I send her my address and she would be there within half an hour

Just brush it off, there are some loons out there.

I disagree because the op was incurring no financial risk or hardship by stopping somewhere on a journey she was already making. However she was expecting the other party to pay for a journey she was already making and to incur financial risk for what looks on the face of it just like a scam. It was just odd.

I disagree because the op was incurring no financial risk or hardship by stopping somewhere on a journey she was already making. However she was expecting the other party to pay for a journey she was already making and to incur financial risk for what looks on the face of it just like a scam. It was just odd

She wasn't charging for the journey! The OP has said the deposit was coming off the price of the items, but she wanted the show of faith before bothering to deliver to a stranger. Her prerogative. Why would the buyer assume that's a scam when it was the buyer asking for delivery in the first place? The buyer can choose to take a risk in exchange for free convenient delivery or just say "no thanks". She was rude.

She was going to charge for the journey if no sale was made, actually. Even though she wasn't out of pocket because she would have been making it anyway.

Yes she was rude but the op was taking the piss.

Complete overreaction!! I wouldn't have paid anything in advance either - how was she to know you would turn up? Why did you need money to cover your fuel costs when she was on your way to town and you were going anyway? You are the one in the wrong here. As for reporting her, that is beyond ridiculous, and as for "being left in deep shock" ......... how on earth are you going to cope if something actually shocking ever happens to you? You seem to have led an extremely sheltered life.

Verbal harassment? 🤣 Bit of a drama llama aren’t you? Yes the woman was rude but a simple reply of ‘fuck you then’ would have sufficed. 🤷🏻‍♀️

You were "deeply shocked" jeeeeez.

She was going to charge for the journey if no sale was made, actually. Even though she wasn't out of pocket because she would have been making it anyway

Yes she was rude but the op was taking the piss

Hang on, why wouldn't the sale be made unless the buyer backs out? That's the point of a deposit, as they so often do let you down on marketplace! You've made the point for me there.