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To report this woman on Fb Marketplace. And what will happen to them?

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LenJoseph · 02/04/2023 13:59

So this morning someone messaged me to ask about some used kids toys I'm selling on Markerplace. Then told me they didn't drive. I quickly checked their profile and apparently it's a woman in her 50-60s. As her address is on my way to town this afternoon, I told her I could do free delivery for her but I'd need part or full prepayment via PayPal or bank transfer to cover my petrol cost just in case, the rest can be paid in cash when I bring the items over. She then asked about another item I'm listing, I told her it was available too and I could bring them all to her, juat that I'd need a prepayment of any amount she liked, perhaps £5. And she replied me with "Don't bloody bother", which left me in deep shock. All the while it was an amicable conversation with me replying her quickly and politely, asking all the question she had. And yes I even offered free delivery cause I guessed she was a grandma buying toys for visiting grandkids or smth like that. I don't know why all of a sudden she became so rude. It's not I don't want to trust people but I'm on Marketplace long enough to know there can be all sorts of trolls and timewasters there, so I think what I asked for is acceptable and not something that can make people turn so angry and rude.

Much as I want to sympathise this woman and who knows, she can have some sort of mental health issue but her last message did "bloody bother" me and I reported the conversation and leave the chat.

Now what do you think? And do have an idea what will happen if someone gets reported like that? I did choose the reason as "verbal harrassment" cause I think that's the closest option given by Facebook/Messenger. TIA.

OP posts:
ifyougochasingrabbits · 02/04/2023 21:33

Facebook marketplace is riddled with absolute arseholes and cunts and cheeky bastards

I'd be tempted to message back telling her to get fucked and then block her

Nasty cow

Markasread · 02/04/2023 21:39

Proudofitbabe · 02/04/2023 21:23

She was going to charge for the journey if no sale was made, actually. Even though she wasn't out of pocket because she would have been making it anyway

Yes she was rude but the op was taking the piss

Hang on, why wouldn't the sale be made unless the buyer backs out? That's the point of a deposit, as they so often do let you down on marketplace! You've made the point for me there.

Point is, she's claiming she needed a deposit for the petrol money so she wouldn't be out of pocket. Presumably because she couldn't take on that level of financial risk. But that is a disingenuous claim because she also said she'd be making this journey anyway. So she's under no financial risk and not going to be out of pocket in any eventuality. So she isn't making money off the deposit, no, but she's asking the buyer to take the risk she'll turn up (and I bet the journey didn't cost a fiver anyway) for no reason whatever. It's a meaningless deposit.

The only reason I can think of, putting aside the petrol which is clearly crap because it was already being spent, is the possibility that she wants to be paid a fiver for the hassle of putting the things in her car and making the stop, in the event the sale didn't go through. That is a tiny amount of disruption with no cost. I think she was cheeky to ask and expect a fiver for that and clearly so did the buyer

discobrain · 02/04/2023 21:45

My gods go outside and get some fresh air

saraclara · 02/04/2023 21:51

LenJoseph · 02/04/2023 14:19

It's a deposit for the items, not delivery fee. It's £15 in total, I asked her to send me £5 deposit and the rest can be paid in cash. So if she actually buys them it's £15 with no delivery cost.

But that £5 will be to cover my petrol cost if let's say I bring it there and she says she doesn't like it and won't take it. Who knows.

You're asking her to send you £5 when she doesn't know who you are or whether you'll turn up? In her position I'd immediately assume you were a scammer and no way would I continue with the transaction. Whether I was as brusque as her would depend on what kind of day I'd had.

OnaBegonia · 02/04/2023 22:01

which left me in deep shock.
guess you have a quiet life 🤷🏼‍♀️

Ikilledthebabysharkdododuhdodudoo · 02/04/2023 22:08

Never offer to deliver. Brings out all the CFs.

But overall, you need to toughen up. She was rude, but from her perspective you could have been the scammer. Move on, forget about it.

Re: reporting, nothing will happen.

Proudofitbabe · 02/04/2023 22:15

@Markasread Why should a seller go to ANY disruption whatsoever for a total stranger, on a platform as unreliable as marketplace? The fact that OP was going out is irrelevant, except it meant she COULD offer the delivery for free, when most would have charged extra for the petrol!

If I were a buyer who couldn't collect I'd have been happy with the option - sellers don't generally offer delivery on FB. This buyer didn't want to chance a deposit, that's understandable - but I'd have told her to get fucked with the shirty unnecessary response.

JimmyDurham · 02/04/2023 23:38

If you regard "Don't bloody bother" as "verbal harassment" you have clearly led a very sheltered life OP. Most people wouldn't even register it as offensive language. Forget about it.

Looneytune253 · 03/04/2023 08:37

She probably assumed you were the scammer asking for money upfront. Not many people do that on marketplace and when they do it's usually some kind of scam

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