I’m 52 and you still ask me

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Went to visit my parents yesterday and dad asked if I wanted a coffee. I’ve never drunk coffee, I hate coffee, every time I go round and he offers I tell him I don’t like coffee but I’ll have a tea. He’s done it my whole life. AIBU to think it’s not that difficult to remember that your daughter has a cup of tea.
is there something that your parents ask all the time that you have told them repeatedly?
He doesn’t have dementia or anything like that.

There's always one! TBH I'm amazed the thread got as far as 10 comments!

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My mother asks me several times a year if I eat fish. I've been full on veggie for 32 years 🤣 Sounds like your dad likes to pull your leg a little and him asking is more a bit of a routine joke.

My mum offered me tea my whole life - from when I was a teen and she made me one claiming it was coffee, which I like, to see if I would notice, until she died age 89. I hate tea. Have never liked the taste. It never changed.

He asks if I want sugar too, I always reply. No thanks and he answers, you’re sweet enough.

Your lovely dad just wants an excuse to say this.

I expect he says 'coffee' when what he really means is 'a hot drink'. I often ask my mum if she'd like a cup of tea when she only drinks coffee. It's just what I'm used to asking my daughter. I wonder if we all do it but don't always realise?

My mum regularly asks if I'm going to work today because it's raining. I'm a gardener. I go to work in all weathers and have done for fifteen years.

I’ve just remembered a funny one about my Mum… She always thought I fancied Olly Murs 😳 I have no idea why. I mean each to their own but he’s not my cup of tea AT ALL, but for some reason every single time he’d come on the radio or TV she’d be like “oooo you love him don’t you” and no amount of me saying otherwise would change it. One year she even got me an Olly Murs calendar for Christmas 😆😳 I had to put it up in the kitchen so I didn’t seem rude so I had 365 days of his face - well I would have done if I didn’t hide it in the drawer when she visited. She died in 2019 and every year since my dh and Ds get me Olly Murs calendars at Christmas 🎄😆

Very very minor irritation by anyone's standards, but whenever my DM compliments an item of clothing I'm wearing, she always asks "is that from Next?". My response is always no. I've sometimes elaborated that I don't particularly like the clothes in Next, and haven't bought anything from there in about 25 years. No idea why she always asks me if it's from Next, given that. It shouldn't bother me really, but it niggles just a bit. She does it so often, it's almost comical.

Another one of us with a lifelong dairy allergy, still asked every visit if I want ice cream FFS.

I do actually speak to my father and joke about how I have never liked coffee, he gets my age wrong too, adds about 5 years on. They tell me something on the phone and then tell me again when I get round there but do you know what I wouldn’t have it any other way. If your parents are/were infallible then that’s fabulous.

It's a "light-hearted" thread. 😉

I'm genuinely sorry that you have lost your Dad. I lost mine a couple of years ago too. Sad though it was, I can still recall the funny, mad, infuriating, endearing, irritating, embarrassing and unique things he used to say and do. With humour and fondness.

There's nothing wrong with fond and light-hearted memories, whether the person is still living or no longer with us.

Are you sure she's saying 'for cof'? 😜

OP - when you Dad offers you a coffee please accept and report back whether or not he says, 'But you don't like coffee...' 😉

When my birthday is. Thanks dad
On the other hand, if I ever mention something like
"Those protein mousse pots in Aldi are lovely"
"I can't find any marmite"
He will appear with 25 of whatever I needed

Not my parents but MIL will always offer me gravy with the Sunday roast....I hate gravy sloshing all over the veggies making everything soggy! I always politely decline...cue 10 mins of cajoling, how awfully dry a roast is without it, are you sure etc. It happens every time! It should have registered with her by now...I've been with DH 33 years and have had probably hundreds of roast dinners at her house. I do love her though!

Last example "I can't find any pickled red cabbage anywhere"

Dad "hold my beer"

Oh yes, as well as the cheese sandwich I regularly get dairy milk shoved underneath my nose.

M simply cannot fathom that people can exist happily without milk but then I do think that she mainly survives on cheese sandwiches, dairy milk and the microwave meals.

My dad still has no idea I don't drink coffee and I'm 45!

Ah that's so lovely

Quite agree! I lost my dad a few years ago, but still moan about him!! And these threads bring back funny memories of him!

I lost my dad 30 years ago and my mam is end stage Alzheimer’s, but people’s anecdotes about their parents still makes me smile. I think it’s a lovely thread.

Yep. The things that drove me potty about my parents I now miss. We are a fickle species. 😘

It's so sweet isn't it?

I was an adult with a child of my own and my DF still called me his little monster. I'm not particularly picky with food but I don't eat alot of meat so I was a "fussy bugger" but said with joy and a laugh as he took it instead. He would insist on paying for meals out, giving me bits of cash.

I can see me doing this tho. My DS is an adult and I still refer to him as a "kid".

I've never had a dad, or mum or aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, grandparents etc to make these kind of memories with and I like this thread, it is light hearted, I can just imagine the smiles on posters faces and rolling their eyes as they reminisce while typing, I hope I'm right. I'm sorry to those of you that have lost loved ones, but I don't think this thread is one to moan about.

@70isaLimitNotaTarget that was a lovely memory. You must treasure that rabbit.

Adding to the thread: my mother is convinced I like very weak tea with a lot of milk and toast slathered in butter. I don't and never have. I'm nearly 63.

She is also obsessed, as soon as she serves a meal, with asking if I'd like my dinner hotted up in the microwave because it must be going cold. Or a hot drink. For 61ish years (probably as long as I have been able to talk, I have said "no thank you, I like drinks/food to cool down a bit".

YABU to take it so literally. The thought from him is there!

I arrange to meet people for a coffeee, but sometimes some of thrm choose tea in a coffeeshop!

I literally never comment OP, but this made me feel really bad for you. My Dad died unexpectedly last year and I have loved this thread, it is absolutely lighthearted and funny x