I’m 52 and you still ask me

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Lighthearted
Went to visit my parents yesterday and dad asked if I wanted a coffee. I’ve never drunk coffee, I hate coffee, every time I go round and he offers I tell him I don’t like coffee but I’ll have a tea. He’s done it my whole life. AIBU to think it’s not that difficult to remember that your daughter has a cup of tea.
is there something that your parents ask all the time that you have told them repeatedly?
He doesn’t have dementia or anything like that.

I lost my dad last year and I miss him more than I thought possible, but this thread is lovely especially the red cabbage.

My dad was incapable of making me a cup of coffee, in spite of the fact I’ve taken it the same way for 40 years. He was convinced I didn’t have sugar. Mind you I think part of it was a clever ploy to get me exasperated so I’d make it 🤣.

I hate olives. I’ve hated olives the whole time I’ve known my MIL (30 years) yet when she makes pizza she puts olives on. I tell her I don’t eat olives, she asks me since when?! She refuses to believe I don’t like olives because “they’re delicious, who doesn’t like olives”. Next time we see her? The whole rigmarole again 😂.

My dad’s also dead and I can absolutely appreciate this thread; it’s a lighthearted grumble at worst, funny anecdote at best!

(also while we’re at it, why do people “quote” the original post? We’ve all read it, we don’t need to see it again before your reply)

My Mum always asks if I’d like a yoghurt after my supper. I’ve hated yoghurt since I was a very small child. Dad used to ask if I had work that week. Yes, every week. I work full time, Dad 😅

Weirdly that never happens to my parents and I have a million siblings lol.
but I have a Portuguese auntie who I have visited plenty. she can speak English very well and speaks to me always in English. Apart from one time of the day. for some reason every single morning she offers me a bacon roll for breakfast in Portuguese . I don’t speak Portuguese and I don’t eat bacon 😂

Slightly different but neither of my parents can remember when I was in a wheelchair when I was a child (primary aged).
All 5 of my siblings and I remember.
It was following an accident, and was probably for less than a year.
I still have the scar from the accident, which they also don't remember.

In their defence both parents work 2-3 jobs each at the time to provide for us (blended family) so were surviving on fumes back then.
I still find it bizarre they cant remember though.

Not my parents but my husband always asks if I'd like some olives. I haven't liked olives since I met him 35 years ago!

Totally get it. My inlaws have been my inlaws for 20 years ... I have never had coffee in my life, yet I am still asked if I want coffee daily. 😅

@Xrays you didn't say that you had stopped being a vegetarian at 14. That confused me as well

NO- the generic term for drink is 'drink'

Would you like a 'drink' ..

Yeah sorry. 🙈😆 Oops.

My inlaws express surprise every time we visit for the last 20+ years that me and dh both have sugar in our tea 😆

Ddad does all of the above - the sugar in coffee, the coleslaw he always gets in specially but that I never eat, asking me if I’m working today.

Sometimes it does annoy me as I feel he is ticking the box when he sees me rather than genuinely listening to me or taking an interest in who I’ve been since I passed the age of 5.

But I know I’ll miss it dreadfully when he’s gone.

I use to get how old r u? When’s your birthday again ? 😂😂😂😂

My dd is vegetarian has been for years and she’s asked by family at occasions if she can eat tuna or fish , she says no because she’s a vegetarian and they say vegetarians eat fish don’t they , well no they don’t . Fair enough you don’t know but she’s been asked several times by the same family member. I’m not sure if they forget or think she’s just being fussy .
I’m a meat eater by the way but surely in 2023 people can understand what a vegetarian is and cater for them I don’t think it’s difficult.

Behave you never complain about anyone ?people can find others irritating and annoying at times doesn’t wish them dead . I’m very sorry about your dad but that’s quite a crappy thing to say imo .

It took years for MIL to remember that we were vegetarian and have suitable food on offer when we stayed.
Then ds2 was diagnosed with coeliac and we gave up being vegetarian when it got too hard trying to be both.
MIL kept making mistakes years later "but its vegetarian " yes, but it's not also gluten free which is more important. We learnt to take our own spares (biscuits/bread etc.) just in case

Perhaps he thinks of it as some sort of joke between you?

Or just checking?

My dad was always saying "you don't take sugar do you?"

He was right, I don't but I think it was just conversation for him.

I'm sorry about your dad, but that doesn't mean other people aren't free to say anything about theirs. This is lighthearted and even if it wasn't, other people's feelings are valid, not just people that have suffered a loss. My Dad is no longer around and I'm not offended in the slightest, it isn't about me

Like a PP, my Dad got it into his head that a particular kind of biscuit was my absolute favourite- in my case, shortbread.

As a retiree he got hugely into internet shopping- but wasn't so great at getting quantities right.

Whenever I visited him I used to be faced with many, many packets of shortbread biscuits, because he'd accidentally ordered too many. So I would gamely eat as many as I could while I was there, to reduce the biscuit mountain.

Only- I would go back the next time, and there would be more. He would say "I know you love these cos you ate so many when you were here last time!"😂

I miss him so much, but memories like this, especially when prompted unexpectedly, are a gift.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

This!

Yes, but it's not milk, it's CHEESE . . .

("Will she have wafer-thin ham, Barbara?" )

Are you from Barry? 🤔

😂

Oh yes 😂
Q -what have you been up to today?
A - Work dad it’s a work day.

Also my mum ( now passed away) would always buy Liquorice Allsorts for me ‘because they are your favourite’ every time they visited ( I don’t like them never have!)🙄

Crystal Tipps

My word - that takes me back. "Crystal Tipps and Alaistair" was my favourite cartoon when the kids were little.