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To think my friends aren’t coming?

549 replies

UnluckyCoil · 01/04/2023 17:16

Arranged earlier in the week for a catch up round mine which is a rarity as my DH is away- both friends agreed to come.
This morning at 9am, put a message in the group chat asking what time they were coming so I can make sure my house is tidy, make sure baby is asleep etc and neither have them have replied or even opened the message.
They are the kind of people who have theirs phones with them 24/7 so can’t imagine they’ve not looked at their phones for 8hrs.
I don’t mind but I guess I just want to know either way.. and I’ve bought drinks and snacks. I’d feel embarrassed to put a chase message in the group chat.
They aren’t coming are they?

OP posts:
pictoosh · 01/04/2023 19:23

Aw fucks sake.

WonderingWanda · 01/04/2023 19:25

I can't believe how rude they have been. It takes nothing to send a quick apology and cancel. I mean that would still be flakey and rude to cancel at the last minute but forgivable if they are usually nice. This is next level rude to just ignore you.

If my friends didn't reply I would assume that something bad had happened because they are normally so reliable and thoughtful, but I suspect you already sensed they didn't care about you much as you suspected this would happen straight away.

As shitty as it feels to be stood up try to view the positives, you don't need to waste any more energy on these losers!

JoeLovesGina · 01/04/2023 19:26

I think they're rude and selfish.

Don't invite them again.

Twatalert · 01/04/2023 19:26

Oh no, I'm sorry OP. These people wouldn't be my friends. Which friend does that? They don't care enough about you.

Lampshadeandchristmasbaubles · 01/04/2023 19:26

Ah bless you. I think they will
come …. Sounds like they said sounds good … so maybe running a little late … have a great time xx

CambsAlways · 01/04/2023 19:31

Oh I must have missed your post saying they said sounds good! But they could have said see you at 7pm or whatever not leaving you hanging, 🙄

butterfliedtwo · 01/04/2023 19:32

DashboardConfessional · 01/04/2023 19:20

I'd be so upset. I wouldn't do this to a neighbour or acquaintance, let alone a friend.

Agree. It's incredibly rude. I'm sorry, OP.

GDPRBreach · 01/04/2023 19:32

They are more than rude. As friends , this is appalling behaviour , hurtful and disrespectful . How old are they?
Im so sorry they let you down Op .

thegrain · 01/04/2023 19:33

UnluckyCoil · 01/04/2023 18:58

So I messaged again, which they both read and haven’t replied so I guess I’ll find something to watch on Netflix and eat the crisps.

Omg. If they don't turn up at 9 or at least reply I'd be letting rip. How dare they not even bother to reply. I'm so sorry OP. At least you know now to ditch them. What utterly shit friends they are. Using you when it suits them but not even bothering to treat you with basic polite manners

MagentaRocks · 01/04/2023 19:33

I hope they were just rushing to get ready so didn't reply and they are there now.

If they have bailed then call them out when you feel able to.

CockSpadget · 01/04/2023 19:35

If they haven’t got a good (true) reason for completely ignoring your messages and no showing, then fuck them both off. People like that don’t deserve friends.

ConstanceOcean · 01/04/2023 19:35

I would message them separately and ask them if they’re still coming.

It’s one thing to not come as planned but it’s very shitty to not let you know and I’ll end the friendship over that.

Coyoacan · 01/04/2023 19:35

I hope they arrived, OP

OhmygodDont · 01/04/2023 19:36

Your friends are not friends and this is one of the many reasons people suck.

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 01/04/2023 19:36

IF they turned up now (which it doesn't look like they will), I wouldn't even let them in. Probably petty but what's so important to not reply all day and then still manage to rock up?

They sound like knobs.

SerenaB12 · 01/04/2023 19:38

That's crap of them and I'm sorry this happened.. try to enjoy the evening regardless..drink the wine..have a takeaway and don't contact them, when they do please tell then they were rude. Its crappy behaviour and I assume they are adults.. its fucking immature, they need to look at themselves and fix the fuck up.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 01/04/2023 19:40

I hate people sometimes.

Sorry, OP.

SapphireSeptember · 01/04/2023 19:42

I'm sorry OP, that's shit. Flowers I hope you have a nice time without them. Wine

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 01/04/2023 19:44

What horrible friends/ the fact both haven’t replied means they are messaging eachother agreeing how to play it

Radi0 · 01/04/2023 19:45

Kill them!

Mary46 · 01/04/2023 19:47

Hope you ok. Hope they came. Rude if they didnt. Im finding people so flaky lately. I had enough of it!

OnedayIwillfeelfree · 01/04/2023 19:48

Well you know not to rely on them. Their loss!

Questions97 · 01/04/2023 19:49

I hope they have replied. I could forgive them for cancelling but for not showing up and not bothering to text I don't think I could forgive.

ign0re · 01/04/2023 19:50

Ah that sucks. Friends can become a bit shit when you have kids. Hope baby sleeps and you have a nice quiet night!

MarshaBradyo · 01/04/2023 19:50

Well that’s rude. Not sure they qualify as friends at this point