To think my friends aren’t coming?

[UnluckyCoil]

Arranged earlier in the week for a catch up round mine which is a rarity as my DH is away- both friends agreed to come.
This morning at 9am, put a message in the group chat asking what time they were coming so I can make sure my house is tidy, make sure baby is asleep etc and neither have them have replied or even opened the message.
They are the kind of people who have theirs phones with them 24/7 so can’t imagine they’ve not looked at their phones for 8hrs.
I don’t mind but I guess I just want to know either way.. and I’ve bought drinks and snacks. I’d feel embarrassed to put a chase message in the group chat.
They aren’t coming are they?

Not friends, then.

Who are these people on MN who don’t make phone calls, answer their front door or go to weddings?

Baffling.

Hopefully they showed up with cake and apologies. Some people take "7" to mean "some time before 8".

I love the idea of sending them a photo of wine and treats.

If they don't show, just leave the group text and find better friends.

They're very rude. You are owed a big apology.

A word to the wise for the future: people are flakey enough without being given leeway by vague invitations.

In future, as the host, take charge of both the start AND end times: "Please come on Saturday from 7-9:30pm for drinks and light snacks. Let me know by Thursday whether or not you can make it. Thanks."

They are not your friends.

Seriously, you don't need people like this in your life that have no manners and are happy to leave you waiting and wondering. What utter shits.

I would have a nice evening to yourself tonight then in the morning I'd send a message saying "I'd bought treats in and got everything ready for you guys to come round as we'd planned and was really hurt that neither of you could spare 30 seconds to at least let me know you weren't going to show up."

Then leave the WhatsApp group.

It would only solve her problem if they answered the phone. What makes you think that, while they’ve ignored messages all day, a ringing phone will make them leap into action?

There are so many “I can’t believe no one just calls anymore” posts on this thread - but if you know a lot of people don’t like using the phone these days (as you must do given you’ve made the comment), you surely also know that those same people are perfectly capable of ignoring a call.

As OP has gone silent I'm thinking - and hoping - they've arrived!

Me too.

Call them out on in tonight, don’t wait for days, they’ll just accuse you of raking up history.

They’re very rude, I’d not want to be friends with them.

I can’t believe they’ve both acted like total jerks

Reckon theyve turned up

No update… hope that means they turned up and you’re busy 🤞🏻

Sometimes plans are a bit general though, I really don’t understand why the OP and other posters have jumped to conclusions. I reckon that they’re all round now.

So sorry OP this is so so rude when you have gone to an effort!
it's shit of them to cancel with excuses but better then just ignoring?!!! That's really not on!!

Me too. But if they haven't OP drink all the wine

They are a strange breed indeed!

Piss poor behaviour .

Reading this thread it's no surprise that the Youth of Today can apparently only communicate via messaging. Many of their parents appear completely unable to manage simple communications with people they are actually friends with !

Ah mate 😔 that’s so shit of them. I’d jump at the chance hang out with you and be your pal! ❤️

Motherhood can be isolating enough, it’s like an extra kick in the gut when you go out of your way to socialise and get nothing back. Even more so that it’s nice to see/feel your friends wanting to see your baby so would’ve been even nicer if they could’ve come before 7 to see them. BUT, this isn’t a reflection on you. As adults they had every ability to say “oh sorry, double-booked/can’t come/too tired” whatever the excuse!! Just to manage your expectations.

Please don’t take it to heart. Enjoy your snacks and the peace, there will be plenty more (reliable) friends for you to meet.

They are not friends.

Really hope thy have turned up. If not, a message now, not in a few days time is in order. "Hey, i havent' heard from either of you but I have read receipts. are you coming or what? At least let me know."

I'm really sorry your friends did this. I understand how it would make you feel. Rest assured, it says far more about them, than it does about you!

I'd do this!

Flaky shits

What did your text actually say?
if someone said come anytime after 7 to me I’d presume it was a casual turn up anytime up
until about 8/8.30 don’t worry about the exact time