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To think my friends aren’t coming?

549 replies

UnluckyCoil · 01/04/2023 17:16

Arranged earlier in the week for a catch up round mine which is a rarity as my DH is away- both friends agreed to come.
This morning at 9am, put a message in the group chat asking what time they were coming so I can make sure my house is tidy, make sure baby is asleep etc and neither have them have replied or even opened the message.
They are the kind of people who have theirs phones with them 24/7 so can’t imagine they’ve not looked at their phones for 8hrs.
I don’t mind but I guess I just want to know either way.. and I’ve bought drinks and snacks. I’d feel embarrassed to put a chase message in the group chat.
They aren’t coming are they?

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NetZeroZealot · 02/04/2023 14:49

Can't believe this thread is still trending and the OP hasn't been back ...

Onthegejdj · 02/04/2023 14:55

I hope they turned up OP. They’re absolute cunts if they didn’t.

CambsAlways · 02/04/2023 14:57

Robinni yes I am obviously a few decades on from you! Not everyone talks in the same way, we both know how very difficult it is to look after loved ones who cannot look after themselves, and feelings can run high! I do not think of myself holier than thou or the best carer. As I said previously there are no hard feelings from me regarding the post, you have explained you about the thread! I wish you well!

NewChange · 02/04/2023 14:58

I don’t think social media is to blame for rude friends who don’t show up or cancel last minute because they found something better to do. I’ve dumped several gits like this long prior to mobile phones and the internet.

704703hey · 02/04/2023 15:12

thepox · 02/04/2023 14:12

I think they did and the op was embarrassed about all the unnecessary drama she created on here

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You're imbuing this with too much meaning, OP might be genuine, might be not.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 02/04/2023 15:40

Ah I went to the trouble to find this thread and no update

704703hey · 02/04/2023 15:43

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 02/04/2023 15:40

Ah I went to the trouble to find this thread and no update

Doubt there will be an update unless it's a dramatic/emotional one.

Still, I had been hoping friends would turn up. There's nothing like getting lonely on a Saturday night.

CambsAlways · 02/04/2023 16:44

maybe they turned up and they had a great night as you do with your friends and she feels a bit embarrassed for even mentioning it

MzHz · 02/04/2023 16:59

I’d be calling them out today.

thanks for both being so monumentally rude and crap as friends, at least to say no can do? But no, it was all thumbs up and soo ds good and you’ve not got the manners to even reply to my text?

@UnluckyCoil theyre not friends. Decent people don’t treat others like this.

BignBootiful · 02/04/2023 17:07

Notbeingdismissive · 02/04/2023 14:40

It's a bit meta that OP's friends left her hanging and now she's done the same to everyone who responded...

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That's funny. I hadn't thought of that, but it's true! 😂

Radi0 · 02/04/2023 17:07

Yes, I've decided OP is rude now

AMealASucculentChineseMeal · 02/04/2023 17:09

I've just tried ringing OP buy it went straight to voicemail Sad

Delatron · 02/04/2023 17:10

Well the OP last posted at 19.01 so I bet the friends turned up. They both said ‘sounds good’

If I make an arrangement with a friend then unless they cancel that’s that. Maybe they didn’t think they had to reconfirm multiple times…

And obviously she can’t pop back on and say ‘actually after all that they turned up at ten past seven!’

BadNomad · 02/04/2023 17:14

The "sounds good" comment was when the initial arrangement was made earlier in the week. She hadn't heard anything from them since then.

But hopefully they did turn up in the end with a good excuse for ignoring her messages all day.

Radi0 · 02/04/2023 17:28

AMealASucculentChineseMeal · 02/04/2023 17:09

I've just tried ringing OP buy it went straight to voicemail Sad

🤣😂

mozzierella · 02/04/2023 17:48

Rude and uncaring

Gutless too

MysteryBelle · 02/04/2023 17:52

I wonder how op’s doing.

For those who don’t know anyone who prefers texting to phoning, or is unable to understand, or hasn’t the imagination or the empathetic sense to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, I give you the example of my husband.

I was so confused to find that he avoided the phone like the plague. This is a man who has performed in productions, singing sometimes solos, and as a speaker, on many occasions, in front of large groups of people. A natural leader. He is gregarious and has no self consciousness in the least. Until it comes to the telephone. He will act as if it is a malevolent instrument of evil and he goes absolutely to pieces if he has to call someone besides me, that’s no problem, and one or two others through dire necessity. I mean, he has a mini mental breakdown.

Look folks, we do not have to understand it, we just have to accept it! We all have our quirks, right? I’m glad my dh accepts me and my weird quirks.

Lollipop81 · 02/04/2023 17:59

That’s rough! Not having the decency to tell you. Sorry they have treated you like that x

Ibizamumof4 · 02/04/2023 18:06

People are flaky as fuck since covid , if I am honest I am also flakier than used to be (hate that I am but I deffo am) though would never just not turn up especially a small group.

Ofcourseshecan · 02/04/2023 18:06

I’ve just noticed this was yesterday, OP, so it sounds as if they didn’t come. Sorry you got let down. Have a glass of wine with me. I’m raising my glass to you right now.

IsaiditwasLighthearted · 02/04/2023 18:14

@ginasevern omg that is appalling behaviour from your so called friend. Please tell me you finished the friendship at that point!

IsaiditwasLighthearted · 02/04/2023 18:17

#teamrobinni 👏

MissAmbrosia · 02/04/2023 18:20

Most likely they just turned up. OP was panicking way in advance. I don't reply to every WhatsApp message.

Maireas · 02/04/2023 18:23

MissAmbrosia · 02/04/2023 18:20

Most likely they just turned up. OP was panicking way in advance. I don't reply to every WhatsApp message.

Even if it was an invitation?

Juleslovesmaths · 02/04/2023 18:24

It’s really rude to not reply - maybe a follow up message - aiming for about 8pm - any issues let me know xx

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