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To think my friends aren’t coming?

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UnluckyCoil · 01/04/2023 17:16

Arranged earlier in the week for a catch up round mine which is a rarity as my DH is away- both friends agreed to come.
This morning at 9am, put a message in the group chat asking what time they were coming so I can make sure my house is tidy, make sure baby is asleep etc and neither have them have replied or even opened the message.
They are the kind of people who have theirs phones with them 24/7 so can’t imagine they’ve not looked at their phones for 8hrs.
I don’t mind but I guess I just want to know either way.. and I’ve bought drinks and snacks. I’d feel embarrassed to put a chase message in the group chat.
They aren’t coming are they?

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KatherineJaneway · 02/04/2023 18:36

Notbeingdismissive · 02/04/2023 14:40

It's a bit meta that OP's friends left her hanging and now she's done the same to everyone who responded...

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Great point!😂

Noodlehen · 02/04/2023 18:37

So OP is ghosting us like her friends (may have) ghosted her? Maybe it’s normal in her social circle after all 🤷🏽‍♀️

myoldmansatrendydustman · 02/04/2023 18:39

In my experience a lot of threads end like this with the OP dangling a scenario loads of people engaging and then zilch - the OP has gone.

Makes me wonder if these threads are genuine. 🤔

SittingNextToIt · 02/04/2023 18:41

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MultipleVeganPies · 02/04/2023 18:51

The friends turned up around 8 or 9,

after all she invited them for “any time after 7”

she felt stood up at 5, then again at 7:02

now she feels silly 😁

Cherrysoup · 02/04/2023 18:58

I’m so sad for you, this would break my heart. What will you say if they don’t turn up?

LaDamaDeElche · 02/04/2023 19:04

Noodlehen · 02/04/2023 18:37

So OP is ghosting us like her friends (may have) ghosted her? Maybe it’s normal in her social circle after all 🤷🏽‍♀️

😂😂😂

Mandyjack · 02/04/2023 19:14

MultipleVeganPies · 02/04/2023 18:51

The friends turned up around 8 or 9,

after all she invited them for “any time after 7”

she felt stood up at 5, then again at 7:02

now she feels silly 😁

How do you know?

MultipleVeganPies · 02/04/2023 19:51

Obviously I am just guessing 😁

tachetastic · 02/04/2023 19:52

Mandyjack · 02/04/2023 19:14

How do you know?

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Because on Mumsnet we all know everything, haven't you realised that yet?

I feel really happy for OP if her friends did show, but it would have been nice to get an update.

Unless of course her friends are on Mumsnet, in which case they may have dumpted her or at very least will never let her live this down! 😂

tachetastic · 02/04/2023 19:54

tachetastic · 02/04/2023 19:52

Because on Mumsnet we all know everything, haven't you realised that yet?

I feel really happy for OP if her friends did show, but it would have been nice to get an update.

Unless of course her friends are on Mumsnet, in which case they may have dumpted her or at very least will never let her live this down! 😂

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I meant dumped, but I kind of like dumpted as a word....... 🤔

Ukrainebaby23 · 02/04/2023 20:19

Some people don't like to say no, they'd rather vaguely agree and then just not confirm/turn up etc. Perhaps they didn't gage enough warning to get organised. It may be right to consider if u want this type of friend.
Sorry it made it a crappie evening, I hope you enjoyed some down time anyway 😀.

321user123 · 02/04/2023 20:36

Radi0 · 02/04/2023 09:11

DID THEY TURN UP? I NEED TO KNOW

Same! 😭😭😭😭

321user123 · 02/04/2023 20:40

myoldmansatrendydustman · 02/04/2023 18:39

In my experience a lot of threads end like this with the OP dangling a scenario loads of people engaging and then zilch - the OP has gone.

Makes me wonder if these threads are genuine. 🤔

I think a rule should be made that OP must give an update or they get a fine or something 🤣🤣🤣

thegrain · 02/04/2023 20:46

321user123 · 02/04/2023 20:40

I think a rule should be made that OP must give an update or they get a fine or something 🤣🤣🤣

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It's someone's life not a TV drama

Jellykat · 02/04/2023 20:47

Bet they turned up.. OP got off her face, and hasnt come back because shes got the hangover from hell.

SpaghettifingerFusillitoe · 02/04/2023 21:07

Maybe it was all a dream

usernamechanged1 · 02/04/2023 21:31

Five year ban for the OP for leaving us hanging. We deserved better.

MrsDoylesDoily · 02/04/2023 21:43

mozzierella · 02/04/2023 17:48

Rude and uncaring

Gutless too

Bit harsh!

She's not the only OP who hasn't returned to update a thread 😂😂😂

704703hey · 02/04/2023 21:44

thegrain · 02/04/2023 20:46

It's someone's life not a TV drama

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How would you know? You're not so gullible as to not know anonymous people make up stories for attention are you?

Yes it is along the lines of a TV drama

thegrain · 02/04/2023 21:48

704703hey · 02/04/2023 21:44

How would you know? You're not so gullible as to not know anonymous people make up stories for attention are you?

Yes it is along the lines of a TV drama

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It's not dramatic enough

704703hey · 02/04/2023 21:58

thegrain · 02/04/2023 21:48

It's not dramatic enough

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It has garnered enough attention. Drama doesn't have to smack you in the face instantly.

If someone said OMG I'VE JUST CRAWLED OUT OF A CRIME SCENE then people would get hysterical then switch off pretty fast.

It's a common tactic to present a mundane scenario then work it up

Genie321 · 02/04/2023 22:16

An update would have been nice.

If they didn't show up, bin them.

But let us know if they did, so others can learn from it and not get so anxious.

NBLarsen · 02/04/2023 22:52

The OP has not shown up to her own thread about her friends not showing up Confused

Helpmeimtired · 02/04/2023 22:55

Genuinely dying to know what happened here. Come on OP…