Am I being too uptight?

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I’m planning a night for a couple of friends at mine, food and drink etc. it’ll kind of be an all day thing.

Friend has said she has to bring her dog. I really don’t want her too, my house is very white and it’s a puppy (maybe just under 1) and so I’m worried it’ll get overexcite. Also I hate the thought of it shitting in my garden and her bagging it up to leave in my dustbin.

I know I probably sound awful and uptight and please don’t think I’m screaming at people to use coasters or to not have liquids near the white sofa.

YANBU. I like dogs but I wouldn't want one in my house. Nothing wrong with saying that it's a dog-free home.

Tell her she can bring the dog if it’s crated all day and only let out to go for a walk then straight back into the crate. It’s not allowed to roam round the house!
I have friends and family members who insist on bringing their dogs/babies everywhere they go!
We have dogs and I wouldn’t dream of taking them to anyone’s house! It’s just beyond rude!!!

Good god. From some one who has dogs? You advocate cruelty in crating all day?

That's an absolutely appalling suggestion.

Just say to her ‘sorry it’s adults only’ no children or pets allowed, a puppy is technically like a child and if nobody else is bringing their children then it wouldn’t be fair to allow her to bring a puppy

She would be letting the dog out regularly and walking it so of course it’s not crated allllll day… just as long as she’s there. That’s what people do when they bring their dogs to other peoples houses who don’t have pets/dogs! 🤷🏻‍♀️
Most dogs are crate trained now. They feel safe. Ours choose to go in their crates even when we are around. It’s their safe haven.
Ours aren’t allowed on the furniture either or upstairs.
I’m expecting to be called cruel now again 🙄

Exactly what I would say.
I have a no dog rule due to allergy, but that aside, everyone has a right to say what's what in their own home without feeling pressurised.

I'm wondering when it became acceptable for people to assume they can take their dogs anywhere. It's been many years since I had a dog, he was lovely; very calm and well behaved, but I never took him to other people's homes. I wouldn't be very happy if someone came to visit me and brought their dog (well, I'd love seeing the dog, just not in my house and it probably wouldn't survive my cats!).
Anyway, you just say 'I'm sorry, let's meet somewhere else as my home is not dog friendly.'

I would feel like I had to say yes, but I don’t think you’re being too uptight. My ex husband brought his dog round while celebrating something for my son with his other
family, and the dog ate our cats food and then pooed in the living room 😂🙈 they were very embarrassed!!

It will get all excited and pee on your carpet trust me.

Urgh people that dislike animals because of these reasons aren’t good people to be be around

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To answer your question Yes u are being uptight. But it is your house and my heart would go out to your friend if her pup damaged something on u. It would ruin the get together. Could she get the dog minded or only come for a few hours?

It’s your home, your choice. For me, I would be happy, probably ecstatic, to have a puppy at mine. But if you don’t fancy it, tell them. It’s better to be clear at the outset.

It would be a no from me, and I like dogs

@Hmm1234

not everyone wants dog slobber and hair and stink in their house

I don’t, my pals don’t, and we are tons of fun

I’m a real dog person with a scruffy home and I’m not sure even I would want a puppy at a food and drink gathering. For many reasons but likelihood is she won’t be able to properly relax and join in anyway, puppies are very demanding. She could come for a few hours after walking the dog and crate him/her I guess as a compromise but YANBU and she shouldn’t expect you to accommodate the puppy.

I have two dogs who I absolutely adore (I call us the three musketeers for crying out loud) and I would never take them to anyone else's house that didn't expressly love dogs. And even then I might not. My dig once did a poo in the corridor of my friends house who has 3 dogs and four cats and I was so embarrassed (never did it in my house or anywhere else i think she was intimidated by the cats). Dogs are unpredictable. She's being a CF for suggesting it. She got a puppy and that may mean she can't go places for a bit. That's tough.

I have three dogs and can assure you they get brought nowhere. Like the kids, when I go out its to get away from them not have them with me.

People be batshit.

How far away from OP does dog-owning friend live?

My house isn't immaculate but I'm a bit squeamish about visiting dogs. I have cats so dogs need to sleep in the spare room with their owners (unless they are trained enough to be shut in the kitchen), but I've had people allow their muddy dogs on the bed which I find a bit cringey, and also one who played bouncy ball with her drooly puppy so that the ball touched walls and carpet everywhere......

But sensible well trained dogs I can deal with. However - puppies are a whole different thing! I have had a bad experience here - but still find it hard to imagine how it could work out well. Your friend's pup is probably very excitable, and might have a tendency to chew stuff - lovely for half an hour then a liability for the whole of the rest of your get together!

Agree you could probably live with the poo bags though.....

Absolute no from me. Dog owners can say all they want that they don’t smell but they do and I don’t want that in my home (which is just a regular home and not an instagrammable show home)

If my friend moaned that they can’t be left on their own then too bad. They chose to bring a dog into their life, I didn’t

Luckily none of my friends have one so it’s a moot point but I also wouldn’t go to a house with a dog in it, even if it’s “friendly and won’t touch you”

Ask her to host the party at hers but you'll be bringing your under 3"s🤣

Just say no.
It's your home and you don't want animals in it and that's OK. If her precious pup is more important than spending time with you and friends, that's certainly her decision to make.

I have dogs, but I would never impose such a thing on other people. YANBU