Am I being too uptight?

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I’m planning a night for a couple of friends at mine, food and drink etc. it’ll kind of be an all day thing.

Friend has said she has to bring her dog. I really don’t want her too, my house is very white and it’s a puppy (maybe just under 1) and so I’m worried it’ll get overexcite. Also I hate the thought of it shitting in my garden and her bagging it up to leave in my dustbin.

I know I probably sound awful and uptight and please don’t think I’m screaming at people to use coasters or to not have liquids near the white sofa.

Dog hating nutters are much worse

@DigleyAndDazey

Dog shit absolutely stinks and is a risk for toxoplasmosis which isn't the case for baby poo.

Haha! What rubbish it doesn't stink in a bag in an outside bin with a lid and isn't a risk of anything!

Just because you don't want a dog in your home doesn't mean you hate dogs. 🙄

The poster I quoted referred to 'dog nutters' which I think makes it clear they hate dogs 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Not unreasonable. I wouldn’t have a puppy in my house. We recently allowed my mum to bring her 5 year old dog to stay as she couldn’t come otherwise. Dog hair everywhere. Weeing in the garden, killing patches of grass, scratching at the door, climbing on the furniture, and it made it difficult to have a meal/ conversation without my mum being distracted by the dog, it begging while we ate etc. nightmare.

Nope, not clear at all. I am a lifelong dog owner/lover and I absolutely agree how some people are fucking nutters over their dogs. They expect everyone to love their dog as much as they do, they feel entitled to take their dog anywhere and everywhere they go, and are outraged when someone pushes back and tells them their dog isn't welcome.

Expecting to bring a pet to someone else’s home is odd.

I have a dog and would not want a visitor dog, nor would I ask for my dog to accompany me on a visit.

Just say: No, that doesn't suit.

You do not sound at all uptight, and if your house is white that is also fine.

BTW, don't give reasons for the dog not to come as they will say they'll clean up the shit, etc.

Just say no. Tell them early so they can sort out dog-sitting.

Fwiw I don’t like dogs either. Not everyone is a ‘dog’ person, (despite what you might hear on mn)!
i think if they showed up with the dog and you didn’t know then you’re a bit stuffed you can’t just leave it outside l - especially if it’s a puppy but if it’s in advance there is plenty of time for them to get a dog sitter or not come if they so chose

YANBU. I have dogs myself but I can control where they go/what they're allowed to do as they're mine. I don't like other people's dogs in the house for this reason and I'm absolutely blunt about it.

Shut it down immediately lol.

Tell her that you don’t want a dog in your house

Why is MN filled with dog haters?
Everyday now there is multible threads how people are proud of hating dogs.
Can’t you all just make a master post for anti-dog oeople, so rest of us decent people can just hide it and be done with you miserable people?

Just say no, that's crazy expecting to bring her dog unless she plans to leave it outside which is mean. Your friend is a CF.

Dogs smell (anyone who has a dog, you can smell it in their house and car) and slobber. I actually wouldn't want someone's feral kid in my nice house either.

It's fine to say you don't want the dog there but be prepared for her to cut her visit short.

Well she quite obviously doesn't have to, it was a suggestion to save pissing the friend off. Clearly, if there was no issue with her asking the friend to leave the dog at home, surely she'd have just done that and not started a post on it?

It's a no from me as well, and I love animals (have a dog and a cat)

You won't have a minutes peace. Pup will get bored unless friend is 100% attentive which will spoil the whole thing.

If she's a friend then you say sorry, doesn't work for me.

Nope. If you commit to a dog then you need to be prepared to either turn down some social meet ups or pay for someone to look after it.

They don’t slobber! Only some dogs slobber, mine have never slobbered. They don’t smell if you bath them regularly.

But it is very rude to assume an invitation to somebody’s house includes an invitation for your dog. OP needs to say no and doesn’t need an excuse or explanation.

I wouldn't expect anyone to accept our dog coming to their home. We love her, and we treat her like another child (), but we are fully aware that not everyone feels the same.

I also think if it's a pup, it may be a bit stressful for your friend to socialise as well as keeping an eye on it.

You do sound silly about Poo on your garden or in your bin. Wildlife will be using your lawn as a toilet daily.

But just explain you dont fancy the pup visiting, i do think us dog owners go a bit "nose blind" to a bit of a dog smell, but im sure the dog won't leave a smell after only an hour or 2. Just say no pets. She may have to miss this time though, so be ready for her missing it. I would hope she wouldn't get funny about it. I never understand dog owners who get all offended at non dog owners, not liking or wanting others' dogs around, its just a difference of preferences, surely thats allowed.

Absolutely not, the neck of her for even asking.

My house is a bit grubby but I wouldn't have any dog visit. I can't even imagine anyone expecting to bring a dog, let alone a puppy!

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