to ask if you and yoursiblings get on

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wish i got on better with mine just nothing in common

I have 1 brother - 4 years younger than me who is a complete arse.

Our mother thinks he can do no wrong, he’s the favourite child and both him & my mother have a personality disorder (I believe).

He’s passive aggressive, rude to me & brings no joy to my life whatsoever. I now have very little to do with him. He only contacts me when he wants something.

No sadly not, my sister and I were close growing up but don’t have anything in common now and she isn’t the kind of person I enjoy spending time with so it’s struggle to stay in touch with her and I think she feels the same.

No. Close growing up but she has grown into a self obsessed entitled brat.

Same here! My sister (18 mths older than me) and I used to fight constantly when we both lived at home and shared a bedroom. She then went to live in the US after marrying an American guy and I only saw her a couple of times over the next thirty years. Now, both our families are grown up, both recently retired and we get on really when when she comes back for twice yearly visits.

I always got on with my younger brother and sister but as I lived over 100 miles away, we did not see each other very often. But 12 years ago I moved back to my home town and we now see each other regularly, WhatsApp most days and supported each other to look after mum when she had dementia. I now see my younger sister every week to go swimming and she takes me to my frequent hospital appointments which is a great help.

Brother yes. Love him very much and he's one of my best friends
Sister no. We are totally different. We don't have anything in common.

I have one sister. Until we were in our late 50's we didn't get on at all - not at all. We went years with minimal contact. Now she's my very best friend, and I hers, and we love each other very much. I wish it had happened years ago but I'm so very glad we found each other in the end.

Of course we do, why wouldn't we?
Actually we were all together last week for a family funeral, followed by a meal at another family member's house. It was great (well, not the funeral, obviously)!

I have 3 Brothers (last two are twins)
The twins are narcs and I'm the scapegoat-my narc mother and enabler father made sure of that
I've had nothing to do with them for the last 15 years and I keep it that way
Brother 1 is married with a child-just wants a quiet life so goes along with them just to keep them on side and they won't turn on him
The twins are evil,nasty,drug smoking,pissheads who pop up every now and again to start trouble even though I moved over 100 miles away
Both my parents bail them out,time and time again but the smallest mistake I've ever made are blown up and picked over forever
All 3 try to keep tabs on me via sm but as I never put anything up,they make up the gaps-its laughable who they've turned me into in my home town

If they all died tomorrow,I'd dance on their graves

A message a christmas and at birthdays and thats it. We live far away from each other and have nothing in common so we dont have a reason to keep in touch. I think that probably once our parents are dead we will lose the only thinf that connects us and contact will stop completely.

I'm really lucky. I have one sister and we get on. Have loads in common and share the same interests. We speak every day.

I get on very well with 2 of my sisters and my 2 brothers, my other sister is a lot older than me and very sweet but I hardly know her as she was 17 when I was born. I have zero contact with my other sister, she did something despicable to one of the sisters a few years ago and a side had to be taken.

More of a "casual friendship" than anything else. We don't dislike each other but we only really speak if any of us has news that the others need to know about/feel that they would be interested in. There are 3 of us.

NC with all of them, not really my choice. A mixture of parents having a golden child and autism in another.

No. They do shirty things like on Mothers Day organise a get together and don't invite me.

Not the first time either.

I get on very well with both of my siblings & their partners & all of our children are very close too. I feel extremely fortunate to have such a supportive family.

1 brother, we live in the same village but rarely see each other. Got nothing in common.

Nope. TW

Called out incest abuse from brother. Parents still sweeping it under the rug very successfully. Siblings enable the behaviour, even sister who had the abuse way worse than me. Only parents speak to the incestuous brother tho not other siblings.

I get on really well with my older brother, we text a lot but only see each other a couple of times a year. We really don't have much in common but have grown closer since losing our parents. My OH however hasn't really spoken to his sister in 8 years. They fell out over money (not his fault imo) and never reconciled. I find it very sad as it affects the rest of the family like our DDS and his nephews

No, my older sister has always been problematic prone to lying and always causing drama on special occasions. She has destroyed every adult relationship she's ever had and I have recently had to back away and go NC.

I feel a deep sense of loss for the relationship we could have had, I have some very special friends who fill the void. Everyone I know has lovely sibling relationships.

I’m the eldest of four, including DT’s

I have nothing in common particularly with the other three, I’m also adopted.

We get on ok when we do see each other but I don’t actively seek out their company.

No. I despise him and if I never see him (and the vicious, abusive woman he married) again it'll be too soon.

Nope. Never did. We pretty much loathe and despise each other.

We grew up with a full on golden child/scapegoat arrangement with me as the scapegoat, and he believed everything they said about me, mixed with resentment at me being older and Doug things first, plus being more intelligent (by a fair way, academically and IQ wise). I resent that he doesn't see how he benefited from the golden child role, hate that he blames me for all the woes in the world, and is turning into an utterly self absorbed advertising exec wanker who neglects his own children.

If we ever meet again it'll only be at our mother's eventual funeral (his friends would expect him to go, and he'd want to see what valuables he can snaffle).

We don't even bother with Christmas cards. We pretend to be neutral for mum.

Yes, I love my sibling and she’s my closest friend.

I only have a brother, he lives an hour away and I haven't spoken to him in nearly two years. Our parents are dead.
He bullied me growing up and I won't forgive or forget it thirty years later. He has a lot of unpleasant characteristics, always the victim.
Even his wife left him and he did nothing but criticise her parenting whilst seeing his only son EOW. I therefore don't see my nephew either but to my mind he made his bed years ago.

I only have 1 brother, get on really well. Lots of things in common. Close to SIL and her family too (she has several siblings). We are very much the sort of family who treated close friends as family and everyone is welcome to our house, get together etc. We also go on holiday with siblings and parents.

My DCs are close to my brother also, both teens now but have slept over at theirs as younger children. My 17 yo socialises with my brother which is lovely.

We have had the odd falling out but nothing worse than some cross words then get over it, never had to apologise to each other, have literally just moved on. My dad fell out with his brother over a really minor thing, they didn't speak for about 20 years, it was really sad. My mum has always been very aware of this (her family are close to each other but very volatile) and has ensured we have always been encouraged to move on from silly disagreements etc. My mums side of the family we can hardly keep up with who is currently talking to who.