to ask if you and yoursiblings get on

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wish i got on better with mine just nothing in common

Yes very well but not until we’ll into adulthood did we become really close.

I should add I have 3 and all very different but with lots of fundamental stuff in common

Very well. My sister is the best person I know I think.

Nope. Cant stand him.

Drug user, thief ,wannabe drug dealer , goes about his life making the same mistakes again and again and again, and we have enabler of a mother who seems to think he has nothing bit bad luck. Erm no makes nothing but bad decisions knowing he will be bailed out.

Not really.

We don't argue or actively dislike each other or anything. Just live far away from each other and have very little contact. Not in a specific "going no contact" kind of way, just don't ever see a need to talk to each other.

Reasonably well but we live in different countries and don't see much of each other.

Yes my sis and I get on. It was us against the world though growing up in an alcoholic home

Yes but we weren’t at all close as kids

We’re very different adults but we get along very well and enjoy time together

I am 1 of 5. 4 of us are close, the other moved away and doesn’t have much to do with us

With one yes and one no. But if they weren’t my siblings would we be friends? No. Interestingly I asked quite a few people this question recently and even the ones that said they got on with their siblings said they wouldn’t be friends if they weren’t siblings.

Not really. He sees me as a competitor even though I’m not.

Yes. We're all pleasant and co-operative middle aged women and we meet up several times a year. We've been closer at times when we were younger and I suspect we will be again in future.

My adult daughters, who all hated one another as children, are much closer now.

Yes incredible close with my sister. We go on holidays/travelling together, speak often etc.

We get on fine, but we're not what I'd call close. Partly because we don't have much in common and partly because she has a more extreme version of certain personality traits that I don't like in myself.

I only have one brother. We fought a lot as kids. get on ok now but he is very selfish at times for example will give us a few days notice that he is coming to visit my elderly dad and then if we want to see them we have to scramble around trying to book time off work etc, then they have multiple people they have to fit in to see and we get an hour or two with them if we are lucky. There is no compromise with him really, we are just very different.

Unfortunately not. My brother pushes all family away and is rude and sarcastic, when meeting. School indicated he had ASD, but parents ran from a diagnosis, so growing up was fraught wondering why things were different at our house. I guess also very difficult for him.

Not here.

One sister who makes no secret of the fact that she loathes me, who fortunately lives on another continent and who I can live without interacting with at all.

One other sister who lives an hour away and who I see a few times a year. I avoid getting too involved in her life as she's very needy and I find it too exhausting.

Families are overrated.

Mine and I also had a bit of turbulent childhood - moved house and school quite a bit, DM (with the best of intentions) married three men who were not compatible or easy to live with. My sibling and I are very different people - I’m much more verbal and aural whereas sibling is a lot more visual. In fact sibling had quite severe dyslexia which was nothing like as understood as it is now. However we stuck together through childhood and would always be there for each other.
As adults which had a certain degree of distance (emotionally) from each
other and a few fallings-out but now sibling has just returned from several years abroad because of a failed relationship and has been staying with me for over six months and I think we’ve really bonded again which is great.

I've always been very close to my sister since childhood ( she's 2 yrs younger).
My brother is 20 yrs younger than me, we get on but I feel more like his auntie.

Yes, my older brother and I get well. Message each other most days, see him once or twice a month, I went on holiday with him, my SIL (who I also love) and their children.

Unless we make lasagne together. We had an almighty row doing that in my kitchen a few years ago. We’ve never made lasagne together since.

As young children, yes
As teenagers, definitely no
As young adults, we had very different lives in different towns so no
As older adults, having lost Mum, very close now even though we still live quite different lives. We text most days and both watch out for Dad

Same here. I've got 3 sisters and 2 brothers and will meet up at big occasions like weddings but no ongoing regular contact. We're each very different people.

My brother & SIL yes very close, my sister & BIL no

Not close to either. Don’t dislike them just different people with different lives.

DH has two. Not close to one, not keen on the other.

So out of 4 siblings between us, DH & I aren’t close to any of them

Yea, really close, always have been. I’ve got quite a few of them, and there isn’t one that I’m not close to. Also v close to one of my husbands brothers, although less so the other.