Wedding evening do tonight & covid dilemma

[Valerie65]

So, we're supposed to be going to an evening wedding do tonight. No issue with it just being the evening do, this was the norm when we got married in the 80's. But I was in very close contact with someone on Thursday night. She tested negative yesterday but positive this morning. She says I wouldn't get it from her as she was positive only this morning. I'm starting to feel a bit under the weather too, but not ill enough to stay at home & miss the do tonight.
If I test negative later today do you think it's fair that we still go tonight? I know we have to live with it these days & just crack on with it, but we should still protect each other, not sure what to do. The grooms mother is vulnerable if she gets it & she's a very close friend of mine, we'll no doubt be sitting with my husbands elderly aunt & uncle too, its a dilemma

We can indeed only control ourselves.

Thankfully some people include having the control to at least give others who we know are vulnerable a heads up to help protect themselves.

My DD’s life is restricted by being vulnerable. People who zero manners who sit next to her knowing they are ill (and there is a MASSIVE difference between unknowingly passing something on and not giving a single shit that you’re ill) restrict her even more because she can’t even trust family and friends to give her (well me and DH) a heads up.

Update: I'm negative & feeling 100% fine again. I did have some wine last night so it could have been the wine making me feel under the weather.
I texted the groom's mother this morning, before I knew she'd be too busy to text me back, & she gave me the ok to go if I was negative & not ill or under the weather

I've had COVID this week from attending a wedding last weekend. Turns out a few of the guests were poorly but didn't want to miss the event so came anyways and didn't say anything. Loads of people have been struck down this week to varying degrees.

It was lucky that DH started showing symptoms as quickly as he did because we were supposed to be meeting up with my 90 year old grandad this week so I'm pleased we tested and discovered that we both have it. I never would have forgiven myself if I gave it to him

@LondonPretty would you say that it would be reasonable for someone who is feeling nauseous, having been in contact with someone with a nasty d&v bug, to sit next to a frail elderly person for an event?

Or to eg sit a child who has a fever after contact with chicken pox next to someone who is immunocompromised?

Put Covid politics and emotion aside and replace it with another highly infectious disease harmful to some specific groups, and act as you would for that disease.

Yes. Capitals mean shouting. If you want emphasis you could use bold or perhaps underline.

@cantkeepawayforever I asked this and they said yes. apparently doesn’t matter the illness, as long as they feel well enough they’ll go and there’s no responsibility on them to even give the vulnerable person they know a heads up.

@ScreamingInfidelities I'm afraid WeCome1 is correct. Capital letters on any Social Media Page is considered to be shouting and therefore rude. Can understand that you didn't know that, but it really is. I probably wouldn't have pointed it out to you on here though. At least you know now.

I only mentioned it because about 4,000 people (or three or four ☺️) people have said my idea is stupid and I really have got the idea by now!

Covid is still real. Yes most of us know now that it's a bit like a cold but if my mum caught it she could die. She had multiple health issues. Anybody who thinks they have it and still socialises is only thinking of themselves. Weddings are likely to have elderly relatives there. You shouldn't go OP. Pretty sure the bride and groom would rather you didn't go than put Aunty Margaret at risk or put their chance of honeymoon at risk.

Don't go. If you were a bridesmaid or mother of the bride or something it would be different but with all respect it's only an evening invitation so not vital you attend.

@WeCome1 - and it wasn't even a stupid suggestion. The OP did text the Grooms Mother to ask😊😊

That's good @Valerie65 Hope you enjoy your evening😊

I wouldn’t. My mum’s just had it at 85 and despite 2.5 billion vaccinations she still had it quite badly and it completely knocked her out.

Missed the update.

It is a minor illness to healthy people, but it can be a devastating, life limiting illness to the vulnerable.

I just can't beleive people still think Covid is a sniffle.

My aunt nearly died of Covid three months ago. She's still ill. It;s still a very big deal to people. Lucky you if it's not an issue for you, but maybe remember that other people exist in the world.

You laugh all you want.
You should try having blood cancer and your consultant telling you that you have to do everything you can to avoid getting covid because your chances of surviving it are slim.
Yeah, its so fucking funny...

@Hbh17 surely you’re being goady. Luckily it presents as a minor illness for many people, but don’t we all know at least someone who has been severely affected? Would you advise people with norovirus to just take their ‘minor illness’ to a wedding full of elderly and infirm people? I mean, it’s just a tummy bug…