Lodger told me I eat too much. Do I??

[Orcubed]

Obviously you’re not going to be able to tell me for sure without seeing my portions etc but I’m a bit annoyed.

She’s been wfh this week, normally we don’t really see each other. I’ve just been into the kitchen to get a coffee and opened the cupboard to get a snack to go with it (a dark chocolate rice cake if that’s relevant) and she said “you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”

So Monday I had
2 cups of tea
porridge with mixed seeds
a peanut cereal bar &coffee
cheese and cucumber sandwich (granary bread, butter), cranberry juice, satsuma
2 sausages and veg (carrots, broccoli, leeks, swede, sprouts). cherry yoghurt.
Plus water and herbal tea (3 herbal teas, 2 water)

Tuesday
2 cups of tea
2 weetabix
standard size bag of maltesers and coffee
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Bag of salt and vinegar squares. Cranberry juice
shakshuka with extra veg in (courgette, aubergine, kale as well as the peppers, onion and tomatoes), feta and hummus on top, flatbread on the side
water, herbal tea as Monday

Weds and Thurs basically as Tuesday except Wednesday I had toast and marmite with my coffee, no crisps either day. Dinner Wednesday was lentil and fennel stew with rice, had a digestive biscuit afterwards, last night pork casserole with mash, green beans and broccoli.

Putting aside the fact that she was rude, I don’t think I eat that much? Basically 3 meals and one snack. Would you consider this a lot of food?

Why would you even go there? Just as rude as the lodger to go through all the things YOU WOULD OMIT. How rude!

Didn’t even look at your meal plan. Voted YANBU. Even if you were living off hourly kfc she was rude and unpleasant.

I WOULD OMIT

@Orcubed
i didn’t even read your food list, because I don’t know you to make any kind of judgement. Nor does your lodger.

Tell her when you want her opinion, you’ll ask for it. What a bore.

She would my former lodger if she spoke to me like that. Do you have the kind of relationship with her that she could have been joking? If not, way, way too familiar and should find somewhere else to live. Why would you want to share your living space with someone that is monitoring your food intake?

It's your home eat what you like. Even if you do eat too much or too little it's not their business.

Looks fine but mumsnet can be super weird about food. As you've probably seen now.

Tell her she talks too much. Talking, talking, talking about things no one asked her opinion about!

How vile! Rude person.

That sounds really healthy.

Whether you do or don’t eat too much (your diet looks okay to me) but either way it’s none of her business. And making you feel uncomfortable in YOUR home, Have you served her notice to leave?

you don’t need to justify any amount of food of any type to anyone but yourself. But I would ask how you justify letting a bitch like that stay in your house.

I checked the cereal bars after reading that and they have 139 calories in. The rice cakes have 55 (kallo for those who were interested) and the maltesers 186. Coffee is black (from beans if that makes any difference?) I’m obviously doing ok with a snack every day as I’m not gaining weight, have good energy levels, am in good health, teeth are good but obviously if any of that changed I’d look at changing my diet.

It’s interesting reading the comments and seeing the different ways people say my diet could improve. Right now I can’t imagine worrying about a daily snack or a yoghurt or one bag of crisps in a week but maybe the time will come when I’ll have to and it’s useful to have the information.

This could be true. But she has her own room with a desk that she could be working at, it’s her choice to be in the communal areas (with a preschooler at home today too which definitely wouldn’t be my idea of ideal working conditions!).

Thinking about it, British people I know don’t eat them either, so it may be a demographic issue rather than a national one.

Either way - French and Italian women maintain lower average BMIs - of 24.6 and 25.2 respectively, whereas British women are at 27.1 (NHS gives healthy BMI range of 18.5 to 24.9.)

That's not too much food. The cheeky bitch. Put her board up

Is she from another culture?

Your diet sounds very nice. You do eat more than me tho. And I'm early 40's.
No judgement at all, just answering your question.
The fact that she was rude goes without saying and isn't what you asked, so I hope you take my answer in the spirit it is intended.

I agree with the first comment.

This is actually a good example of the French and their rules. Croissant for breakfast - standard. Patisseries in this family are only for the weekend.

Thus 46% and 47% are of adults are overweight in France and Italy compared to 62% of adults in the U.K.

If it’s not the crisps it’s something else…

Nailed it on the first page.

Rude rude rude

Sounds incredibly healthy and balanced to me, if anything I would say you could do with eating more. I would be very tempted to ask her to move out, so unbelievably rude!