To not be over what happened to me during covid/lockdowns

[ifyougochasingrabbits]

Just a few of the things I went through

Losing my cleaning business i had built up over years overnight due to everyone cancelling us

Being humiliated by the headteacher at DC school shouting at me in front of other parents because I refused to wear a mask outside . My little girl being made to start school late and finish late because I was unable to wear a mask to collect her (school run was all outside I may add and I had no problem wearing masks in shops etc but I drew the line at in the fresh air outside)

watching thousands of pounds of income disappear at an alarming rate. while wondering if we’d still have jobs and be able to keep the house we’d worked our arses off for for years to buy. Going through six months of trauma with H furloughed and depressed because his work could not guarantee he'd still have a job at the end of it. He was on half pay as furlough was only paid up to about 30k salary iirc and if you were on more it was employers discretion to pay the full salary which his work didn't. He was even applying for jobs at supermarkets and delivery driving etc and getting no where despite having a high level job at a major house builder.

Watching selfish morons stockpiling at the very beginning

“Friends” dumping me, one Cos I dared voice out loud that I wasn’t personally scared of covid and was struggling with restrictions and did not agree with them.

Having to deal with the fact that many of my (remaining) friends had views I completely don’t agree with and accepting they probably feel same about me.
And having to cope with the fact they supported restrictions that were destroying our lives and mental health

Having my business absolutely trashed all over social media and being called a dirty bitch and worse by local people. Fake bad reviews etc. The “reason” was they took exception to me saying on a local page post that I didn't believe in masks in school (this was due to my kids really struggling with them) My 14 year old said he agreed and some of them then found him on fb and messaged him insulted his looks and called him stupid and a fucking moron etc. This was actual grown adults.

a random person inboxed me on Facebook due to seeing my business ad and threatened to "smash my face in" because she thinks i was “endangering lives” by working

My neighbour reporting us to the police for having an illegal gathering. This "illegal gathering" was me, my H and our 3 dc having a bbq in the garden. Needless to say we all live together

Being put on medication for panic attacks and anxiety in fact I minimised it to the gp. I was actually suicidal and the only reason I am still here is because of my kids and the fact my husband and parents had the same views as me. But I would secretly hope to die in my sleep and almost every day I would wake up and cry because I was still here.

Watching my 3 Kids completely fall apart due to schools being closed. While not only having to deal with seeing posts all over fb about how well other kids were doing and coping doing all their work, managing great. And knowing some people I care about actually wanted schools shut. One of my kids is still very unwell mentally and it all started with lockdowns

Oh and to add final insult to injury, in November 2021 I had to pay £5700 (which was part credit card and part all of our savings) privately for an operation that should have been freely available on the nhs. But cos covid they could not give me a date and I was getting more and more poorly and could not wait.

I am still angry and maybe I should get over it. But I can't. And There's probably more but these are the stand out moments. I'm doing okay now and I have a new business and I'm doing well, H has a new job as he could not trust his old place after covid. but I've been very low again recently with the anniversary of it all

Yes, so we don’t know that they are effective.

Covid was rife despite them.

Of ourse it was rife even during mask mandate. One only had to look at how many didn't wear masks in shops even during the worse of it. Combining that with people's lack of hygiene (just think back how many people just march out of public toilets without so much as looking at the sink...) It's no surprise really.

It also spread through hospital wards where hand washing , mask ‘compliance ‘, cleaning of equipment and infection control measures where robust.

Personally I did whatever it took to make life easy. But I did, and still do, 100% respect anybody’s right to not wear a mask. The Mask Police behaved like total power hungry psychopaths. Lockdown really was the busybody’s/people who have no power on their personal lives, time to shine.

Still making light of people's grief I see. Despicable.

In your original post, you linked the review claiming it proved masks were ineffective

I explained this was not the case

Now you appear to have updated your opinion to agree with me

This is a good substack on the current body of evidence of mask efficacy from an epidemiologist with experience in this field, if you are interested: https://gidmk.medium.com/do-masks-work-for-covid-19-36ccfca4e107

ifyougochasingrabbits was able to wear a mask but chose not to to make a point

So what?

I know other people practically orgasmed at the idea of being super compliant, like they were gonna get a gold star from Boris or something, it not wanting to wear a mask was a totally valid feeling.

Good I’d hate to be so weak willed that I did something I didn’t wanna do just because others had it worse.

God yes, imagine having a social concience and thinking of other people instead of only ever yourself?!
You're so strong willed, only ever doing what you like, irregardless of other people. Go you!

Heaven forbid a child not see mummy as a Yes Woman. What would the village elders say?!

Are you still blaming the spread of Covid on people not "behaving properly"?

Don't worry, your child sees you as you are. If they don't already know you're a massive dick, they will soon enough.
The village elders already know it, as does everyone else.

Sorry - quoted the wrong person.

This has turned into a thoroughly nasty pile on.

The worst of MN.

Similarly: you may not be worried about losing your business/your home:having no income/feeding your children but can appreciated the guaranteed impact of this happening with the most vulernable in the country. All for a virus that, for the vast majority, is little more than a cold.

Gosh how embarrassing that you’ve never got out of the hysterical COVID-worrier mindset. May I purchase you a life? Or some perspective?

Seriously it is like turning time back 3 years with drama llamas crying into their pillow because other people aren’t as weird as they are. It’s your kids I pity with that kind of scaredy-cat attitude. Anxiety rubs off onto your kids you know.

But wearing a mask outside doesn’t help others!

Except you can’t compare COVID with a natural disaster. Wearing a mask didn’t make COVID go away. Unlike a natural disaster where leaving the area would save your life.

God is it exhausting being so dramatic? I feel I need a lie down after reading so much Hysteria.

If you don't care what internet randoms think, why make a post at all?

'Unable' to wear a mask outside?

Give me strength.

Great thank you I will have a look. In terms of mask wearing , lockdown etc I have always followed the ‘rules’. I actually managed to avoid covid whilst working frontline nhs with covid positive patients. I only caught it towards the end of last year.
Many of my colleagues actually caught covid during the first and second waves , during lockdowns, despite masks etc. So on reflection I think this may have been my good luck rather than anything else. From the beginning , we were told at work that it wasn’t a case of IF we caught covid, it was when- that everyone would be infected at some point. The single most effective measure ( I believe) was the vaccinations. They drastically reduced covid severity and now the vast majority of hospital patients either have mild symptoms ( temp, cough for example) or are found to be positive incidentally. I will continue to wear a mask for patient contact as long as it is required, but my personal experience has been that covid spreads regardless.

I may be ‘thick’ but I have manners. Have a good day.

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HOW is that making light of people grief?

Its making light of the total dramatic weirdos, some of whom are STILL stuck in 2020 mindset

Well because I DO have a social conscience I can empathise with the fact that it’s not just people who died/their relatives who had it bad in COVID but people like the OP whose lives were destroyed by completely unecessary measures and the psychos who supported those measures.