To not be over what happened to me during covid/lockdowns

[ifyougochasingrabbits]

Just a few of the things I went through

Losing my cleaning business i had built up over years overnight due to everyone cancelling us

Being humiliated by the headteacher at DC school shouting at me in front of other parents because I refused to wear a mask outside . My little girl being made to start school late and finish late because I was unable to wear a mask to collect her (school run was all outside I may add and I had no problem wearing masks in shops etc but I drew the line at in the fresh air outside)

watching thousands of pounds of income disappear at an alarming rate. while wondering if we’d still have jobs and be able to keep the house we’d worked our arses off for for years to buy. Going through six months of trauma with H furloughed and depressed because his work could not guarantee he'd still have a job at the end of it. He was on half pay as furlough was only paid up to about 30k salary iirc and if you were on more it was employers discretion to pay the full salary which his work didn't. He was even applying for jobs at supermarkets and delivery driving etc and getting no where despite having a high level job at a major house builder.

Watching selfish morons stockpiling at the very beginning

“Friends” dumping me, one Cos I dared voice out loud that I wasn’t personally scared of covid and was struggling with restrictions and did not agree with them.

Having to deal with the fact that many of my (remaining) friends had views I completely don’t agree with and accepting they probably feel same about me.
And having to cope with the fact they supported restrictions that were destroying our lives and mental health

Having my business absolutely trashed all over social media and being called a dirty bitch and worse by local people. Fake bad reviews etc. The “reason” was they took exception to me saying on a local page post that I didn't believe in masks in school (this was due to my kids really struggling with them) My 14 year old said he agreed and some of them then found him on fb and messaged him insulted his looks and called him stupid and a fucking moron etc. This was actual grown adults.

a random person inboxed me on Facebook due to seeing my business ad and threatened to "smash my face in" because she thinks i was “endangering lives” by working

My neighbour reporting us to the police for having an illegal gathering. This "illegal gathering" was me, my H and our 3 dc having a bbq in the garden. Needless to say we all live together

Being put on medication for panic attacks and anxiety in fact I minimised it to the gp. I was actually suicidal and the only reason I am still here is because of my kids and the fact my husband and parents had the same views as me. But I would secretly hope to die in my sleep and almost every day I would wake up and cry because I was still here.

Watching my 3 Kids completely fall apart due to schools being closed. While not only having to deal with seeing posts all over fb about how well other kids were doing and coping doing all their work, managing great. And knowing some people I care about actually wanted schools shut. One of my kids is still very unwell mentally and it all started with lockdowns

Oh and to add final insult to injury, in November 2021 I had to pay £5700 (which was part credit card and part all of our savings) privately for an operation that should have been freely available on the nhs. But cos covid they could not give me a date and I was getting more and more poorly and could not wait.

I am still angry and maybe I should get over it. But I can't. And There's probably more but these are the stand out moments. I'm doing okay now and I have a new business and I'm doing well, H has a new job as he could not trust his old place after covid. but I've been very low again recently with the anniversary of it all

I'm totally ok with that, and if you aren't, read the post from the MN member whose DH died.

You are despicable and you are bringing up your horrible children to not give a fuck about the rest of mankind.

You should be utterly ashamed, not proud!!!

Why do all posts like this focus on lockdowns and ignore the fact there was a novel global pandemic?

I think most of the COVID lockdown lovers were people on furlough and baking banana bread. It was absolutely the best time of their lives and they are fuming life has gone back to normal. No more morality police or being able to shout selfish at people The actual people working and keeping the country going didn't want lockdowns to indefinitely.

I masked , tested everyday for my job used hand santisier multiple times , repeatedly donned and doffed. It still ripped through my ward which is long stay complex care. Reflecting back I think the first lockdown was correct there was no vaccinations , the rules though no driving to exercise were bat shit and taping off the clothes section.

I do think the government have absolutely fucked up with the trust element. If a truly terrible illness like ebola mutated and rapidly spread , people would not comply at all as there's no trust.

Yanbu op
Lives were ruined in many ways during the restrictions. Some of the worst things that I still think about:
The student who died from a simple ear infection because his GP surgery refused multiple times to see him.
The man who was told not to comfort his mum at his dad's funeral.
The child who was tortured to death at home because he was now off the radar.
People now dying of cancer and other conditions due to lack of early diagnosis (but oh, we had to save a badly managed NHS and nobody bloody dare question it).
Countless self employed people and businesses out of work and ruining the economy.
Children isolated from friends and not receiving an education.
Massive mental health problems.

None of that seems to be as important though as wearing a mask outside and following the fucking arrows in a shop..

@adriftinadenofvipers

My little girl going the "wrong way" in an empty shop did NOT cause people to die

Me (or anyone else here) not being okay with lockdowns and having a bad time during it did not cause anyone to die either

Get a grip 🤪 it's the attitude of people like you that make me really glad that I did go against the more stupid rules.

Being snobby about the work you PRESUME that I do too! You presume wrong !!! 😃 (not that there is anything wrong with doing nails or cleaning)

🙌🏻

Imagine reading the heartbreaking post from Woeismeitappears, then actually you writing this dramatic bullshit 🙄 oh and I agree with most of your points OP.

Oh of course they would. As soon as people started dying around them.

I think everybody suffered.

I certainly did in PPE for 14 hrs trying to save ppl.

the patients suffered, their families suffered.

We were warned about not revealing we were health care workers because of episodes of people spitting on or screaming at us in public areas.

And then occasionally I’d read a whole lot of guff from people whose jobs involved sitting on their bum for zoom meetings and answering emails, or who had opinions about a vaccine they didn’t have the scientific knowledge or literacy to understand.

thankyou for everything you did @MissTrip82

but you are ignoring the fact that we were in a pandemic

Many of these were because of the PANDEMIC not the lockdown, and would have been worse without the lockdown

and some are just not true! there are no "massive mental health problems" its purely a media invention. Studies have shown that there were and are overall no more mental health problems because of the lockdown. Some individuals may have suffered more mental health problems, and some suffered much less. and suicides went down

Same with education, some children prefer school and do well, and some preferred lockdown learning and did better in those circumstances

The more you post the more you out yourself as just being a bit thick.

Lockdowns are over and the vast majority of measures are gone and never to return. They won’t be coming back. It feels like now you can’t spout off on social media about what a free thinking radical you are that you’ve come on here to whine about how you sabotaged your own business, upset all your neighbours and damaged your kids mental health.

Exactly. OP is all woe is me, I've had an awful time, what about my business and my mental health, and expects us all to feel sorry for her, but why should we give a shit about her as an individual when she clearly doesn't give a shit about anyone else beyond herself and her family and is raising her daughter to have the same self-absorbed, narcissistic attitude? I cannot believe she hasn't even acknowledged the poster whose DH has died and has been told by everything she went through was a scam. Well, actually I can. Acknowledging the woman would mean having to show some empathy and OP is clearly devoid of any.

@Inkpotlover

Yes I have acknowledged the posters who lost people

Read my posts ? 🤦‍♀️

I agree. This isn't going to be the last pandemic and there's nothing to say we won't get another in the fairly near future. The damage that has been done to public trust is likely to take a long time to repair. Although saying that, I think we'd be completely fucked by anything particularly bad regardless of what had happened with covid, because of the way the world is so connected now.

And how far did going against the rules get you? You’re the one complaining you lost your business and half your DHs income. You can hardly gloat that it worked out well for you 🙄

I just had to scroll back through the bile to find it. One line. How big of you.

I agree about the masks outside. I’m a nurse and felt embarrassed I was having to toe the line walking to school when I knew it was utterly pointless. A lot of the rules were utterly pointless. Anybody else disinfect their loaf of bread when unpacking their shopping????

However I’m not sure you’ll get the moral support on Mumsnet. I hope it has helped you get it off your chest though.

11 is not a little girl. Kid needs to toughen up if being spoken to sharply made her cry

I remember thinking many of the measures were ludicrous BUT I happily did anything to help make other people feel safer.

I just don’t get the making some ridiculous stand over wearing masks outside a school when it would have just help ease another persons anxiety.

TBH I think you brought a lot of it on yourself.

What do you think that would have achieved? That they would all suddenly go ‘oh yeah, you’re right!’

This! Your 11yo did this? Really :/ sounds like something my 3yo would do.

@Meandfour

"And how far did going against the rules get you"

Well about as far as those who followed them got... but at least I could hold my head up that I did not fall for the really batshit stuff 🤷‍♀️

Disinfecting your shopping wasn't a rule.