To not be over what happened to me during covid/lockdowns

[ifyougochasingrabbits]

Just a few of the things I went through

Losing my cleaning business i had built up over years overnight due to everyone cancelling us

Being humiliated by the headteacher at DC school shouting at me in front of other parents because I refused to wear a mask outside . My little girl being made to start school late and finish late because I was unable to wear a mask to collect her (school run was all outside I may add and I had no problem wearing masks in shops etc but I drew the line at in the fresh air outside)

watching thousands of pounds of income disappear at an alarming rate. while wondering if we’d still have jobs and be able to keep the house we’d worked our arses off for for years to buy. Going through six months of trauma with H furloughed and depressed because his work could not guarantee he'd still have a job at the end of it. He was on half pay as furlough was only paid up to about 30k salary iirc and if you were on more it was employers discretion to pay the full salary which his work didn't. He was even applying for jobs at supermarkets and delivery driving etc and getting no where despite having a high level job at a major house builder.

Watching selfish morons stockpiling at the very beginning

“Friends” dumping me, one Cos I dared voice out loud that I wasn’t personally scared of covid and was struggling with restrictions and did not agree with them.

Having to deal with the fact that many of my (remaining) friends had views I completely don’t agree with and accepting they probably feel same about me.
And having to cope with the fact they supported restrictions that were destroying our lives and mental health

Having my business absolutely trashed all over social media and being called a dirty bitch and worse by local people. Fake bad reviews etc. The “reason” was they took exception to me saying on a local page post that I didn't believe in masks in school (this was due to my kids really struggling with them) My 14 year old said he agreed and some of them then found him on fb and messaged him insulted his looks and called him stupid and a fucking moron etc. This was actual grown adults.

a random person inboxed me on Facebook due to seeing my business ad and threatened to "smash my face in" because she thinks i was “endangering lives” by working

My neighbour reporting us to the police for having an illegal gathering. This "illegal gathering" was me, my H and our 3 dc having a bbq in the garden. Needless to say we all live together

Being put on medication for panic attacks and anxiety in fact I minimised it to the gp. I was actually suicidal and the only reason I am still here is because of my kids and the fact my husband and parents had the same views as me. But I would secretly hope to die in my sleep and almost every day I would wake up and cry because I was still here.

Watching my 3 Kids completely fall apart due to schools being closed. While not only having to deal with seeing posts all over fb about how well other kids were doing and coping doing all their work, managing great. And knowing some people I care about actually wanted schools shut. One of my kids is still very unwell mentally and it all started with lockdowns

Oh and to add final insult to injury, in November 2021 I had to pay £5700 (which was part credit card and part all of our savings) privately for an operation that should have been freely available on the nhs. But cos covid they could not give me a date and I was getting more and more poorly and could not wait.

I am still angry and maybe I should get over it. But I can't. And There's probably more but these are the stand out moments. I'm doing okay now and I have a new business and I'm doing well, H has a new job as he could not trust his old place after covid. but I've been very low again recently with the anniversary of it all

So you gained nothing then? Thought not. And you’re still wearing a mask for work in 2023? Who isn’t falling for the bullshit now…

Disinfecting bread?? No :/

It has really helped me thank you 🙏

I knew I'd get loads of abuse but it's water off a ducks back tbh I've been through enough real life shit in my life so words on a screen really don't bother me 🤷‍♀️ been on here years and some people are spiteful but there's also lovely supportive amazing people just like rl really a mix .

But yeah I feel loads better for writing it all down

And it's made my mind I am going to pay privately for counselling....I should not still be angry this long after x

(Although I note a prev poster was annoyed I am going private well they'd be pissed if used nhs resources for counselling so can't win either way 😜😂 )

Lol @Meandfour

I wear a mask for work as I do aesthetic tattooing and microblading

Covid or not ...when you are breaking someone's skin and you're working with your face 12 inches from that broken skin you don't want to be breathing germs on them so don't be ridiculous 🤦‍♀️🤪 it is clearly not "bullshit" to wear a face covering for that type of work

People who followed them and didn't spout their refusal to on social media didn't have their businesses trashed like you did though, so actually I'd argue you lost an incredible lot for not following them.

They’re probably grateful they don’t have to listen to you warble on for the duration of their appointment tbh.

We should all have refused to do so. It's us all going along with the bullshit which is the reason the bullshit went on so long. I'm ashamed of the fact I wore a mask. I knew they did bugger all but did it for an easy life

You were wrong to not wear a mask on school grounds. You weren't 'unable' to wear a mask outside, you chose not to. You caused your daughter's late start, no-one else. Schools were central to Covid spreading in most communities, this is why they took stringent measures. Classes then whole years were regularly infected with children missing 5/10 days of education (after lockdown). While most Covid sufferers recovered well, there are thousands severely affected by debilitating long covid effects, and smaller numbers of people whose lives will never return to normal. I still wear a mask in enclosed environments, have never had Covid. It is interesting to read the thoughts of an anti-masker, she who knows better than the highly qualified scientists who strove to help the world survive this terrible virus.

I feel like some people are forgetting that most of the world was masked up and in lockdown and had similar rules... Actually stricter if anything. The whining in UK was and still is on like Olympic level fgs

That post goes some way to explaining the mystery of why the anti-lockdown brigade are still so emotionally invested in the issue, after all this time.

There's a strong sense of, "hey, I went against the majority and rebelled and didn't blindly listen to the so-called experts, at great cost to myself. Why is no one now acclaiming me for the righteous hero I so clearly am?"

No, I wasn’t “annoyed at you going private” I’m disgusted at you boasting about it, many people are suicidal and can’t afford therapy and the nhs waiting lists are over 12 months long.

You came on here to boast, goad, preen and laugh at others less fortunate. You’re an egregious hypocrite. Very typical of some of the “beauty therapists” that operate out of a back room in their overstyled home. I bet you have “Live Laugh Love” paraphernalia all over that dump 🤣

People like the OP and several others on this thread like to think of themselves as superior to the average person. They think they're more intelligent, more switched on, able to see things other's can't, etc., when in reality they're just loud, unable to think things through, and easily manipulated.

Take the OP as an example. Apparently they could see that furlough was an economic disaster from a mile off, cause they're so clever. Yet, one of her chief complaints is that furlough only covered half her husbands salary.

I guess she would have preferred no furlough at all and for her husband to have just straight up lost his job. Surely, as such a visonary, she didn't genuinely believe UK house builders would have been able to operate completely unaffected throughout a global pandemic, and somehow manage to avoid all the supply chain and labour issues wreaked havoc across most industries, if there had been no lockdowns in the UK??

Similarly, another complaint is that she incurred some debt to pay for an operation the NHS were unable to perform due how much of an impact covid was having on them. Yet, the OP was actively doing things that increased the chances of covid being spread! You just can't argue with that level of joined up thinking.

In bygone eras they're they type of people you'd cross the street to avoid or mutter "oh ffs here comes X" when they walked into a pub. Unfortunately, due to social media, they're now able to easily find others like them which only emboldens them further as they enter a echo chamber and begin an "aren't we soooo clever, not like the sheep" feedback loop

Totally agree.

Sadly, reading your OP makes me think you didn’t make life easy for yourself or your kids during the lockdowns.
Yes, wearing a mask outside is pretty pointless but wouldn’t you just do it for the sake of your kids - not putting them as the ‘one with the weird mum’? Bullies will always pick on a child that stands out for whatever reason. It’s not right but it happens.
Plus why would you air your views re covid on FB if you have your own business? Dh has his own business and views re covid but didn’t take to SM about it!
it’s unfortunate your business suffered and your DCs’ mental health too - mine also had issues exacerbated by lockdowns but we have to move forward now.

@OP I am glad you are getting counselling. The economic hardships were dire and people genuinely struggled significantly.

I have found this thread very triggering due to the blasé attitude of yourself and others regarding restrictions.

Did you retrain as a virologist/zoologist as well, with specific focus on viral particle dispersal in the outdoor environment or how can you be so confident of your convictions?

Having seen several loved ones - young and old - as corpses because of others similarly blasé attitude it just makes me incredibly sad. Very unfortunate that people couldn’t just get on to support their fellow man.

Good luck with your new business and therapy. Please have some consideration for those who lost people and were vulnerable themselves. Your calling restrictions “bollocks” etc is still hurtful.

@Aishah231 don't be ashamed ...loads of people did it x

@ifyougochasingrabbits

agree

@JuneBridie

Wow even stooping to make assumptions about my home because I work in beauty ?? This makes me thick and common according to many of the Mumsnet snobs esp as I also used to do ...CLEANING (ugh)

Oh well I won't be losing any sleep over your sad opinions while doing a job I love and am paid very well for and affording private therapy and pretty much anything else I want

Oooh touched a nerve eh? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@ifyougochasingrabbits

you must have done some very quick training for such a career change…during lockdown as well…

@JuneBridie

Lol not not at all, water off a ducks back mate 👍🏻

it just makes me laugh how pathetic and snobby some people are. disagreeing with peoples views is one thing and completely to be expected on a discussion forum .

But making sweeping assumptions about their house due to their views / and / or job is ridiculous and says a lot about the person doing it, none of it good 😳

Not really it took about a year to fully train especially with the winter lockdowns delaying stuff.

@ifyougochasingrabbits

thought you had no money though?

Yeah, YABU, and selfish.

I met plenty of people like you during the height of it all, when I was heavily pregnant and looking to likely deliver my baby alone, and you're whining about wearing a mask outside.

I won't write what I want to say, I will say get the fuck over youself, and that's the politest I could muster.

Nah “hun”, you’re furious. You’ve ignored 95% of the responses on here because they challenged you and chosen to suck up and fawn all over the 5% who buy the shit you’re shovelling yet you’ll get your knickers in a bunch because I dared to say your decor is a bit déclassé 🤣🤣.