To not be over what happened to me during covid/lockdowns

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Just a few of the things I went through

Losing my cleaning business i had built up over years overnight due to everyone cancelling us

Being humiliated by the headteacher at DC school shouting at me in front of other parents because I refused to wear a mask outside . My little girl being made to start school late and finish late because I was unable to wear a mask to collect her (school run was all outside I may add and I had no problem wearing masks in shops etc but I drew the line at in the fresh air outside)

watching thousands of pounds of income disappear at an alarming rate. while wondering if we’d still have jobs and be able to keep the house we’d worked our arses off for for years to buy. Going through six months of trauma with H furloughed and depressed because his work could not guarantee he'd still have a job at the end of it. He was on half pay as furlough was only paid up to about 30k salary iirc and if you were on more it was employers discretion to pay the full salary which his work didn't. He was even applying for jobs at supermarkets and delivery driving etc and getting no where despite having a high level job at a major house builder.

Watching selfish morons stockpiling at the very beginning

“Friends” dumping me, one Cos I dared voice out loud that I wasn’t personally scared of covid and was struggling with restrictions and did not agree with them.

Having to deal with the fact that many of my (remaining) friends had views I completely don’t agree with and accepting they probably feel same about me.
And having to cope with the fact they supported restrictions that were destroying our lives and mental health

Having my business absolutely trashed all over social media and being called a dirty bitch and worse by local people. Fake bad reviews etc. The “reason” was they took exception to me saying on a local page post that I didn't believe in masks in school (this was due to my kids really struggling with them) My 14 year old said he agreed and some of them then found him on fb and messaged him insulted his looks and called him stupid and a fucking moron etc. This was actual grown adults.

a random person inboxed me on Facebook due to seeing my business ad and threatened to "smash my face in" because she thinks i was “endangering lives” by working

My neighbour reporting us to the police for having an illegal gathering. This "illegal gathering" was me, my H and our 3 dc having a bbq in the garden. Needless to say we all live together

Being put on medication for panic attacks and anxiety in fact I minimised it to the gp. I was actually suicidal and the only reason I am still here is because of my kids and the fact my husband and parents had the same views as me. But I would secretly hope to die in my sleep and almost every day I would wake up and cry because I was still here.

Watching my 3 Kids completely fall apart due to schools being closed. While not only having to deal with seeing posts all over fb about how well other kids were doing and coping doing all their work, managing great. And knowing some people I care about actually wanted schools shut. One of my kids is still very unwell mentally and it all started with lockdowns

Oh and to add final insult to injury, in November 2021 I had to pay £5700 (which was part credit card and part all of our savings) privately for an operation that should have been freely available on the nhs. But cos covid they could not give me a date and I was getting more and more poorly and could not wait.

I am still angry and maybe I should get over it. But I can't. And There's probably more but these are the stand out moments. I'm doing okay now and I have a new business and I'm doing well, H has a new job as he could not trust his old place after covid. but I've been very low again recently with the anniversary of it all

Well I am happy to tell you why i was scared.

I have an autoimmune condition and asthma. Having had many asthma attacks in my life the idea of dying from a respiratory disease was utterly terrifying for me.

I have a child with an auto immune issue, asthma and learning difficulties. The idea of him getting covid and possibly dying (and when it was revealed that some people with SEN had DNR orders put on them without consent) - well that all terrified me.

I have a father who lives on a different continent who was undergoing chemo. The thought that he might contract covid and die alone with me 24 hours away by plane and never being able to see him again was terrifying for me.

As it happened we all got covid and we were all fine (I got it after my 4th jab, DS got it after his 3rd, DF got it after his 4th) and I am so grateful for vaccines and medicines. I am grateful that for all of us we got through it. I understand and recognise that not everyone got through it, and that so many many people died or are siffering from long covid. I feel grateful for the good fortune we all had but I remember the days of fear and anxiety.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing. But covid was not fine for everyone - at first no-one really knew what we were dealing with and governments ans scientists globally were doing the best they could. It's all well and good for the people who think it was all a load of rubbish- what a luxury to have felt confident in that. For many of we did not have the luxury of being able to not be scared or else to be so dismissive.

My income was not affected but I feel empathy and sadness for those whose income was affected. I can feel empathy for anyone who had a tough time in any way due to covid. Personally I would like to think most of us can feel that- but not so sure sometimes.

OP, having read your other comments on the thread, I suspect your issue with relating to other people predated the pandemic. Perhaps have a think about that before you raise clones who also struggle with behaving decently around others.

And I am doubting how brave and ‘alternative’ you actually are. You can barely engage with anyone expressing a dissenting view here. You are just responding to those who agree with you.
Zero evidence of a subversive independent thinker!

Nobody knew better. Some people just chose not to be cowards

Lol. What the fuck is cowardly about trying not to catch a virus that might kill you?

Would you have had a one night stand in the 90s without a condom?

Yes, this about sums it up.

I don't know whether OP is genuine or not, but at least some of the people replying to her are, and they all know full well that we never had any evidence that masks outside did anything and that the headteacher had no more right to tell her to wear a mask on a public path than he did to tell her to go to the moon. Some of the stuff OP talks about here is dubious, but there is no legitimate opinion that can attach any blame at all to her over the masks. It's only the fault of the head.

We never really had this kind of behaviour near me. The school did send out a letter asking parents to wear masks while waiting outside, which only happened because some of the staff kicked off and the HT took the path of least resistance. They'd have certainly known better than to try and enforce it. It amazes me how much jumped up officious arseholing went on in some places. I'm glad I live in a rough area. That sort of stuff just didn't go on here because people have more sense.

What a heap of goady shit.

So why are you bleating on about how she was "forced" to stay late? She wasn't, you chose to make that happen. 🤷🏻‍♀️ all if needed was an eye roll and let them get on with it but here you are harbouring a grudge about it years later. Just weird.

Lol. What the fuck is cowardly about trying not to catch a virus that might kill you?

I don't really blame people for being initially scared. But when it went on and on... you'd hope that more would see sense.

Analogies generally amount to a False Comparison Fallacy, given that two situations are rarely completely analogous in all relevant respects. If someone offers an analogy rather than an actual explanation, you know they are desperate.

Well I think most people do now, but they just didn't according to your timeline.

Wtf.

Analogy literally means 'partially similar'. That's the point of analogies - they're not exactly the same.

100%.

I was going to respond to some points but they aren’t worth dignifying with a reply.

I have never seen so many self appointed experts on a subject that even the actual experts knew little or nothing about!!

I read a book years ago called 'Who moved my cheese' and its message really stayed with me. We have very little control over what happens in our lives - the only thing we have control over is how we respond. We can choose to resist, fight and argue with circumstances (and accept the consequences) or we can adapt and thrive (or if not thrive - survive).

I now try to let go of resistance to unwelcome changes/unhappy circumstances - and instead try to react to those situations as though as had chosen them. Accept, adapt and move forward as best as possible. It has helped my mental health.

I am sorry all these bad things happened to you - rather than dwell on it though I encourage you to accept and move forward.

The op is clearly one of these local community keyboard warrior dimbulbs who cherry pick bits of ideology to suit their own agenda and browbeat anyone with an alternative opinion to them. I’m not surprised she doesn’t have any friends. She sounds utterly exhausting.

PTSD is for a violent event from sexual abuse or violence .

Exposure to actual or threatened death, serious injury, or sexual violence in one (or more) of the following ways:

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207191/box/part1_ch3.box16/

Your poor daughter, having to feel different because mummy was making a stupid point.

Grow up and take responsibility for your own actions.

I am proud

No bloody need for biohazard tape in a loud play ground and even my little girl could see it

Visual fear theatrics in a primary school playground is not acceptable

Proud and unembarrassed... Glad I don't live anywhere near you.

You must have achieved ‘great things’ in your life if sheer bloodymindedness is a source of ‘pride’… 🙄

Agree. I think it's astonishing how prepared people are to accept rules made up by people with no authority and that had no scientific basis.

And I was broadly in support of lockdowns, they made sense epidemiologically. But that doesn't mean I blindly followed every bit of "guidance". There were plenty of good articles and discussions around the science and as things became clearer it was easy to make informed decisions.

I am proud

Well then that will have to be enough, won't it?

Excellent username for someone trapped at the very furthest reaches of a massive rabbit hole…

No, that was the school being stupidly stubborn, not the parent.

Bless... 😂

From what you’ve written, you are qualified as a cleaner and a beautician. But you know vastly more than all the scientists and medical professionals. Of course you do.

Whatever peoples view of covid restrictions, this “I’ve done my research” line from people with minimal education is utterly depressing.

I can see you haven’t responded to anyone who doesn’t agree with you so I will do the same courtesy and hide this thread so it doesn’t irritate me further.

I can only assume that your childrens schools think you are a massive PITA.

My dad died. We couldn’t have a funeral.

I hope you’re enjoying spending your afternoon laughing at posters who don’t agree with you, OP.