To not feel able to cook in my kitchen because it’s dirty

[WoIsMe]

My DH did the kitchen yesterday after dinner and this is what I find when I go to make my own breakfast and my kids’ lunches. I don’t feel that I can prepare food without cleaning up the kitchen first but I have to get my kids to school and get to a meeting at 9 a.m. while my DH has already gone out to work.

So, AIBU for feeling that I can’t cook in this kitchen without having to clean it first?

Well your original post was about how you could not cook in such a kitchen and would have to clean it but you had to get your kids to school and go to a meeting at nine.

you then proceeded to post images of a few crumbs and bits in the sink that would take seconds to deal with.

you then started posting about washing grapes and what happened if they dropped in said sink and asked if anyone would be happy to cook in such a shithole.

now we have moved to should I brush the crumbs away before making breakfast…

What a fucking palaver over nothing.

It actually took six minutes to wipe down the worktops, give the hob a quick once over and clean the sink. But I did make my 9 o'clock meeting so that's okay.

I'm sorry but you're being overly dramatic and a bit silly, too.
The amount of mess on the counters would take less than 5 minutes to wipe down. Even if you didn't you could cook and prep food on a clean plate, tray or chopping board and while the food is cooking you could pick the old food off the sink and scrub it with soap and hot water. You're being way over the top!
You could have given your children yogurt and fruit or cooked in the microwave some porridge or cold cereal. One of the silliest posts on MN ever .. HONESTLY!

I'd expect whoever made that mess to tidy it up after themselves. It's a 5minute job and I wouldn't be happy preparing food on dirty sides either op.

Yes, I would wipe the surfaces down before cooking. Yes, I would roll my eyes at the fact it hadn't been wiped down properly. I might or might not comment on it to DH.
It's not awful, which I what I was imagining from your description.

So... yes, he should have done it but it's such a minor issue that I can't believe someone would post about it rather than wipe it down, move on with the day and then just speak to their partner later.

Mountain out of a mole hill.

Wow. That’s some slow work right there. You must have been going at it some. How long does it take you to clean the bathroom? 😂

To answer your actual question, yes I would clean it before cooking/ preparing food. And I would be annoyed if DP said he’d cleaned and that’s how I actually found it.

6 minutes to literally wipe some crumbs away? Ok.

Six minutes 😂 I don’t know what I’m finding weirder about this, that you care enough to make a post on mumsnet about this complete with three photos, or that you actually took note of how long it took you to clear up. Fwiw I would’ve wiped the sides down too and given the sink a clean before starting but what a palaver about nothing.

You lost me at "washing grapes"

I like your tablecloth <misses point>.

Seriously, you're not using the sink or cooker to prep lunch. It would take you five mins to clean. YABU.

Much ado about nothing … again!

But it gives us something to read and smile about.

People saying the OP is dramatic: in isolation, perhaps.

But this is probably indicative of a man who does a half-arsed job when it comes to cleaning because he thinks it’s beneath him/strategic incompetence/resentful when it’s ‘women’s work’, etc. When you clean the kitchen, you don’t leave shit in the sink and you wipe down the sides. That’s basic. But he doesn’t bother.

I expect this is more of a bigger picture, “she left me for leaving a glass by the kitchen sink” job.

Yeah I timed it because of the people saying it would take seconds to clean up. Gas hobs are a faff to clean and the sink was, to be fair, pretty awful. All I did was spray antibac on to the surfaces and hob and wipe them down, then clear the food out of the sink and bleach it.

As an adult your husband should know how to clean the kitchen properly - you said he 'did the kitchen' yesterday, i'm wondering what exactly he did going off the pictures?

Some major leaps there. 😂

Honestly never bleached anything (apart from black mould) in my life.

75% have voted YABU.

I would never be able to live with you - must be stressful if something this minor has upset you so much! I have crumbs in my own kitchen in the mornings because I'm in a rush for work and prefer wiping it up in the evening before making dinner. And sometimes i cba and would just cook with crumbs irrespective and just clean it all down at one time. I rarely fall sick so it's not a hygiene issue. To me I can spend time worrying about a little dirt or clutter or doing more interesting things with my time. Once you realise how robust the human body is at dealing with dirt and dust (and crumbs) - life really begins.

You clearly have very high cleaning standards, I don't clean the hob between every cooking session - or worry about a few crumbs. Nor would I wash grapes. Six minutes to clean that up .

You probably wouldn't want to eat at my house - no wonder so many Mumsnetters seem to get so het up about cleaning if they can't cope with a few crumbs.

Having seen the pictures YABU, wipe away a few crumbs and off you go!

We have a rule on our house - whoever cooks doesn't clean up. My husband is the only cook (I'm banned after I set the kitchen on fire) (oops).

He makes a right mess when he cooks - he likes throwing food up the walls. Your husband seems quite tidy in comparison!

I stick a bit down the loo every now and then but that’s it. Bleach a sink? No way.