Would it BU to ask if it’s ok to do this at my daughters school?

[FamilyBusiness]

Hi all, it’s my little ones birthday in April, she will be six. Her birthday falls on a day she’s in school. My oldest son (10) is in same school, he is booked in for a feeding tube to be fitted (Cystic Fibrosis related) on the 18th of April. So we will be celebrating my daughters birthday a week early. But, WIBU to ask their school if I could pay for an educational animal visit for my daughter & her whole class for her birthday it’s a one hour visit.

As she has Autism & is going to be distraught that her brother is going in hospital (I’m dreading it) & I think it would really cheer her up & take her mind off it especially going in to school on her Bday knowing her brother isn’t there that day. Even though we will be celebrating together the week before, he will be in hospital at the time & so she won’t see him in school that day.

I don’t want to email the headteacher if it’s a bad idea, it will be an educational visit with bunny’s, birds, insects, etc etc. Thanks

Sorry OP, hadn't read your last update! Great news! I hope your DD and the rest of the class have a brilliant time and I hope everything does well for your DS in hospital x

@FamilyBusiness - delighted to hear this to piss off all the fun sponges on this thread apart from anything else
Sadly Lady GaGa (the tarantula who saved the day for my DS as I mentioned up thread) might no longer be with us but I’m sure your DD will have a lovely time and it will be a great distraction. Animals are wonderful therapy in difficult times. All the very best with it all

Goodness, what is wrong with people? The OP is not a teacher and had a nice idea which she wanted to run by others. That is all.

Her daughter has autism and struggles when her brother is admitted to hospital. Her son has cystic fibrosis which is an illness with an uncertain future. Have a heart.

I understand OP that you wanted your daughter to have a nice day at school on her birthday. Good for you.

I would not dream of complaining as another parent. Ugh. And I would help my kids understand too.

You sound like a great mum and I hope you get to spend some time with your daughter on her birthday and I wish your son a good recovery from the procedure.

Oh I posted too soon. I am so happy to read this. Well done!!

You and lots of other posters are looking pretty stupid now

Always a good idea to read the OPs posts even if you can't be bothered with all the others

Op I think it's lovely you're thinking outside the box like that.

But I don't think it's appropriate. It will put extra work on the school with all the paperwork etc, and what last one hour at 6 req prob 20 minutes beforehand getting them all ready, the min least the same getting them settled again. So a session 10-11 means more like 9.40-11.12 which is most of the morning

Ah I missed an update, I'm happy they've agreed x

Oh do bog off.

It's not a hijack, it's an offer.

It's not the school, it's a class

It's not a out her darlings birthday, it's about trying to do something nice for a little girl who is distraught her big brother is going into hospital on her birthday.

School have said yes so obviously see it as a kind offer

The ops narrative has changed a lot.She is now making a donation to fund a trip which had already been arranged by the school.That is a mile different from her op which was basically holding her dds birthday party in school time.

No. The school have seen the chance to save money y letting op pay. At no point did op mention a party, or any of the accompaniments that would make it a party. It's an educational visit not a trip to soft play.

Great. I'm so pleased OP.

Just ask! They may be very happy to have someone else cover the costs of such an interesting hour.

I have friends who run such a service and regularly go into schools, the kids and the parents love it, and it is as you say, a learning experience. It's not just a "hug a bunny" session, they teach them a bout the animals and their needs etc.

Brilliant idea!

Apologies, should have read to the end to see that it is happening. I'm so glad, and sure it will be a very memorable experience for all concerned.

The narrative hasn’t changed at all. She isn’t making a donation. There is no trip. Nothing had already been organised by the school. There was never any intention to hold a party in school time.

It's a lovely idea, but I think it should be done in your own time/place, at a party that you have organised.
Hope your son is ok and that your daughter has a great birthday!

Well, the school doesn’t agree with you and are more than happy to get an animal group in for the pupils without having to pay their normal fee.

It has changed. OP said:
They said it is fine to pay for just her class as they are due a visit from them in the upcoming months anyway & are grateful I will be paying
So there is already a visit from this group planned on some other date and OP is now covering the cost of that rather than it being on her daughter's birthday

No, they are coming on or about her birthday. They would have come in the future at some point, but now of course there’s no need. This animal group is a regular visitor to the school.

I'm so pleased you asked and it all worked out for you op, I hope your dd has a lovely birthday and your ds' op goes well.

I think this is wonderful and I’m so glad that the school agreed. It’s so important for siblings of kids with chronic conditions to have their own celebrations too, and it’ll allow you to focus more on your son knowing that your daughter has such an exciting event to look forward to. Fab for the school that you’re paying, too.

Ignore some of the awful comments on here, you sound like a wonderful mum and a thoughtful person. I hope your DD has a wonderful day and that your DS recovers well.

Blimey there are some miserable sinners on this thread. The OP made it clear that these animal visits have happened before at the school so it’s obviously something the school is happy with. Why do people seem so angry at the suggestion? Just so unpleasant, I do feel sorry for their children having to live with such miseries.

Glad it’s going ahead OP.

This is such a lovely idea! Please don’t let all the harsh comments put you off.. my son in year 1 had something similar only a vet came to the school with some staff members and taught them about pets and they brought in a dog with them the kids loved it!

ask for permission the worst they can say is no🤷‍♀️.. xx