DH ate extra lasagne and didn’t tell me

[Lolabear38]

I’m currently at home with 2 poorly DCs. We are all getting cabin fever so I may be over reacting a little here.

Yesterday I made a big lasagne for our tea. We had it with salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread so it was a substantial meal. There was enough leftover for us to have tonight (planned). I said as much to DH and he said ok fine, he said liked it a lot so was happy to have it again tonight.

I went to bed before DH last night and, unbeknown to me, he had another portion of the lasagne and didn’t say anything to me. Normally not an issue but as I said I was planning on us having it tonight too.

Today has been a hard day with the kids but I thought ‘oh at least dinner is sorted’ except when I went to get the lasagne I was bloody annoyed to see we were one portion down! I hadn’t looked at it all day today as when I put it in the fridge last night there was plenty.

DH was working later tonight so DC and I ate before he got home. I considered giving everyone a smaller portion but then I thought, f$&@ it, we’re having a normal portion and DH can have whatever is left, which is a lot less than he usually would have. He’s now home and very annoyed and thinks I’m selfish and somehow food shaming him for eating the extra last night. He said I should have left him enough, but as far as I’m concerned I did last night!

There is plenty of bread/ baked beans etc. for him to make himself something else but AIBU to be annoyed and not to have left him enough tonight?

I didn't know they had mobile phones in the 1950s before women realised it wasn't their responsibility to ensure that adult men had access to ready to eat food whenever they wanted without having to put any thought or effort into preparing it.

Take a deep breath.

You’re getting tetchy about a response a stranger gave to a question posted on a forum that is primarily targeted at mums. The question was about someone covertly helping themselves to an extra portion of lasagna.

I sense I’m probably not as emotionally invested in this thread as you are, Richard. Do try to let it go x.

You are right. He is wrong, wrong, wrong. Show him this thread.

As for sacrificing lasagne for a crisp sandwich, Jesus wept...

Anyone else planning lasagne for dinner now?

You missed out knobhead. Which is what you sound like.

Quite!

(But I’ve been told off for making that same observation 😂).

Sounds like you are quite overly invested tbh 🤣

I think this interesting post deserves its own thread so we can watch the light gradually dawning in their sleepy eyes……

All that's intriguing me is that OP has a dish big enough to hold eight portions of lasagne . Are the portions teeny weeny ? If not , please direct me to where huge bowls can also be bought to hold the massive salads that we MNers eat .

"Oh you pigged the lasagne after dinner last night, never mind darling I'll make you an omelette tonight." or "just realised you ate tonight's dinner last night, please can you pick up something for yourself on your way home.".

I can't see it as a big deal.

Why would he need to be told this?

He already knew the plans for the next night's dinner and knew he had eaten his portion a day early.

God, what have we all become 😱😱😱?!

I might have lasagne but have given up the ghost as far as corn on the cob is concerned.

I can never make myself like it. God knows I've tried.

I’ve NC’d for this but it’s lasagne. Just throw some chips in and have a smaller portion. You’re rowing over lasagne! And now you’re posting online about…lasagne.

I am going to have loads of people having a go at me about this and tell me that your feelings are valid and it’s not really about this and why should you add chips and so on. But please, see the bigger picture in life. It’s a lasagne.

I wish my partner were here to eat extra lasagne.

Finally. An OP with a backbone. Well done.

I disagree, they are not actually arguing over Lasagna, they are arguing over his selfish attitude.

Well we nearly have a full house now.

Those who think the OP should have let DH have her/DC lasagne

Those questioning the serving of corn on the cob

The 'I wish my partner was here to eat extra lasagne' irrelevent guilt tripping

We only need someone to berate the OP for double carbing and how her failure to ensure that the accompanying salad was massive enough is the cause of all this and we'll have a full MN bingo house.

Cringe. These kinds of replies are the worst.

Surely, the husband is the one who should have put some thought into what he might eat the next night, as he secretly scoffed his portion the night before! What did he think was going to happen - that it was going to magically reappear on the dish?

You did leave enough for him. It’s not your fault he ate it yesterday.

He’s an adult. I’m sure he knows where the kitchen is to get something else to make up for the smaller lasagne portion.

Er yeah, he ate his dinner last night, he can make some more. If Dh did that he’s just sort himself out not whinge about it. He certainly wouldn’t expect me and Dd to go hungry so he can have his man sized portion 🙄.

Is there some sort of pandemic of stupidity amongst men atm. Every time I open a thread at the moment. I just think “what a dickhead”. Mean selfish and stupid.

I wish my partner were here to eat extra lasagne.

Oh, ffs.

If he’d already eaten a normal sized dinner with the family, why on earth did he need to eat a second portion before bedtime? Surely a light snack should have been sufficient (or a bloody crisp sandwich)?

Is he overweight and eating through boredom rather than actual hunger, unaware of sensible portion sizes, like those people on the TV programme, Supersize v Superskinny? 🤔

OP was not BU. I rarely cook for my DH as he’s a fussy eater so I’m not pandering to that nonsense.

It's the blaming of Op for something that was his fault that's so horrible.

If I've cooked for everyone & there's enough left for another night so that I don't have to cook too fucking right they can't have any more or if they do they get their own meal the next night.

The whole point was Op having a night off from cooking!

I suppose it would've been nicer to give him a heads up so he could've sorted something extra out for himself by nipping to the shop or something on the way home though

He's the one who ate it and didn't tell OP. He knew he ate it and didn't have a problem with not telling her. She's supposed to warn him...that he ate the food she was planning on serving?

I'm confused here. Are you're suggesting that if the OP wasn't stressed and hungry having looked after 2 poorly kids and also having already discussed they were having leftovers for the second meal with her DH, should have, after realising that he ate his portion of the second meal on the night it was first served, been nice to him and said "I can see that you've already eaten your portion of tonight's dinner. You'll have to sort something out for yourself", which to most grown adults would be stating the bleeding obvious? 🤔

She also said that there was plenty of other food in the house, just not cooked, so he would have to cook some beans on toast or something else, but instead pulled the mealy mouth and tried to make the OP feel bad.

@Lolabear38 - You definitely did the right thing by serving up the correct size portions for meal #2. Next time, if your DH is hungry after his dinner, he can learn to fix himself some beans on toast for the snack (instead of helping himself to the second night's dinner).