DH ate extra lasagne and didn’t tell me

[Lolabear38]

I’m currently at home with 2 poorly DCs. We are all getting cabin fever so I may be over reacting a little here.

Yesterday I made a big lasagne for our tea. We had it with salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread so it was a substantial meal. There was enough leftover for us to have tonight (planned). I said as much to DH and he said ok fine, he said liked it a lot so was happy to have it again tonight.

I went to bed before DH last night and, unbeknown to me, he had another portion of the lasagne and didn’t say anything to me. Normally not an issue but as I said I was planning on us having it tonight too.

Today has been a hard day with the kids but I thought ‘oh at least dinner is sorted’ except when I went to get the lasagne I was bloody annoyed to see we were one portion down! I hadn’t looked at it all day today as when I put it in the fridge last night there was plenty.

DH was working later tonight so DC and I ate before he got home. I considered giving everyone a smaller portion but then I thought, f$&@ it, we’re having a normal portion and DH can have whatever is left, which is a lot less than he usually would have. He’s now home and very annoyed and thinks I’m selfish and somehow food shaming him for eating the extra last night. He said I should have left him enough, but as far as I’m concerned I did last night!

There is plenty of bread/ baked beans etc. for him to make himself something else but AIBU to be annoyed and not to have left him enough tonight?

Did he let you know he had a 2nd helping.

Please tell me you're being sarcastic?

I'm no longer sure which posters are on a wind up!

It perfectly normal to reheat food the next day. Or the next day.
Its not normal to have a go at people who do so.

Bwahaha... sent DP to rummage for some scratch made, frozen, Shepherds Pie.

Still want to know what @tunamayo81 thinks frozen food you can bung in the oven is if not pre-cooked, frozen, then reheated, food.

Fat git pigged out last night so it serves him right he could have had a packet of crisps piece of fruit but he chose tonight’s tea he can’t have it always 😂😂😂

I had reheated lasagne for lunch today. I swear I could have sold it three times over, as people smelled it and rather wished it was their meal.

Some of my favourite meals as a child was lunch the next day - fish pie, shepherds pie, macaroni cheese heated up.

Some foods taste so much better when they've been allowed to rest and been reheated.

But reheated food is lazy? Why? It's fresh food that was made with the same ingredients, later reheated within a safe and healthy time, and enjoyed again - often even more than the first time!

And yes, increasingly, cost is a factor for many, in this time. If you eat extra, that can mean others may have to go without. That's not cool. That is very, very, selfish. Particularly if you're not the one doing the meal planning, and expending the energy cooking. I'd maybe excuse it (once) for a teenager, but not for a co-parent, who should be more aware, and also appreciative of the food being planned and cooked for the family.

I'm going to have to make a lasagne this weekend now, wasn't expecting that.

Perfect! 😊

Thank you @TaLooLaBell & @ReneBumsWombats
I shall lick the dish too
Waste not want not as my Nana used to say

OP, YANBU. Some of the responses on here though... fucking hell

You're 48 hours late...

It’s family life.
He was obviously still hungry. As you said there was easy access to other food that you could have spread through the lasagna.

Lesson learned is give your husband a decent portion and also keep some beans handy just in case.

I think you are being unreasonable. I’m in exactly the same position at home with ill kids. Husband working his arse off. He is entitled to eat. Getting in knackered from work he should have something to eat !!! So what he ate more last night. Don’t be so lazy and make him something else. People wonder why their relationships fail and I see everyone supporting you !!

You are also 48 hours late...

The poster having a go at OP for feeding her kids next day leftovers: next day leftovers are banging. Everything taste better the next day and not having to cook again is brilliant. Leftover Chinese takeaway for breakfast is the absolute best. You’re the odd one PP, both for not wanting reheated food, and for displaying your emotional issues so blatantly on the Internet.

Yes, if only they're had been beans in the house... he could've then had beans on toast!

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Why should she make him something? He can make his own food (and has. Funnily
enough the thread has moved on after 34 pages and even more hours).

My husband would never expect me to make him an extra meal if this situation arose. He would just want to the know the kids were ok and fed. Been together 31 years.

*their! Not they're!

*there not they're!

Great user name though.

48 hours plus about seventy years.

@2013isback great comment! I applaud 👏 you!

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Well done tunamayo81 you sanctimonious, privileged for making poor folk feel like shit

There’s always leftovers in our fridge and dh eyes then up but he ALWAYS whatsapps me to check there aren’t plans for them. For example we eat later than the DCs but often the DCs get our tea from the previous night warmed up.

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