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DH ate extra lasagne and didn’t tell me

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Lolabear38 · 21/03/2023 23:01

I’m currently at home with 2 poorly DCs. We are all getting cabin fever so I may be over reacting a little here.

Yesterday I made a big lasagne for our tea. We had it with salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread so it was a substantial meal. There was enough leftover for us to have tonight (planned). I said as much to DH and he said ok fine, he said liked it a lot so was happy to have it again tonight.

I went to bed before DH last night and, unbeknown to me, he had another portion of the lasagne and didn’t say anything to me. Normally not an issue but as I said I was planning on us having it tonight too.

Today has been a hard day with the kids but I thought ‘oh at least dinner is sorted’ except when I went to get the lasagne I was bloody annoyed to see we were one portion down! I hadn’t looked at it all day today as when I put it in the fridge last night there was plenty.

DH was working later tonight so DC and I ate before he got home. I considered giving everyone a smaller portion but then I thought, f$&@ it, we’re having a normal portion and DH can have whatever is left, which is a lot less than he usually would have. He’s now home and very annoyed and thinks I’m selfish and somehow food shaming him for eating the extra last night. He said I should have left him enough, but as far as I’m concerned I did last night!

There is plenty of bread/ baked beans etc. for him to make himself something else but AIBU to be annoyed and not to have left him enough tonight?

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DizzyLizzyKizzy · 23/03/2023 18:10

DizzyLizzyKizzy · 23/03/2023 18:09

@tunamayo81 shouldn't you be good prepping around this time?

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Lolabear38 · 23/03/2023 18:10

Well geez, this thread took an unexpected turn 😂 I posted originally to vent and in true MN style it’s taken on a life of its own! Thanks for all the laughs though!

An update for those who asked… DH made himself beans on toast. He said it was nice but he would have preferred more lasagne, I told him he could have had more lasagne if he hadn’t have eaten it the night before. He thought about it for a minute and then agreed. The end.

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masterblaster · 23/03/2023 18:12

He will expect there to be some food, given that you have had all day to sort something and he has not, because he has been working.

BitOutOfPractice · 23/03/2023 18:13

Damn you @Lolabear38 I was hoping for far more drama than that! 😬

it’s truly been a eye opening thread hasn’t it?

I hope the kids are better by the way

adriftinadenofvipers · 23/03/2023 18:13

tunamayo81 · 23/03/2023 16:07

It’s not squeamishness, I think giving children reheated food is appalling behaviour.
You either can’t afford to or are too lazy to cook every day! Sorry if my cooking fresh meals is triggering for you!

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You're completely off your rocker.... not to mention smug and self-satisfied. God!

What is appalling though is your rudeness.

YearsOfStagnation · 23/03/2023 18:14

Lolabear38 · 23/03/2023 18:10

Well geez, this thread took an unexpected turn 😂 I posted originally to vent and in true MN style it’s taken on a life of its own! Thanks for all the laughs though!

An update for those who asked… DH made himself beans on toast. He said it was nice but he would have preferred more lasagne, I told him he could have had more lasagne if he hadn’t have eaten it the night before. He thought about it for a minute and then agreed. The end.

You can’t end this thread with such a reasonable and low-drama finale. Absolutely unacceptable.

Mumof3andshattered · 23/03/2023 18:14

Lolabear38 · 23/03/2023 18:10

Well geez, this thread took an unexpected turn 😂 I posted originally to vent and in true MN style it’s taken on a life of its own! Thanks for all the laughs though!

An update for those who asked… DH made himself beans on toast. He said it was nice but he would have preferred more lasagne, I told him he could have had more lasagne if he hadn’t have eaten it the night before. He thought about it for a minute and then agreed. The end.

That's not what you said in your original post. You said he was annoyed...not that he quickly got over it and agreed with your point of view.

Maybe just tell the truth in future

amassiveoverthinker · 23/03/2023 18:14

I would of done the same , totally right what you done. It was selfish of him to eat more last night when if hungry he could of made a sandwich. He knew it was dinner tonight!

ThreeRingCircus · 23/03/2023 18:19

I think reheating food is lazy and it’s just generally not a very nice thing to do. I don’t have to justify that.

I think you're just purposefully trolling now. At least, I hope you are. Surely nobody can be this stupid?

Tarantallegra · 23/03/2023 18:19

Disappointed that the update wasn't that the DH had a crisp butty. Pleased to discover that I'm an appalling mother though, might get that on a t shirt

Newhousewhodis · 23/03/2023 18:19

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You don’t believe i have a job and am not on benefits because i cook from fresh everyday?

No, I don’t believe your waste is minimal. Your reading comprehension is not great. 😂

The rest of that comment is, like your previous comments, unhinged.

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/03/2023 18:19

I am glad there is a resolution from the OP.

However I am now here to find out what Ms 'reheating food is appalling' actually cooks.

Because if she is cooking fresh, from scratch each day, then she can hardly grab something from the freezer to chuck in the oven.

If she is cooking each day, but this is frozen things, then many of those items are already pre-cooked, partly or completely and she is in fact, appallingly... reheating.

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Lolabear38 · 23/03/2023 18:21

Mumof3andshattered · 23/03/2023 18:14

That's not what you said in your original post. You said he was annoyed...not that he quickly got over it and agreed with your point of view.

Maybe just tell the truth in future

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@Mumof3andshattered Eh?

He was annoyed. And I wrote the post when he was annoyed. Later on that night, when we talked he said what I wrote above. What’s wrong with you?!

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tunamayo81 · 23/03/2023 17:54

There’s absolutely no reason for strangers on the internet to care whether i throw away a small amount of excess food. Any excess goes in our compost bin. There’s no issue with that at all. They are either resentful because i can be bothered to cook and they can’t and that makes them feel guilty or they are being hateful because they can’t afford it. Why should I put up with that? I don’t care what people can or can’t afford, that’s not my business, but i do care when they are calling me names and attacking me.

I think reheating food is lazy and it’s just generally not a very nice thing to do. I don’t have to justify that.

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I really hope you don't compost cooked foods or meats...

Newhousewhodis · 23/03/2023 18:21

LovelyIssues · 23/03/2023 17:48

Way over the top reaction OP. Sorry get a grip

What over the top reaction are you referring to? OP didn’t do or say anything, her husband is the one who kicked off.

adriftinadenofvipers · 23/03/2023 18:21

@tunamayo81 you get more unhinged in every post - "They are either resentful because i can be bothered to cook and they can’t and that makes them feel guilty or they are being hateful because they can’t afford it. "

I'm neither of the above, just grateful not to be this batshit crazy and downright insulting.

JillinSwindon · 23/03/2023 18:21

Not being unreasonable - but perhaps overreacting a little bit!

Mumof3andshattered · 23/03/2023 18:25

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Newhousewhodis · 23/03/2023 18:25

tunamayo81 · 23/03/2023 17:54

There’s absolutely no reason for strangers on the internet to care whether i throw away a small amount of excess food. Any excess goes in our compost bin. There’s no issue with that at all. They are either resentful because i can be bothered to cook and they can’t and that makes them feel guilty or they are being hateful because they can’t afford it. Why should I put up with that? I don’t care what people can or can’t afford, that’s not my business, but i do care when they are calling me names and attacking me.

I think reheating food is lazy and it’s just generally not a very nice thing to do. I don’t have to justify that.

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i have a lot of life experience and am blessed with perspective, as I know what real problems are.

Proceeds to be insane on an anonymous forum; then repeatedly lose her shit when said insanity is pointed out. #blessed 😂

I’m really enjoying you, @tunamayo81.

Belleoverandover · 23/03/2023 18:26

Nope he's the inconsiderate one and he's quite capable of making something else. My OH is like that and would scoff a whole packet of chocolate biscuits meant for everyone in one night because he was 'hungry'

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Lolabear38 · 23/03/2023 18:28

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@Mumof3andshattered not backtracking at all. It’s exactly how it happened. You have a good day now and hope you get some more sleep tonight, it might help you think about things more rationally in the morning.

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WiddlinDiddlin · 23/03/2023 18:29

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Adds up perfectly to me... post whilst irritated, in the moment. Discuss later on, updates thread.

Maybe your maths is wonky, or you live in an alternate reality whereby a situation remains exactly the same once you've posted, and no time passes at all...

Advise not leaping to bizarre conclusions on other peoples threads in future... makes you come across a bit of a tit.

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 23/03/2023 18:29

I would have separated last piece into three as he’s already had his piece.

adriftinadenofvipers · 23/03/2023 18:31

Newhousewhodis · 23/03/2023 18:25

i have a lot of life experience and am blessed with perspective, as I know what real problems are.

Proceeds to be insane on an anonymous forum; then repeatedly lose her shit when said insanity is pointed out. #blessed 😂

I’m really enjoying you, @tunamayo81.

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Same - it's making me smile!!!

Mayonnaise is pretty thick too.

YearsOfStagnation · 23/03/2023 18:31

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The OP is not back tracking. She has been one of the least attention-seeking on the thread. Are we reading different things?

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