DH ate extra lasagne and didn’t tell me

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I’m currently at home with 2 poorly DCs. We are all getting cabin fever so I may be over reacting a little here.

Yesterday I made a big lasagne for our tea. We had it with salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread so it was a substantial meal. There was enough leftover for us to have tonight (planned). I said as much to DH and he said ok fine, he said liked it a lot so was happy to have it again tonight.

I went to bed before DH last night and, unbeknown to me, he had another portion of the lasagne and didn’t say anything to me. Normally not an issue but as I said I was planning on us having it tonight too.

Today has been a hard day with the kids but I thought ‘oh at least dinner is sorted’ except when I went to get the lasagne I was bloody annoyed to see we were one portion down! I hadn’t looked at it all day today as when I put it in the fridge last night there was plenty.

DH was working later tonight so DC and I ate before he got home. I considered giving everyone a smaller portion but then I thought, f$&@ it, we’re having a normal portion and DH can have whatever is left, which is a lot less than he usually would have. He’s now home and very annoyed and thinks I’m selfish and somehow food shaming him for eating the extra last night. He said I should have left him enough, but as far as I’m concerned I did last night!

There is plenty of bread/ baked beans etc. for him to make himself something else but AIBU to be annoyed and not to have left him enough tonight?

Mayonnaise is pretty thick too.

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Definitely not unreasonable. There's quite a bit of work in a lasagne and you deserve two days out of it especially when under pressure!

Says the woman crying over lasagna .

Story 1 ) angry, annoyed, calls me selfish, says I'm shaming him

Story 2 ) made himself beans and agreed with everything I said

back in the day a terror of leftovers is the kind of thing that would have the GP prescribing someone a fortnight by the seaside. for their nerves.

As a few people have said, the first reaction was unreasonable annoyance, and the second later on was the update after talking more. Not sure what you’re taking issue with.

Glad it's sorted OP.

You either can’t afford to or are too lazy to cook every day!

I am neither, but I hate cooking so doing two lots of bolognaise and freezing one lot for another meal means less prep. Yay.

This thread has become gloriously batshitty.

Jeez, I popped back to see what had happened and it's turned into LasagneGate! I reheat food all the time. Food my mum's given me, or my siblings, or I've cooked or my husband's cooked. In this day and age, it's not risky to reheat food, and also better than throwing it away. Also, I totally get OP's annoyance. Every day it's the same question, right, 'what's for dinner?'! If you know dinner is already sorted for that evening, no brain power or planning needed. OP, I guess you must make a mean lasagne if hubby went back for second helpings! 😂

Batch cooking IS cooking from scratch, @tunamayo81 - and it can be more energy efficient - one big batch of ragu and one big batch of sauce for a lasagne will use less energy than making two smaller batches of each. Plus you can make use of economies of scale - bigger packs of things tend to cost less per 100g.

And it uses less of the person’s time and energy - something that doesn’t matter to you, but does matter to other people - maybe they need to get a meal onto the table quickly after taking their children to a club or sports practice, or they work and want something easy but healthy to put on the table when they get in. Or maybe they want/need to free up time for other things - helping with homework, doing their own hobbies, for example.

It is absolute nonsense to insist that batch cooked food that is reheated on the second day is not exactly as healthy and virtuous as your cooked from scratch at teatime food!

Same story, my love. It took place over the course of an entire evening, not in one 10 minute time frame so yes, feelings and emotions changed. I’m sorry the update is disappointing.

Why don’t you tell us what’s really the matter? Something is obviously upsetting you, maybe someone on this thread can help?

He really does not sound that intelligent. I would find it hard to respect this entitled man-child.

So your immediate reaction to being upset about lasagna was to get on mumsnet and whine to strangers ?

@Mumof3andshattered give it a rest, you’re embarrassing yourself.

wow I went to check an update on this and it had gone completely off any where I thought it could have :).

OP happy you and dh made up and I would have reacted like you

Jeez, this thread sure has attracted some nutters.

Well done OP. I would happily eat your reheated lasagne.

I've no idea why the divorce rate is so high in this country....

You're wasting your time Ktime, reading comprehension clearly isn't her strong suit

@NetZeroZealot hasn't it just!

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You win if you did garlic bread too.

I put some in a box for tomorrow but I see that is DISGUSTING apparently

@Fluffodils you're going to eat reheated lasagne "faints" !

I didn't do garlic bread 😢.

And pizza

Fair enough

Of all the things in this world you could find appalling, I'm not sure reheating food should be one 🥴

There are some absolutely unhinged individuals on mumsnet.

@Mumof3andshattered Jeez, calm down